What if you can't argue your point of view? | wheat field mailbox

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Hello, recently the mood is the same as the rainy weather, feel that I can not feel empathy with my friends, seem very cold and a little self-blame, feel that I have no thought is very troublesome! I am not good at expressing, every time I am called or talk to express my own views, I will be nervous, I can't sort out my thoughts, and I have begun to become less likely to talk, and after trying to express my disagreement with my views, what I convey back is still the other party's explanation and rebuttal of my own views. Over time, you don't like to express your own opinions, express your disapproval with silence during the conversation, listen to the other party's repeated views, and even feel that the other party seems to want to pour his thoughts into your brain for you to accept. I don't talk, in fact, I am a little resistant, I feel a little tired of getting along with people, but I don't know if this way of coping is right. With my family and friends, I felt that there was nothing to talk about, and I always felt that there was a layer of things between me and others. Sorry to convey all the negative emotions, thank you very much for seeing it!

Prunella

Stills from "The Debate Storm".

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Hello!

I understand your troubles very well. This is an era of opinions, where everyone loves to express themselves and export opinions, but no one is really willing to listen to other people's opinions. If you find that you have different opinions when you are discussing with others, don't be afraid, you need to learn to argue your point of view.

Recently I was reading a new book called The Art of Rational Thinking. In this field of divided opinions, this book can teach you how to argue your own point of view, and I suggest you can turn it over. Argumentation is not simple, it is a skill that needs to be learned. You need to make your argument logically and formally valid, and you need to make your argument sound in truth. It also requires constant learning and practice to construct your own arguments. It also requires you to understand the knowledge behind various disciplines, and as your knowledge grows, your perspective may change, which is an endless process of learning.

In addition, you must first admit your limitations, after all, no one is perfect. You also need to understand the other person's position and reasons. This will help you to argue your own point of view, and second, you can understand the other party's pain. Sometimes it's normal for you to disagree with your family, but it's probably not worth the loss to get upset because of some unimportant views. I believe that people with different views can coexist, provided that everyone agrees to seek common ground while reserving differences.

The duty replied to | Xu Yuedong

This article is proofread | Fu Chunyan

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