Many people think that women who suffer domestic violence have a lower status in marriage, no appearance, no status, no background, this is not the case, as long as they encounter scumbags, all excellent can not protect women's rights and interests.
The hands that play the piano, the waist of the dance, the elegant conversation, the elegant temperament, the exquisite makeup, in front of the violent men at home, can be smashed, there is no reason.
There are almost no cases of domestic violence suffered by women in the northeast, where there are only widows, no domestic violence, because there are too many wives and brothers.
Whether it is the wife's grumpy brother, or the mighty cousin, or the domineering cousin. There are also old men who are still in the tiger, who can instantly make the domestic violence male ghost cry wolf and cry bitterly.
It can be said that the strength of the wife's family can nip domestic violence in the bud, and it can also minimize the harm when encountering domestic violence, and even let the domestic violence man be severely punished, so that he can stop the flag, change his past mistakes, and become a new person. It also prevents the further escalation of domestic violence follow-up incidents.
The more people behind the wife's family, the safer they are.
But there was a princess in the Song Dynasty who actually suffered domestic violence, and her father was Song Yingzong, her brother was Song Renzong, when Empress Dowager Chaogao was her mother-in-law, the group of relatives and friends standing behind her was definitely the most powerful group of relatives and friends at that time, no one could surpass it, but she was finally killed by domestic violence, the truth of which was really shocking, even more infuriating, heart-wrenching!
This princess is the princess of Bao'an who died of domestic violence in history.
She was the second daughter of Song Yingzong, and she was pampered from an early age, not only three thousand pampered, in addition to the emperor's father, but also the empress and the brother who succeeded to the throne.
When she was 13 years old, her father named her "Princess Bao'an." ”
At that time, her father Yingzong was not in good health, and he took the hand of her brother Zhao Yan (Song Shenzong) and said:
"Yu'er, you must take good care of your sister!" No matter when or where, he must not be wronged! ”
For the brother, the father's words of instruction are meaningless, because Zhao Yan is the brother of Princess Bao'an's half-father and mother, born of a mother, the deep feelings are far beyond others, as long as it is something that the sister likes, the brother will do everything possible to help her get it, and Zhao Yan spoils his sister better than himself.
When Zhao Yan ascended to the emperor's throne, he immediately awarded his sister princess Shu Guochang, more glorious than the original Princess Bao'an, which shows the status of this sister in the heart of his brother Song Shenzong.
Later, he felt that "Princess Shu Guochang" could not express his spoiling for his sister, so he named her "Princess Shu Guochang" again. ”
There are many princesses of the Song Dynasty, but in the heart of Shenzong, her sister will always be the most precious and noble, and she deserves all the beauty.
The princess is older, and her brother is worried about her eating and wearing, and whatever she likes to eat, use, and play, as long as it is in the world, her brother must do everything possible to find it for her. Fortunately, the princess has love and does not want to work hard and hurt the people's wealth, and she is even more reluctant to raise teachers and move the people.
But the princess only low-key, the brother took care of her luxury, even the sister's house, Shenzong also personally designed, the furnishings and antiques inside or he personally selected, this strong care is no one can surpass.
The younger sister gradually grew up, and when it came time to marry, the brother was even more heartbroken, and many princesses of the Song Dynasty at that time had to rely on their identities to do some political marriages, either marrying abroad or marrying a heavy courtier in the middle of the country.
It doesn't matter who you marry, and it doesn't matter whether the person you marry is your favorite.
However, this is the path taken by other princesses, and Shenzong will never wrongfully do this to his sister, after all, marriage is a lifelong thing, and it is also the second reincarnation of a woman.
To make her sister's happiness more fiery and flowers bloom, we must help her choose the best husband in the world.
Hearing that Shenzong was preparing to choose a horse for his favorite sister, the young talents in the world were so moved that they could not imagine being chosen for that glory, and they were excited to go crazy when they thought about it.
The elder brother Shenzong did not stop investigating, and the courtiers no longer covered up, and one after another pushed out their own heirs or nephews, and those old ministers were eager to catch up with such an opportunity when they were twenty years younger.
The slightly older young talents pulled off their beards one after another, and looked forward to happiness while pulling them out.
However, in the end, Shenzong still respected his sister's opinion and chose the horse Wang Jie.
Why is it respect, because Wang Xue's conditions are not only not the best in it, but even the third echelon is not ranked.
This choice, a period of evil fate in the underworld, and finally the life of Princess Bao'an.
Any man who becomes her colt will be pampered and cherished, but choosing the king is more serious than choosing the devil.
No matter how noble a woman's status, how beautiful her face is, how luxurious her family lineage is, an unhappy marriage will eventually destroy everything, marriage is the second reincarnation of women, but also their other life.
