There is a sentence in the "Mountain Moon Chronicle":
I often play with things like "if you don't do anything, your life is too long, if you want to do something, your life is too short", in fact, if I have any lofty ideals, it is nothing more than the vile fear of exposing my lack of talent, and the shameless slackness of not working hard.
Deeply felt.
Life is a long road, in fact, many times, it is not that you can't do it yourself, but that we live too "lazy", and are not willing to make changes, and live too slack, so there will be a gap between people.
However, most people, when they see the success of others and their own failures, the first thing they realize is never their own problems, but to concentrate on attributing their loss to the injustice of fate, and venting their resentment on the irrationality of envying others.
In life, you will have a feeling that if you live more and more thinly, it is really not your own birth, but slowly precipitated in the time and shade.
On the one hand, your enthusiasm and kindness will always be misunderstood by some people with hearts, on the other hand, many hypocrisy and hypocrisy are boring.
So, you're getting colder and less and less unwilling to express yourself.
In this life, we will meet all kinds of people, the closest is the people around us, in addition to relatives, that is, friends, colleagues, relatives, neighbors and so on. When I was young, I always thought of "multiple friends and many roads", but the more I lived, the more I found that some relationships, rather than wasting time and energy to entangle with them, it was better to give up.
Just because, many times, the people who don't see you well are often the people around you who know you best.
When you are discouraged, you look down on all kinds of relatives who look down on you
The so-called "poor in the downtown area no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives."
There is always a kind of relative, as far as eight rods can not hit, close to brothers and sisters, he is not for your affection, but you have money, he and you have a relationship, you have no money, he will rarely deal with you, and even laugh at you behind your back.
You have to believe that there are far more people in this world who can't see you well than people who want you to be all right.
Yue Yunpeng once said: After I succeeded, every time I went back to my hometown, I felt very uncomfortable.
Because, he found that no one in the whole village said good things for him, and his villagers mentioned him with disdain, and even ridiculed him for being able to become famous because of good luck, in fact, there was no ability.
This is where the sinister nature of the human heart lies.
You're doing well, they're jealous of you; you're having a bad time, they're mocking you.
Keigo Higashino once wrote in Malice:
I hate that you preemptively realized my ideals, I hate your superior life, and I hate that you who were so dismissive at the beginning now have a bright future.
Just because people feel that good luck should be taken care of in their hearts, they will feel that everyone is the same, why can you live better than yourself? Why do you surpass yourself? But they can't see the efforts behind others, and they vent their resentment on one of their own mouths.
People who are poor are not afraid, but they are afraid of being poor in heart.
When you meet such relatives, you don't have to pay attention to it, you know, the more open-minded people are, the more they can see the good of others, the more they will accept the "strength" of others, and the more they will make their future road wider.
Because of a moment of jealousy, orchestrating some bad words about others behind his back, and even doing some irrational things, he will only make his path narrower and narrower, and will also make the blessing away from him.
Therefore, such relatives, or less contact is better, in their eyes, family affection is very indifferent, in their eyes, only interests.
If you have a better life than him, you will strike at your friends who deny you
I saw a sentence:
Because you are better off than me, you are guilty; because I am not as good as you, I am going to destroy you.
Ironic and realistic.
How many friends, seeing that you are stronger than him, on the surface of a compliment, but behind the scenes there are all kinds of blows to deny, and even longing for you, one day can fall a little worse.
In this world, the last thing that can be looked at directly is the sun and the other is the human heart.
I remember a friend, after the business failed, there was a time when he was depressed, and every time everyone wanted to have a dinner and make him happy, he would make excuses and did not want to participate.
Later, I found out that a person who had once surrounded him, in our eyes, his best friend, was at the dinner table, mocking him in various ways, denying him in various ways, which made people feel very uncomfortable.
After two years, the friend invested in others, and the days gradually eased up, and the person appeared beside him frequently, praising him in various ways, and asking him to help him.
This kind of person is also dazzling.
Man, it is really thirty years of Hedong, thirty years of Hexi.
But if you have such a friend around you, when you are good, he comes to seduce you, and when you are not good, he slanders and satirizes you, and it is really not a fortunate thing.
There are always some people, he can't see you well, you are richer and more capable than him, they go around making rumors, pulling you, you are depressed, all kinds of ridicule, orchestrating you.
Therefore, it is very important to identify friends, but more importantly, do not live in the "view" of others on themselves, time can see through people's hearts, and when encountering difficulties, it is easiest to see through friends' hearts.
If you have such a friend next to you, can you stay away, or stay away, the longer you get along, the less good it is for yourself.
You are better than him, and you orchestrate your colleagues with all kinds of jealousy
Perhaps, in addition to our families, the people we spend the most time with are our colleagues.
Only because, eating, wearing, living and using everything is inseparable from money, and it is inseparable from the place where we make money.
Originally, the meaning of colleagues is that everyone works together and cooperates with each other.
However, some colleagues are really only friendly with you on the surface, but behind the scenes, they stab you and calculate you. Especially when faced with the benefits of promotion and salary increase, it is even more unscrupulous to step on you.
In a company, a certain department has a promotion position, which is originally decided by the superior leader, and the head of this department has made his own decision, and has leaked out the news that there is this promotion quota without authorization, so a little girl in this department told herself to another department, the so-called girlfriend.
This girlfriend is also ridiculous, after knowing the news, she began to privately send some private messages to the head of the department, extremely touted, there is no lack of some girls "flirting" words, and afterwards they told the little girl the content of their own messages.
Who knows, these private messages were immediately spread throughout the company, boiling, girlfriends and supervisors, all disgraced.
For her girlfriend, what she did not recognize was that many seemingly beautiful relationships were hypocrites; for the supervisor, it was not within the scope of her own power, and she had to learn to shut up.
So-called, morality is not worthy, there will be disasters, so when getting along with colleagues, we must be cautious in words and deeds, and safeguard our own interests.
Learn to be silent and shut, don't be bothered by the environment, encounter some things, learn to protect yourself, stay away from some people who manipulate right and wrong, and don't tell others about your private affairs.
You know, some people, even if their minds are not right, their minds are not used in work, but in calculations; their wisdom is not used to improve their own abilities, but only to "gossip" about the private affairs of others.
The human heart is always complex.
Most people wear masks to interact with people, and what he shows you is what you want to see.
The so-called "knowing the face and not knowing the heart" is this truth.
In real life, we always sigh that many acquaintances come to pit you, but strangers will come to help you, in fact, this is the truth.
The more acquaintances, the more you can't see you, the more acquaintances, the more you want to calculate you, the more you are good, he is jealous of you, when you are not good, he falls into the well.
Therefore, we must learn not to expose money, keep a low profile, get along with people, and maintain a good and appropriate distance.
Between people, it is true to the heart, sincerity to sincerity.
But if you show your sincerity, but the other party gives you a calculation, then, this relationship, can be saved, to maintain the surface of harmony, is the greatest respect for him!
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!