Wen | Wen Xiaowen (Fushu author)
Life has ups and downs, instead of waiting for the help of nobles, it is better to carry the lamp yourself.
Yang Dai once said: "Throughout our lives, we must continue to cultivate our souls and improve ourselves. ”
Life is a journey full of unknowns, on the way forward, we always experience and grow at the same time.
At every intersection, all kinds of people will be encountered, all kinds of things will be encountered, and the precipitation and transformation in this process are all soul cultivation again and again.
- You can stand it when you are upset
Zeng Guofan wrote the "Essentials for Nourishing the Body" on the way to the river, and there is a sentence in the text: "The heart desires its determination, the god desires its determination, and the body desires its determination." ”
This means that only when the heart is stable can the spirit be stable; only when the spirit is stable, the body can be stable.
At the beginning of the founding of the Huai Army, Li Hongzhang introduced three talents to Zeng Guofan, and once, the three of them went to see Zeng Guofan together.
But Zeng Guofan did not immediately receive them, but let them wait in the courtyard, while he stood in the distance and secretly observed.
▲ Zeng Guofan deliberations
Half an hour later, Zeng Guofan found that two of the three people who had been sitting in a well-mannered manner had already shown impatience, one paced around to see the furnishings in the house; the other did not move, but looked anxious and impatient.
There was only one person, in the process of waiting, always sitting precariously, looking at himself calmly, only occasionally looking up at the floating clouds in the sky. Although the man was not proud, he could reveal a sense of determination and calmness in his eyes.
After some observation, Zeng Guofan already had his own plans for how to use these three people.
He said to Li Hongzhang, "Of the three people you recommended, only one person can be of great use. ”
Li Hongzhang was puzzled: "How does the teacher know?" ”
Zeng Guofan brushed his beard and said with a smile: "The most important thing in doing big things is to be able to withstand irritability and calm down." Of these three, only one of them is impatient and will become a great instrument. ”
Facts have proved that Zeng Guofan's vision of people is very unique. The person he fancied was General Liu Mingchuan, an important general of the Huai Army at the end of the Qing Dynasty and known as the "father of Taiwan's modernization."
I like this sentence: "Life has ups and downs, instead of waiting for the help of nobles, it is better to carry the lamp yourself." ”
When you are in a state of confusion, if you only focus on anxious emotions, it will not only not help, but also expand the fear and restlessness in your heart, so that things will develop in a worse direction.
Being able to withstand troubles, calm down, and calmly sort out the problems is the best way to solve the problem.
Only when a person has been tempered in an unstable environment can his heart be more introverted and calm, and his life will become more abundant.
- Joy sinks to the point of fullness
The writer Lindbergh said in "One Man's War":
"A person can't be too proud, too proud will have a gun, a shot will shoot you down, like a kite flying too high, snapping to the ground." 」
It is true that it is happy to meet happy and good things, but when a person has achieved results and is indispensable, then there is a great possibility of falling to the bottom.
If man is indulged in pride, he cannot discern the direction, and if he is lost in vanity, he is easily crushed.
I have seen a video posted by a netizen:
After graduating from college, this netizen entered the ranks of entrepreneurship, founding an educational institution on the one hand and doing foreign trade business on the other.
Although it suffered a little in the early stage of exploration, it was fortunate to catch up with the trend, and the company also operated well and never lost money.
Under his efforts, the reputation of educational institutions is getting better and better, the source of students is also increasing, and the foreign trade business is becoming more and more profitable.
After two years of running it smoothly, he began to feel that it was easy to achieve the goal and the money was easy to earn.
As the scale of the business continued to expand, more and more people wanted to invest in him, he began to get carried away, and his vanity gradually swelled.
After that, he only relied on his own subjective speculation, did not conduct in-depth research on the industry situation, and rushed to open a baseball club, a pizzeria, and also made some website investments.
But to his surprise, the project he ran did not have strong professional ability to rely on, so in less than a year, it all failed.