For Princess Bao'an, marriage is the beginning of her life's misfortune and a tragic ending.
Wang's conditions were not the best, his family gradually declined, and by his generation, the family road had fallen. Others were either the son of the prime minister or a scholar, and his conditions were much bleaker in comparison. Of course, the royal family chooses a pack horse, and the conditions are only for reference, after all, what conditions you want, you can let you have what kind of conditions.
Compared with external factors, their own conditions are the most important.
And Wang Yi's most superior condition lies precisely in his appearance, tall and tall, heroic and handsome. That is, inheriting the tall and mighty warriors of the ancestors, but also the elegance and courtesy of the literati.
Princess Bao'an fell into his appearance, and her life fell. Wang Yi became the biggest dark horse, no, it was a donkey!
Wang Yi's ancestors were warriors, and his bones were full of blood and violence, but he transformed all such bloody violence into domestic violence, of course, the more violent the man, the more elegant he was on the outside.
Those mighty and majestic men rarely go to domestic violence, on the contrary, those men who are polite and polite deteriorate behind closed doors.
Wang Yi looked very good at that time, not at all like he would be a domestic violence. After all, whether it is his elegant appearance, or good conversation, or his high-grade circle of friends, the quality is very high.
Friends with grades can give him extra points, after all, his best friend is Su Shi, who is famous in the literary world!
There is such a heavyweight friend as Su Shi, the two are friends of Mo Rebellion, in other words, Wang Yi's character is equivalent to being checked and certified by Su Shi, does this still need too much doubt?
However, a man who is violent at home is not necessarily grumpy in all aspects, he may be a very good friend, but not necessarily an excellent husband, which is where human nature is complicated.
In fact, in the end, Emperor Shenzong had one more important consideration in choosing Wang Xue, and he didn't even say anything about his sister.
The other candidates are either the sons of heavy courtiers or the brothers of noble princes, who are surrounded by small slaves and flocks of beards, spoiled and arrogant, and if there is a little friction between husband and wife, they will not easily bow their heads, so that the sister will be wronged.
And wang xue family road fell, all the pride and nobility are exhausted, such a person can tolerate, can tolerate, suffer hardships, and know more gentle and kind to others. Maturity is not pampered.
However, after the defeat of Wang Xue's family road, his personality was also declining, and this point was hidden very deeply, and no one knew!
In 1069, Princess Bao'an was 17 years old, and the most luxurious wedding at that time was held in the capital city of Beijing. Brother Shenzong turned the wedding into a national ceremony, prosperous as flowing water, and the feast shook The capital.
The most beautiful years, the most feminine face, the most romantic youth, she married the horse Wang Jie.
She thought that she was the happiest at the wedding, she guessed half right, the happiest is not because of the wedding, but because, from now on, her happiness will be far away, the wedding is the peak of Princess Baoan's life, from then on, her life will fall from the clouds, to the depths of hell, and finally be tortured to death in purgatory.
Princess Bao'an at that time would not have understood.
Even if she was not a princess, even if her father was not Yingzong, her brother was not Shenzong, and her mother was not the empress. She only has everything of herself, and she should be very happy.
She is beautiful, talented, waist like a thin willow, her face is more comfortable than spring, and she has rich talents.
It's just that all of this has never been the source of women's happiness. Only husbands are, and this truth is the truth that many women have realized with their lives.
The cave house flowers candle night, the residual lights alone
For Princess Bao'an, there was really only a room like a snow cave, lonely and cold, full of flower candles, and she spent a long night alone.
Her husband, Wang Yi, on the night of their wedding, dragged his friends Su Shi, Mi Fu, Huang Tingjian, Qin Guan and others to drink.
Didn't return overnight!
Cave room, flower candle, cold night, this is Princess Bao'an's cave room flower candle night.
This night, her heart may be lonely, indifferent, lost, and sad, but she wants to come up with many reasons to comfort herself. Perhaps, the husband has many friends and needs to socialize,
Perhaps, the husband does not covet the gentle township,
Perhaps, the husband is too drunk to come abruptly,
Perhaps, the husband went to sleep after getting drunk...
She could only comfort herself in this way, but she knew that all her words of comfort could not stand up to scrutiny.
She swallowed tears and stayed up all night, and the next day, she had to learn to be a virtuous woman.
Because he wanted to see his mother-in-law the next day, fortunately, at this time Wang Jie came, Wang Jie's father died early, and his mother pulled him to grow up, so he treated his mother with great filial piety.
Looking at Wang Yi's respectful, filial piety, and piety attitude towards her mother, Princess Bao'an thought that if she wanted to win her husband's heart, she would have to win the approval of her mother-in-law.
