There are no desperate situations in this world, only people who are desperate for their situations.
If a person is completely desperate for life, then no one can save him, and if a person has always had hope for life, then even if he is at the low point of life and suffers a lot, he will still get back on his feet.
In fact, as long as you don't give up easily, fate will not easily knock people down, and the so-called tribulations are nothing more than paper tigers.
The most terrible thing about a person's life is not poverty and loneliness, but despair of life.
Poverty can make a person suffer in material life, loneliness will torment a person's heart, and despair can completely destroy a person's body and mind.
The French writer Camus once said: "There is only one case in which despair is complete, and that is the sentence of death." ”
Except for death, as long as you are alive, everything is hopeful.
Sometimes reality is harsh, even if you devote yourself to one thing and work hard for it for a long time, it is still a common thing to end up with no improvement, but if you define life as gray because of this, it is very wrong.
No one's life can only be defined by one thing to define good or bad, when the road ahead is not working, we may as well try to turn a corner, as long as the direction is right, the goal is clear, and it is not impossible to take a few more steps.
People who have always held hope in their hearts will have the motivation to persevere when they encounter difficulties, will they have the opportunity to survive in a desperate situation, and only then will there be a situation of reversing the situation.
And when you feel desperate for a certain situation, even if there is a glimmer of possibility, you will not go all out, or even ignore it, because your heart has already sentenced everything to death.
I once saw such a short story:
The two brothers went out in business together. However, the sky is unpredictable, the two are robbed by thieves halfway, the money is empty, at this moment, the future is bleak, they are desperate.
There are well-meaning people who instruct them to seek help from the Zen Master. The two immediately went to the Great Buddha Temple, knelt down in front of Master Zhi Zen, and told Master Zhi Zen all about the robbery of the evil people halfway.
Zen Master Zhi asked, "You two must be desperate?" ”
They both nodded.
Master Zhi Zen asked again, "Can the looted money come back on its own?" ”
They shook their heads.
Master Zhi Zen said, "Then, at this time you only have two paths to choose from, one is despair, and the other is hope." If you choose the former, then the evil people will take away not only your money and things, but also your spirit, then the price of loss will be greater; if you choose the latter, then the evil people will take away only a little money, as long as you have hope in your hearts, everything can be repeated. ”
Later, when Master Zhi Zen learned that the two knew carpentry, he left them in the temple to repair the old wooden niches, doors and windows.
A few days later, Master Zhi Zen gave them a coil to go home, and the two were very grateful.
Master Zhi Zen simply said quietly, "This is the reward you deserve." As long as hope is chosen, there must be a way forward. ”
No matter what we encounter, there are only two choices, either hope or despair, those who choose despair will eventually get despair, and those who choose hope will have the opportunity to turn against the wind.
In the vast majority of cases, despair does not form overnight, but gradually accumulates over time.
After the effort, but not recognized, holding the heart but not cherished, the beginning of hope again and again, and finally ended with disappointment again and again, so that I no longer believed in myself, no longer had any hope.
The Argentine writer Borges wrote in his book The Library of Babel: "Excessive hope naturally produces extreme disappointment." ”
Therefore, no matter what we do, we should seek truth from facts and judge the possible results according to our own capabilities.
The pursuit of things outside the scope of ability is nothing but delusion, and if the delusion is not removed, your self-confidence will gradually collapse after repeated failures.
The most terrible thing about a person's life is not poverty and loneliness, but despair of life, and once completely desperate, living is like a walking dead.
The best way to defeat despair is to know yourself correctly.
If we only live in the expectations of others, never stop to listen to the inner voice, never think of following the inner thoughts, then no matter how confident we are, we will embark on the road of despair.
In this world, not everyone is friendly to others, no matter how good you are, there are always people who are not satisfied with you, they like to pick bones in the egg, grasp your little problem and not let go.
In the book Accepting Another Imperfect Self, there is this passage:
"If a person doesn't have a goal of giving and his efforts aren't recognized by others, then his efforts are meaningless because not getting recognition is a frustrating thing." In the value of life, people who do not give and do not cooperate are not needed, then they are worthless. ”
Living in the expectations of others, your efforts are easy not to be recognized by others, and in the long run, you will become less and less confident, and even no longer have hope for anything.
Only by knowing yourself correctly can you judge the probability of success of a thing according to your ability, neither giving yourself extra hope nor generating annoying despair.
Setbacks and difficulties are just small episodes on the road to growth, there are still many meaningful things in life waiting for us to complete, there are still many landscapes waiting for us to appreciate, I hope that we can always be full of hope for life, looking forward to the beauty of every day.
I am Aya, a warm-hearted emotional writer, and I am so fortunate to meet you in this life! Click a note, let's grow knowledge together!
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