Author | Fan Deng Reading · Three points of water
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Yang Gun Gun
On the evening of February 7, the Chinese team won the men's 1000m short track speed skating championship and runner-up at the 2022 Beijing Winter Olympics.
While the whole network cheered for Ren Ziwei and Li Wenlong, they were also deeply moved by the team spirit of the Chinese short track speed skating team.
This has to mention the veteran Wu Dajing.
In the game, Wu Dajing was physically weak, but he warmly helped his teammate Ren Ziwei to hold the position, and touched Ren Ziwei's hand to signal him to go first, and he finally won the fourth place.
After the game, Wu Dajing said in an interview with the media:
As a teammate, congratulations to Ren Ziwei and the Chinese team for winning the gold medal and being happy for him.
He also revealed that after the three Chinese players reached the final, they unified their thinking and decided to play the overall tactics of the team.
Success does not have to be in me, success must have me. This is the manifestation of the king's demeanor and pattern.
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Zeng Guofan once said: "Whenever a great thing is done, knowledge is the mainstay and talent is supplemented; where a great thing is accomplished, man seeks to live in half, and Providence occupies half." ”
In self-growth, it is always accompanied by the upgrading of the pattern.
Only by upgrading the pattern can there be a breakthrough in the difficulties, and it is possible to counterattack in life.
But to upgrade the pattern, the first thing is to stay away from the following 4 kinds of thinking.
There are as many hot spots in society as there are questions.
During the outbreak of the epidemic, there is no shortage of enterprises and celebrities from all walks of life who donate money and materials, and some people will question whether they are rubbing hot spots and speculating, but they do not think about what they can contribute;
Seeing others sharing the beauty of food, or buying a car and buying a house, some people will question the bloggers who are "showing off their wealth, not spending their own money anyway", but do not think about how others are trying to achieve their ideals.
This is the hotly discussed red light thinking, a habitual rebuttal, and a very negative thinking.
The essence of red light thinking is to regard different voices in the outside world as hostility and infringement, which on the surface seems to be declaring the sovereignty of thinking, but in fact, it exposes a narrow pattern.
Limited by this kind of thinking, it is difficult for people to reflect and grow, and the pattern will be limited.
If you want to smooth your own growth path, you must first give the green light to your thinking.
Only by referring to and accepting different voices and refreshing their own cognitive blind spots can they grow.
Speaking of green light thinking, we have to mention the educational philosophy of major universities.
Each university has its own characteristics, and what they have in common is that they can bring together the best of all kinds of thinking.
The most impressive thing is the motto of Sichuan University: Hai Na Bai Chuan, There is Rong Nai Da.
It not only conceals the name of Sichuan University, but also reflects the integration of academic ideas of various schools, and collides with many wonderful and extraordinary waves.
Just as the sons and hundreds of families in the Spring and Autumn period and the Warring States period competed with each other, everyone expressed their own views and spoke freely, depicting an unprecedented academic situation in the history of China's ideological development.
If red light thinking blinds people's eyes to see the essence of things, then green light thinking is a kind of tolerance and acceptance, but also a reflection and iteration of themselves.
Therefore, we must light up the green light in the way of thinking, improve the pattern, and the road to growth will naturally be much smoother.
The Duck effect is a cognitive bias phenomenon.
In layman's terms, it is to overestimate one's own abilities and immerse yourself in blind self-confidence.
One of the hobbies of the writer Han Han is football, and he won many awards when he was young, he said that he said:
Protecting the ball like Messi, shooting like Pele, and also self-styled Zidane in the Golden Mountains.
But in a charity tournament, he and some outstanding players from the high school varsity team were completely shattered by the children's reserve team of a professional team.
Han Han said that in that game, they scored 0.
In the 20 minutes of the first half, they passed the ball less than 10 times. He himself only touched the ball once, but was slammed by the opponent nearly 20 balls, jokingly saying that he was being walked by elementary school students.
At the end of the first half, while they were discussing tactics, the opposing coach terminated the game because:
"Not being able to play with such an opponent will affect the mental health of the young players."
Han Han wrote about this matter in "I also knew nothing about this power.".
This is exactly the cognitive bias of challenging the profession with amateurism and being punched in the face by blind confidence.
The Duck Effect makes people blindly confident, and the consequences are often severe.
But if you can correctly and objectively examine yourself, you can reverse this cognitive bias and get effective improvement.
I remember when I first learned to drive, I thought that the driver's license test was really simple, especially the sense of driving, which made people very satisfied, and it was easy to produce inexplicable confidence.
At that time, I didn't understand why some people said: The older the driver, the less courageous.
For more than 10 years, I have also become an "old driver", but the more cars are driven and the more traffic accidents are seen, I am really more and more cautious.