Therefore, she cooked soup, took good care of it, accompanied her every day, accompanied her every day, and took care of her mother-in-law as carefully as her own mother, thinking that in this way, she would win the heart of the horse.
But what she thought was always what she thought.
The kindness of the princess made the pony understand weakness, and her meekness made the pony see cowardice.
Why did Wang Yi treat the princess so coldly, even tyrannically. Mainly because he was reluctant to accept the marriage from the beginning, but the imperial order was difficult to violate.
Wang Yi is somewhat idealistic, especially after the fall of the family road, he is eager to restore the glory of the family through himself, and through his own talent and ability, let the family take off again.
But the selection of the horse disrupted all his plans, the Song Dynasty was very strict with the management of foreign relatives, and the suppression of the horse was equally strict, and the horse only needed to lie flat and get all the treatment, but only the treatment, there was no other actual position.
This may be the best gift from heaven for those young people who are reluctant to struggle, but it is almost impossible to make a difference as a steed. No matter what kind of achievements and contributions he has, as long as he is a donkey, everything in his career will not be related to him.
He blamed all the unsatisfactory ambitions in his life on his wife, Princess Bao'an!
This may be a common problem of all scumbags, who are discouraged, but blame all the responsibility on their wives.
Wang Yi slowly transferred all the undesirable ambitions of his life to his wife, and obtained some twisted and perverted satisfaction by colding her and provoking her.
How could the princess have imagined that the human heart could be so dark.
After being treated coldly, kind people will only reflect on whether they are not doing well enough, and the princess often reflects, is it that she is not gentle enough? Is it that you are not virtuous enough? Is it that you don't care enough about your husband?
She thought about it, as if everything else was doing well, and no one could do it better than her, as if she had heard someone say that if you want a good relationship between husband and wife, you must have common children.
Princess Bao'an thought of this and began to actively prepare for pregnancy, and indeed conceived and gave birth to a child.
But after pregnancy, the husband did not change in the slightest, the depressed Princess Bao'an was full of sorrow every day, it may be that the pregnancy was too depressed, the child has not been very healthy after birth, and it did not take long for the child to die.
Princess Bao'an suffered the blow of the death of her beloved son, the mood was even more depressed, the physical condition was even worse, so that later her physical condition was no longer possible to get pregnant, the kind she just came out of the pain, did not think of herself first, but hurt her husband, kind and virtuous, first persuaded her husband to take a concubine, so as to continue the incense of the Wang family.
At that time, the concubine of the donkey man had to obtain the consent of the princess, and Wang Xie did not regard such kindness and respect as his wife's repeatedly tolerant love for him, on the contrary, he deservedly enjoyed all this.
The princess only let him take a concubine to continue the incense, he took a concubine, eight in one go, if he had a little love for the princess, he could not be arrogant to this extent.
What is even more heinous is that the concubines of he na are all selected from the Qinglou, and they like to dominate and bully people.
Seeing that Wang Yi did not respect the princess, they slowly lost their reverence for the princess. Even, Wang Yi would show affection with them in front of the princess. The poor princess was so angry that she went back to the room sobbing and choking, and the tears flowed incessantly, and these concubines actually bullied the princess as the happiest thing.
The "Biography of the Princess of Song Shi" records: "Do not be careful, go to the side of the lord who commits adultery with concubines".
The "Continuation of the Zizhi TongjianChang" also records Wang Xue's violation of human morality: "Serving the Lord's Disease, and Committing Adultery with the Lord." These canonical records are very clear, the princess was angry and sick, but Wang Yi was able to do things with those concubines next to her sickbed.
How can a dignified and legitimate lady tolerate the bullying and humiliation of these concubines?
The "Biography of the Princess of Song Shi" records: "Count the lords". These concubines bullied her a lot.
What's more, there were eight of these evil women, and Wang Yi's actions were really difficult to understand, and what he relied on might be Princess Bao'an's love for him.
Loving a person, sometimes can be humbled to the dust, princess Bao'an even if you are a princess, still humble love Wang Yi.
Later, Wang Yi was no longer satisfied with such a dark abuse, and simply used violence directly, domestic violence against the princess, and was vicious and ruthless, completely wanting to put the princess to death.
Of course, the wound on the beaten site could not be exposed to the surface, otherwise, if she gave her brother Shenzong to see, Wang Yi's life would come to an end.
Princess Bao'an, whose life has always been pampered, He has suffered such abuse, her heart is miserable and sad, her body has been abused and beaten, and the light of her life is crumbling, but she still has not told her mother and brother, pretending to be happy and happy every day.
