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Belgium's Magazine "The Old Man" once launched a survey among 60-year-olds across the country, "What do you regret the most", which triggered a collective reflection on life.
"I regret that I didn't work hard enough when I was young, so that my career didn't work out." This one topped the list with as much as 72%.
"Regret for insufficient physical exercise", ranking fourth, accounting for more than 50%.
At the age of 60, looking back on the past, I can naturally make more objective and fair judgments about myself. Is it that they are mentally unsound and unaware of the importance of working for their future and body when they are young?
From the importance that young people around them attach to learning and health today, you can also see that a normal person, no one does not know that the pay and gain are directly proportional, but this does not affect his immediate comfort and enjoyment.
But why are there so many people, "former servants and successors" repeating the same mistakes from generation to generation, so that "the little ones do not work hard, and the old ones are sad"?
Because coveting comfort is human nature, hard work is anti-human, without a high degree of self-discipline, it is difficult to make great achievements in personal development.
So the question is, we all understand the truth, we are also very envious of those around us who are extremely self-disciplined, see them every day energetic to pay, live a very full life, but why can't we do this?
Wang Xiao, the founder of the early days, a former CCTV anchor and a well-known writer, said in her book "The Wish To Write Down is Easier to Achieve" that people who achieve success often have clear aspirations and the correct way to work towards the goal.
Many people's lives are not without goals, but that the goals are not clear enough, too general, and lack effective ways to execute.
For example, some people's dream when they were young was to be a big star, which is understandable, but when they grow up, the goal is only to want to become a star-like person, or want to be richer, etc., lack of operability, no way to start, do not know where to start, even if some of the efforts are also because they can not see the immediate return and become dazed, have to give up from time to time.
1. Write down your wishes
The author believes that there are probably two types of differences between people and people, the first is the initial value difference, such as a certain aspect of talent, the family door is different, etc.; the second type is the desire difference, which determines the starting position and the degree to which the wish can be achieved.
A good wish produces two things: one is the power to chase the wish, such as persistence, willpower, etc.; the other is to initiate the path design of the desire chase, including the steps to achieve it.
So what counts as a good wish? It is necessary to be practical and possible to achieve, and it cannot be played at will, arbitrarily arranged, and cannot be changed at any time, and retreat when it is in distress.
Such a wish is the result of careful consideration, not a blurted out and a momentary and arrogant statement. In the book, the author lists some self-inducing questions, allowing the reader to think deeply about answering the questions while slowly making their wishes clear and concrete.
The famous ancient Greek philosopher Socrates said, "Know thyself."
The following questions, which seem simple, are actually the beginning of knowing yourself.
"Who are you?" "Where are you going?" "How are you going?" "How fast will you arrive?" The answer to each question, if you think about it a little, the door of thought seems to be difficult to close, and a lot of information, including the past, will flock to you.
Who am I, we all seem to have never thought carefully about this question, this is a comprehensive assessment of ourselves, and our satisfaction and shortcomings will slowly stand out in our hearts...
By answering the above questions, your goals are basically clear.
Next, the author asks you to write down your wishes. In this information-filled world, clear desire is a power in itself.
The writing here is not a journal-like record, but a specific breakdown of wishes into different lists according to time and different categories.
Time can be ten years into a phase, from year to month, to week, and finally to day, layer by layer into each specific operation, easy to check the small goals. Categories can be set according to different categories such as further education, career, marriage, exercise, weight loss, etc.
When a wish becomes the smallest unit, a single small goal is not so difficult to achieve, and it is easy to test the results in time, which in itself has made the wish less out of reach, which is a good start.
2. How to carry out your wishes
As the saying goes, "Those who have no ambition always aspire, and those who have ambitions make long-term aspirations." Many people in life never lack goals, and their wishes are not lacking in specific and thorough, and the use of pen records is also unambiguous, but they often give up halfway and lack strong willpower.
It can be said that many people have encountered obstacles on the road to their goals, and this obstacle does not come from others, but from themselves. There is no way, this is the nature of human beings mentioned earlier.
How can you better execute your wish list? In the book, the author gives several lessons summarized by personal experience.
(1) Make good wishes
Good wishes can give strength and can arouse your concentration, persistence and self-discipline. As we mentioned just now, the author has induced through some questions and methods that we do not have a clear desire that is suitable for us, which in itself has laid a good foundation for the realization of our wishes.
(2) Make a list of goals
The book gives a large number of self-supervision lists, so that you can comprehensively and specifically record your daily and goal realization at each stage, so that it is an invisibly spur and urge for your behavior, so that you dare not slack off in the slightest. At the same time, seeing your own little growth, there will also be a joy of harvest.
(3) Find out the incentive method that suits you
Everyone has their own hobbies, and they must combine their own preferences to find a set of motivation methods that suit them. For example, if you like food, you can set yourself to achieve the stage goal of a big meal; like a good watch or bag, you promise yourself to complete a larger goal, luxury, to meet their own careful wishes, etc.
At this point, when I was testing for a builder, the teacher gave the same advice, and I also secretly encouraged myself to buy a good watch for myself if I had passed the test as a builder, and the result was over once.
(4) Timely review
Every night, you must review your past in time and summarize the gains and losses, which is not only a kind of self-supervision, a kind of encouragement, a kind of motivation, but also a kind of self-growth.
The best time to review is before going to bed or when you wake up early the next day, the mind is the most awake in the morning, and the simple use of the brain before going to bed is also a buffer for the brain to enter a rest state, reviewing the important things of the day, relatively easy, the whole process will not be too long.
The author calls her own review "personal filmmaker management", she believes that a person is her own producer, through the day's experience of reflection and playback, through the change of the script, adjust the personnel, their own quality of life and experience management, so that they become more mature and perfect.
3. Write at the end
For values, the author has made such an image interpretation, she believes that values are never a big word, values mean: in the same limited life, what you feel is most important to you.
Values determine the priorities of life and things, and the selection and implementation of priorities in the past years have created you and me today - everyone chooses their own way today.
Yeah, isn't that the role of everyone's attitude towards their own desires, of fate?