No longer blindly pursuing the stimulation of driving, but taking every safe driving as a reverence for life, driving skills have also been greatly improved in caution.
Darwin said that ignorance is easier to produce self-confidence than erudition.
Self-confidence can make people full of hope in the face of the unknown, but blind self-confidence will only make people arrogant and eventually lose.
Refuse to immerse yourself in illusory self-confidence, objectively face and reflect on problems, and iterate on thinking and behavior in order to obtain effective improvement and expand the pattern.
Li Shanglong's "You Just Look Hard" wrote:
It's easy to deceive others, it's easy to deceive yourself, but it's a little hard to deceive the world, and you can't decide your circle.
But you can decide your ideal state, and being gregarious can but not blindly be gregarious, that is only the beginning of the fall.
In many cases, misfit seems to be the criterion for evaluating whether a person is easy to get along with.
In order to avoid being said to be different, many people begin to deliberately integrate, but over time, they find that they are gradually drifting away from the imaginary sense of belonging.
Because of blindness, but deviating from their own hearts, naturally there is no sense of belonging and security.
On the contrary, those who insist on their true selves and use their deliberately gregarious time to polish themselves are quite good.
Einstein grew up lonely and unsociable.
But he loves to read so much that he often gets caught up in long periods of thinking alone.
But it was his misfits that achieved extraordinary results with his time alone.
"Mr. Wuliu" Tao Yuanming, when he was young, had a lofty ambition to embrace the world.
However, under the influence of the door valve system at that time, it was difficult for him to show his ambitions in the middle of the family road.
In his lifetime, Tao Yuanming only served as a sesame petty official who did not exceed the county order, but he was unwilling to bend his waist for five buckets of rice, and he did not despise pandering to the powerful against his heart;
When people return to the countryside in middle age, they skillfully combine nature and life, so that they have the pleasant self-sufficiency of "picking chrysanthemums under the eastern fence and leisurely seeing the South Mountain", and also have the reputation of "China's first pastoral poet".
Insisting on comparing sociality with excellence is instead limited by the pattern.
Being alone is not necessarily lonely, and being gregarious is not necessarily happy, so it is better to be exquisitely solitary than blindly gregarious.
Stick to your heart, in order to be more focused on true love.
There's a saying on the Internet that makes a lot of sense: Tetris tells us that when you fit in, you disappear.
Low level of diligence, I understand to do more with less.
Every day, I get up earlier than chickens and sleep later than dogs, but with little effect.
The contradiction between laziness and diligence is because the level of diligence is too low, narrowing the pattern.
I have suffered such losses in my work.
The department I am in needs a lot of coordination and uploading and dispatching, the work arranged by the superior needs to be arranged to the subordinate unit, and the feedback of the subordinate unit needs to be summarized and reported to the superior.
Every time there is a new document to be communicated, I do send out a notice and arrange the work to convey the requirements at the first time.
But there are still many people who come to consult, and the repeated answers and communication every day consume my energy and patience, but it is not efficient.
After a long time, I am also tired, but there is only merit in the workplace, no hard work.
Leaders will only be efficient towards the results, and your so-called overtime is at best "blind busy" in the eyes of leaders.
In the exhaustion of day after day, I slowly figured out the method.
For the documents that need to be conveyed, I will make time to separately sort out an explanation that is easy for the subordinate units to understand, and make a detailed combing of the key points of the documents and send them to the working group.
Surprisingly, although I will work overtime to sort out this explanation, the daily repetitive Q&A and consultation are much less, the efficiency of submitting feedback on time by the subordinate units is greatly improved, and the leaders also greatly appreciate my work ability.
Xiaomi founder Lei Jun once said:
"Don't use tactical diligence to mask strategic laziness."
Your low level of diligence may be a waste of time in the eyes of others.
Without the right direction and method as a guide, simply measuring efficiency with time consumption is inevitably too small.
No matter how simple the work, the method has traces to follow, can be integrated into their own thinking, in order to do things to the extreme.
Silicon Valley investor Wu Jun mentioned in "Pattern":
If you can summarize the way to get a big picture in 10 words, it is position, direction, method, pace and rhythm.
Anyone, regardless of the starting point, as long as they can recognize their own position, find the right direction, use the right way to do things, improve the speed of progress, and grasp the rhythm at the same time;
In a few years, you will see a self that is much bigger than today, a self that makes you feel worthless.
Growth is to continuously expand the pattern, change thinking, and upgrade cognition.
The first thing to do is to stay away from these 4 kinds of thinking.
Click "watching", may we all be able to grow on the road, constantly upgrade the pattern, and realize our dreams.
Author | Three points of water. Words are my most gentle weapon against stress; using words to awaken the truest self in my heart.
Editor-in-Chief | A doctor
Typography | Zheng to the north
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