Wen | snow fell without dust
A woman's life is destined to marry someone. Everyone hopes to have a loving in-law family and a husband who loves themselves.
However, what can really guarantee your happiness is not the so-called husband and in-laws, but yourself.
Women, relying on mountains and mountains, relying on water and water, only by relying on themselves, doing their own desperate three langs, will have their own happiness.
In a woman's life, she fights three things, and you win.
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First: Women should be independent
There is a saying in "Women's Poverty": "Whether married or not, the time has come for women to live independently." ”
Since ancient times, women have been advertised as a vulnerable group in society.
At that time, women with independent thoughts were in the minority. With the development of society, more and more women began to aspire to independence, and real life also requires women to be independent.
Yi Nengjing is more than 50 years old, but she still looks like she is in her early 20s. In the eyes of outsiders, Yi Neng is bright and beautiful, and her life is comfortable, but she carries more than 20 years of heartache.
From a very young age, she was forced by her mother to sell her art to pay off her debts. The cruelty of life and the warmth of human feelings forced her to step by step towards independence, but there was always a feeling of uneasiness in her heart.
So, she told herself that she must be independent, if not independent, life will be a mess, only learn to make money, in order to live the life you want.
Yi Nengjing's uneasiness affected her life, but on the other hand, it was precisely because she had the ability to be independent too early, so in the tempering of the years, she found her own happiness.
In fact, everyone's happiness is earned by themselves.
Fast-paced life is a hectic one, and if you don't improve your abilities, you'll stagnate in the chores of chai rice oil and salt.
People live a lifetime to generate value for themselves. So, women don't lock their future in marriage, because that's just the beginning of your life, and career and independence will give you a sense of security.
Stupid women fight men, smart women fight themselves. Only when you are independent, your world will be independent.
Women, constantly improving their abilities, will always be a trump card for you.
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Second: women should have a stable mentality
Smile a smile for ten years, happy is a day, sad is also a day, why not choose the former? Smart women will maintain a good attitude and let themselves live calmly and confidently in life.
It is said that "the girl who loves to laugh, the luck will not be too bad", which shows how much a good mentality has a great impact on women.
In an interview, Dong Mingzhu talked about her life, she said that she did not hire a nanny, three meals a day are done by herself, housework is cleaned up by herself, she feels that this is the life she should have.
Dong Mingzhu is a rich person, but she does not regard herself as a rich person, her life is still the same as ordinary people, but what she values most is the livelihood of her own workers.
A person's mentality is good, and her world is good.
Today, Dong Mingzhu is already a household name. But what people weigh most is not that she is a rich person, but that she is capable and fraternal. Let everyone who knows her be in awe of her.
Everyone's life will be full of bitterness and bitterness, and successful people are even more so. What we see is the bright side of Dong Mingzhu, but the heartache behind her is no less than any one person.
The former Dong Mingzhu may be like us, there are failures and successes. However, a good mindset allowed her to rise and achieve real success.
In life, some people always think that their fate is not good, so they will often be anxious. In fact, it's not that you're not good enough, it's that you haven't discovered your potential.
If you are good at exploring your own strengths, making up for your shortcomings, and correcting your attitude towards life, you are also a happy person, a happy person, and a successful person.
People in a lifetime, unsatisfactory nine times out of ten, must be accurate to their own mentality, because the mentality is correct, life will be correct.
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Third: Women have to love themselves
There is a sentence in "Human Disqualification": "My misfortune lies precisely in my lack of ability to refuse, and I am afraid that once I reject others, I will leave a rift in each other's hearts that can never be healed." ”
In the TV series "We Can't Be Beasts", the heroine Shen Haijing is such a woman who is emotionally indecisive.
She was never embarrassed to reject others, and in critical moments, she had to fulfill others even if she hurt herself.
Before a woman loves someone, she should first learn to love herself, and then love the other person under the premise of ensuring that she is not hurt. Not only will you gain the respect of the other party, but you will also protect yourself.
However, Deep Sea Crystal did not do so.
She had a miserable life, broke off relations with her mother for some reason, and lived alone. For the demands of others, there is no bottom line to tolerate and pay.
At work, I get a very small salary, because I can't bear to reject others, and I keep helping others do the work. She has basically not refused anyone else's request. Sacrificing his own interests, he silently swallowed his anger.
What Deep Sea Crystal did was nothing more than to gain the approval of the people around her. However, she didn't get what she wanted and no one cared about her efforts.
In fact, Shen Haijing did not know how to love herself, but in the world of love, she gave the same compassion as the Virgin.
A woman who does not love herself will make people feel that her efforts are deserved, because she herself is willing.
Such a woman, really sad. Her role is to exchange her fraternity for the pity of others.
However, in this world, there is no pity or pity, only fighting and not fighting.
So, women have to love themselves before they love others. Otherwise, like the deep sea crystal, it will survive in the grievances, and the whole world will be happy, but it will only suffer itself.
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Smart women, never spell men, only three things.
You have to fight for independence, fight for mentality, fight for your own ability.
Life is a one-way car with no return journey. There is no need for you to pander, and there is no need for you to watch. And what you can do is to live this moment and make your life without regrets.
Especially women, the responsibility given to you by heaven is not only to have offspring, but also to be independent and have your own happy life while teaching your husband and children.
This requires you to learn to love yourself in life and then constantly improve yourself.
As there is a saying: "Sometimes, looking back at the road you have traveled, you will find that the flying rings bring women not only vicissitudes and aging, it will make women become calm and charming." 」 ”
Years, relying on yourself is the winner in life.