Not only is there no return, but to make matters worse, there are more than 6 million foreign debts, the house and the car are all mortgaged, and even the girlfriend has left him, which can be said to be a total loss.
When you are satisfied, you are prone to think very highly of yourself, and if you are too smooth, you will make people lose their vigilance.
Mencius said, "Born of sorrow, died of comfort"
There is a term in psychology called "comfort zone": if people look forward to being in a comfortable and comfortable situation for a long time, their thinking will be bound, they will not feel the sense of crisis in life, and their own ability will become weaker and weaker.
There is also a term called "crisis circle": in a sinister environment, after experiencing the baptism of suffering, it will bottom out and rebound and become indestructible.
Therefore, the more joyful you are, the more you must let yourself sink down, the more you must have a humble and cautious attitude, and the awareness of thinking of danger in times of peace.
- Words can be stopped at the lips
Zeng Guofan said: "You must not speak freely, and you must not act arbitrarily." ”
Many times, blurting out words, you are happy, but it is easy to get yourself into trouble.
Some words can be spoken, and some words are only suitable for putting in the stomach, they are clear on their own, knowing people do not evaluate, seeing through and not saying, is a kind of great wisdom.
Wen Tingjun, a famous lyricist of the Tang Dynasty, was very talented, but he repeatedly fell off the list, which was not unrelated to his unobstructed mouth and his lack of attention to proportions in his speech.
At that time, Tang Xuanzong loved to listen to "Bodhisattva Man", and the prime minister ordered Gu Xuan to please the emperor, but he knew that the level of lyrics was too low, so he privately asked Wen Tingjun to be a "gunner" and created a "Bodhisattva Man" for the emperor.
He instructed Wen Tingjun not to leak out this matter, but Wen Tingjun was afraid that the people of the world would not know his talent, so he easily spread the news.
As a result, everyone knew that Ling Fox's words were ghostwritten, which made him lose face and annoyed him.
Another time, when Tang Xuanzong composed a poem, the previous sentence used "Golden Step Shake", and he couldn't get the next sentence out of the last sentence after thinking about it for a long time, so he found a few talents to correct it.
Wen Tingjun used the "jade stripe" to correct, and as a result, Tang Xuanzong was very satisfied, praising him for being very neat.
Ling Fox Xuan did not know the allusion of the jade strip, so he went to consult Wen Tingjun. Wen Tingjun told him that he was from the "South China Classic", and after answering the questions, Wen Tingjun could not hold back his mouth, and said coldly and sarcastically:
"Lord Xiangguo, the South China Classic is not a cold book, and you should still take the time to read more books in your spare time."
This completely angered Ling Huxuan, and when reviewing Wen Tingjun's qualifications as a soldier, he said that he had talent and no virtue, and cut off his career path.
"OniGuzi" has a cloud: "The mouther, the portal of the heart also." Its changes will be pre-examined, and the fate of the auspicious will be determined. ”
This means that the fate of people and the auspiciousness of things are closely related to the words spoken.
Perhaps, your unintentional words will bring misfortune to yourself; your casual words will bring harm to others.
For people to deal with the world, pay attention to grasp the scale, so when the words come to the mouth, we must stop and learn to "filter" the language, which is both to be considerate of oneself and to respect others.
Writer Guo Xiaochuan said: "Life is really like this cup of strong wine, without refining it five times, it will not be so delicious." ”
Growth is the preparation for success, and on the road to success, we can only pay for ourselves, what we have to do is to strive to cultivate ourselves into the best look.
In the face of trouble, you can endure, calm and calm, and your mood is calm and peaceful;
Joy to the fullness of the heart, indifferent to success, often with a humble heart;
When the words come to the lips, you can stop and know how to restrain yourself, so that there is room for maneuver.
Life is long, may we think carefully at every node, cultivate with our hearts, and obtain the abundance and stability of the soul.
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