What parents fear most is their children's rebellion.
Although every child has a rebellious period, some children can survive the rebellious period, and some children can make a lot of noise during the rebellious period, so parents have prepared in advance and prepared a bunch of emergency methods for the child's rebellious period.
But in fact, many times the parents are too sensitive, the child is not rebellious sometimes, but the child really encounters some things, encounters some obstacles can not go.
At this time, parents are dealing with it as a rebellion, which will only push the child more and more into the abyss, after all, what the child needs most when encountering ups and downs is your help, rather than your scolding and complaining or even the criticism of standing on the moral high ground.
Parents will have more headaches when they see this, because how to distinguish whether the child is rebellious or psychologically difficult?
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In fact, it is really not so difficult to find, because from the child's state, the tone of the child's speech, and some words that are often hanging on the lips can be distinguished, when the child rebels, you usually let them go to the left, they prefer to go to the right.
Or anything wants to compete with you, this is the child to the rebellious period, and if the child encounters a difficult in his heart, he will usually hang up these 3 sentences, as a parent, it is still necessary to understand it early.
I don't, I don't do it, you do it
Many parents will be angry when they hear their children reject themselves, and according to people, children often rebel against themselves, which will indeed confuse people's cognition.
Parents really think that the child is really rebellious, but in fact, when the child is very resistant to saying I don't want it, I don't do it, when you do it, it shows that the child's heart is very afraid, very afraid of this thing or this thing.
And this time is a hurdle in the child's heart, if the parents force the child to buy this threshold, it will leave an indelible shadow on the child, and it will also hurt the child's heart.
So when the child really refuses and asks you to do it first, it is not rebellion, it is the child who encounters a difficulty.
Forget it, anyway...
When the child says this, in fact, the child is really full of disappointment, because the child actually wants to do this thing, but knows that you will definitely refuse, or know that you will not do anything.
So I broke it first, in fact, this is also a hurdle that the child encounters in courage, and if this hurdle cannot be crossed, the child will be more timid and deny his lack of self-confidence.
Don't think that the child really doesn't care, or really doesn't want to talk to you more, but is rebellious, this is actually the child's heart is hurt by your daily behavior.
You say yes
"Casual, it doesn't matter, you can see the line, you say good"
Familiar? If parents feel familiar, it means that you are really not a qualified parent, because in fact, it means that the child is already a pathology, and these behaviors and statements for the child are also telling you to see your own pathology.
However, many parents feel that this is a means for children to refuse to communicate, and it is also a manifestation of children's rebellion, which is a very wrong idea, because this is just that the child is disappointed in you and does not want to argue.
Or maybe I'm really in a bad mood and don't want to make myself more headaches.
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First, reflect
When the child has a lot of emotional fluctuations, we must first reflect, whether some of the behaviors and things we have done make the child really disgusted and hate, because in fact, many times the child's attitude reflects whether we usually have reasonableness or not.
If the child always says casually, forget it, it means that you are too strong, usually do not care about the child's thoughts and statements, resulting in the child's final joint with you to resist the idea is gone.
Second, to guide
Regardless of whether the child is rebellious or not, it can even be said that the child is rebellious, we parents can not ignore, or learn to guide the child, when the child encounters ups and downs in the heart, we must guide in time.
For example, children in adolescence or school will inevitably have a lot of unpleasantness, then slowly accumulating will form a barrier, which requires parents to guide children not to drill dead ends.
Many children really commit radical behavior during adolescence, and even kill people with knives, and because their parents do not guide them, the short children are more extreme.
Finally, the child has a difficult heart, parents do not care is more likely to make the child's psychological distortion, and now the child's heart is already fragile, not to mention the long-accumulated inner ups and downs can not be vented.
<h1 class="pgc-h-arrow-right" data-track="45" > Mom Alpaca message:</h1>
Every child will encounter adolescent rebellion, or insurmountable obstacles in the heart, or fear or fear, or anger or even disappointment, we can not automatically deny that children have these abilities because they are young.
Helping children to overcome the obstacle in their hearts is actually the homework and homework of parents, learning to let children spend puberty safely, and it is easy for children to fall into the abyss if they cannot learn.
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