Hello everyone, I am a radium brother who advocates "everyone is like a dragon", a point of view and topic every day, today we talk about "the weak and the strong".
No one doesn't like "shortcuts", and if you can achieve your goals with less effort, why not do it?
The key is that the "shortcut" is not easy to find, and even when we find it, the shortcut may already be crowded with people, even so, we still like to find shortcuts, find a "shortest distance" to the target.
I. Euclid's "Shortest Distance"
There is a typical drawing problem in middle school geometry, similar to the following description:
The general returned from patrol, and his horse was very thirsty when he was about to reach the camp, so he had to ride to the river to drink water at point A, and then rush back to the camp (point B), so where did he choose to drink water by the river (point C) to ensure that he could walk the shortest distance?
If you haven't studied geometry, this problem may still be a bit of a brain, but Euclid gave the answer in the "Primitive Geometry" 2300 years ago: "The line segment between two points is the shortest.".
So turning the two segments of AC and BC in the figure into one segment can solve this problem:
On the other side of the river, find the symmetrical point A' at point A, and then connect A' with B, and the intersection of segment A'B and the river, C, is the shortest distance point.
When you can't find the shortest distance directly, think differently: convert the polyline to a straight line and find the answer from the other side.
Second, there are shortcuts everywhere in life, and the possible method is on the other side
Some people say that "shortcuts are the farthest roads in the world", but they do not really understand the meaning of shortcuts: shortcuts are solutions that can solve problems quickly and effectively.
Everyone stares at "fast" and ignores "effective", thus misunderstanding the "shortcut". But as long as you change your mind and push backwards from the end goal, you may be able to find a different solution.
1, why the river is curved: bypass the resistance, find the optimal path
With the exception of artificially dug canals, all rivers in nature are curved, and does nature not allow the river to go the shortest distance into the sea?
Of course not, the river in the process of flowing, once it encounters resistance such as mountain stones, it is not forcibly washed away from the mountain stones, but flows past the mountain stones, reducing the resistance of flow to the weakest.
Its target is the sea, not the rocks.
The river meanders and the target is the sea
The same is true at work, when the frontal hard is unable to solve the problem, the roundabout tactics may be the best path.
A friend is an auditor, which is a position that is easier to offend.
Once, when he went to his subordinate unit for an audit, the colleagues in the position were extremely uncooperative, and the data provided was either missing information or original content, which brought great obstacles to the friend's audit.
At the beginning, this friend was still more patient to communicate with the colleague, but the effect was very poor, he knew that this road would not work, so he directly bypassed the colleague and found the colleague's supervisor to ask for data.
After the audit, he learned to be obedient, and at each audit, he asked the head of the department to arrange for the following people to provide data and cooperate with the audit. If the supervisor does not cooperate, then find a higher level of leadership, there will always be someone who can push the matter.
The optimal path is always there, right next to the resistance.
2, "exemption" is the best way to break the game
When you fall on the way to work, you definitely hope to be able to get help, hope that others can help you, but due to the influence of some past cases, there may not be someone to take the initiative to help you, what to do?
You can find a third party on site to help you, you can say something like this:
"I fell down on my own, you can testify, this little handsome guy in a yellow hat, can you help me get up, I can't get up a bit."
Once you have your initiative to speak and the witnesses around you, the "little handsome guy in the yellow hat" you designated will most likely come up and pull you up, and others will come around and ask about you.
In this process of breaking the situation, the biggest concern of others to help you is to "bear the disaster of innocence", so once you give him "exemption", most people will change from "indifferent bystanders" to "enthusiastic helpers".
Many phenomena in the work are also the application of this principle, for example, every enterprise will have a set of continuous improvement of business processes, this set of processes is essentially to standardize business operations, but from another point of view, it is also a means of exemption and protection measures.
If you encounter a seemingly insoluble dilemma, you may be able to break the game by "exonerating".
3. Avoid the sharp edge and convert the relationship between strong and weak
After a girl got married, she found out that her husband had violent tendencies, and after two years, she really couldn't stand the other party's domestic violence and filed for divorce.
As a result, after countless setbacks, she finally succeeded in divorcing, so is she out of the sea of suffering? No.
Because her ex-husband would regularly come to her place every week to kick the door, while scolding and kicking the door, the girl hid in the room alone and cried, feeling desperate, because no matter how she pleaded, the other party would continue to kick the door and insult mercilessly.
When the girlfriend learned of this, she gave her an idea: install a camera with a microphone at the door.
When the ex-husband came to kick the door again, he recorded his behavior and scolding, threatening him to call the police again. The ex-husband weighed the gains and losses, and then slipped away, and never came again.
The conversion of strength and weakness is actually very simple
Can a small camera convert the strength and weakness of the two sides? No, what really transforms the relationship between strong and weak is the roundabout idea of her girlfriend:
I can't beat you, I can't scold you, then I won't confront you, but I can let the stronger (police) punish you, and the content recorded by the camera is the basis for seeking the protection of the stronger.
There are no real weak people in this world, only undiscovered strong and weak transformation ideas.
3. Summary
Each problem has the shortest path to solution, and perhaps you can find it by thinking in a different direction:
1. Learn the river, bypass the resistance, and find the optimal path.
2, try to use "exemption" to break the game, harvest countless help.
3, find the key to the transformation of strength and weakness, you are strong.
("Everyone is like a dragon", I am a radium brother who focuses on personal advantages, I kindly ask you to like, pay attention to, forward)