She knew that as long as there was a little complaint, how many lives Wang Yi would be torn apart by the angry brother, she still had a little fantasy, hoping that Wang Xie could change her mind, after all, they were married, hoping that he could eventually return to his side, hoping that he loved her, even if only one percent of her love for him, she would be satisfied.
She was willing to wait, even if it was the last moment of her life, which she thought was worth it.
But Wang Yi was not worth her waiting, and the scumbag's despicable humanity was enough to destroy everything for her. Wang Yi tortured her for seven years from the first domestic violence, during which time she apologized and regretted it, but then began to torture her again, and the cycle began again.
In the end, the princess did not bear such torture, she lived too hard, married at the age of 17, and the next 13 years of marriage were difficult and painful. At less than 30 years old, she finally came to the end of her life.
Empress Gao came to take care of her every day and washed her face with tears. It was only at this time that her mother, Empress Gao, discovered some clues, that the princess was not sick like this, and that her thin body was covered with bruises and purple scars. The empress dowager touched her daughter's thin and bruised hands, tearing her heart and lungs with tears.
Brother Shenzong also came almost every day.
He personally took the porridge to feed his sister, although princess Bao'an could not eat it at this time, in order to reassure her brother, she still had to endure the pain and discomfort, ate this bowl of porridge, watching the dying sister eat the porridge hard, the brother and sister thought it through, and The Divine Sect knew that she was for her own relief.
Tears rained down. He cried like a child that day.
The doctors did their best, but they could not save their lives if they were cured.
The imperial doctor was weak in returning to heaven, Shenzong was wailing day and night, and his mother Empress Gao was crying bitterly, and Wang Yi was even drinking and playing with the concubines these days.
Princess Bao'an knew that she might not be able to survive, and she actually interceded with her brother.
Asking her brother not to embarrass Wang Yi in the future, not to blame her, otherwise, she would not be at ease when she died, which brother could refuse her sister's dying plea, and Shenzong tearfully agreed to her sister.
This is really incomprehensible, posterity is even more want to break the head and can not think through, the princess of Bao'an, who has been bullied, do not say that she cried and complained about grievances before she died, will definitely get the most perfect solution.
Even if she cried with her brother on her deathbed, the pain that Wang Yi inflicted on her would definitely be repaid a million times over, and she not only did not ask to punish Wang Jie, but even at the end of her life, she interceded for him, which was really incomprehensible.
Princess Bao'an saw her brother tearfully agree, and only then did she close her eyes in relief and complete a painful and tangled life.
Shenzong took his sister's hand, the temperature gradually cooled, his heart was even more painful and sad to the extreme, thinking of his sister's departure pain and sadness was too much, he had always been diligent in government affairs, and even quit the dynasty for five days, locking himself in the room, letting the pain slowly swallow himself, and his sister's death hit him too hard.
But the princess's so-called illness and death have always been in doubt, and the empress dowager has called the nursing mother for careful interrogation, and the nursing mother has finally told all the truth.
It turned out that the princess was actually bullied by eight concubines.
Sending ShenZong was almost mad when he heard the news, and he immediately let people beat these eight concubines in public, watching their heart-rending cries, and his heart was still full of hatred.
Then he issued another imperial decree to send these eight concubines to the barracks to comfort the soldiers.
As for the very miserable ending after the condolences, these concubines, finally realizing that they were stupid, suffered unimaginable hardships and humiliations in the barracks, they realized that they had committed unforgivable sins, and they used their lives to pay for their stupidity.
Shenzong also wanted to torture Wang Yi to death by the way, but after all, he had promised his sister, and it was also his sister's last wish, otherwise, Wang Yi would not have enough to cut off ten heads.
Shen Zong really couldn't understand why his sister was so abused and why he was still partial to protect her, but although there were too many incomprehensions, as long as it was his sister's last wish, he would rather wronged himself than have regrets in his heart.
It was just that every time he thought of the donkey, he couldn't help but want to torture him, torture him to death, Shenzong knew that sooner or later he couldn't control the idea of revenge when the donkey was around, so he sent Wang Yi far away to exile to Junzhou.
Before the exile, he saw Wang Yi's 3-year-old son even more angry, didn't you always blame my sister for not being able to have children?
The younger sister tolerated letting you take a concubine, you little man actually took eight, and even had a son, the Divine Sect only promised the sister to let wang Jie go, but did not promise to let the others go.
As a result, Wang Jie's 3-year-old son was also executed by order of the angry Shenzong.
Wang Yi did not know whether he had repented on the road to exile, but in the end he finally tasted the evil consequences of his mistakes. All the concubines were tortured to death, and the only son was also given to death, leaving him alone between heaven and earth, tasting the sadness of life on the way to exile.