Seeing many people, desperately trying to make themselves excellent, constantly worried about what they miss, want to get rid of anxiety.
In the end, it fell into the strange circle of more and more anxiety the more it worked, or did not solve it well under pressure, became more and more depressed, and gradually transformed into insomnia and depression, and life was covered with a layer of gray.
What we usually call uneasiness, anxiety is because we have lost ourselves, we have lost our connection to a more inner self, our minds, our emotions, our thinking power, our connection to something, so that our thoughts and emotions are in constant turmoil, without purpose, without belonging, into a blind and fruitless restlessness.
Very anxious, very confused has become the norm for many people, and like everyone else, I am often anxious, always feel that every day when I wake up, there are all kinds of troubles waiting for me:
Worry about the manuscript is not qualified, worry about the article is not well read, worry about being eliminated...
This process not only consumes a lot of time, but also consumes our energy.
The most important thing is that this state has a self-reinforcing function, that is, when it continues to fall into uneasiness and anxiety, people's mental patterns are slowly shaped, and eventually our minds may be stereotyped, and anxiety and uneasiness become a norm.
What happens to you that can cause your anxiety?
If your child does not obey, you will be irritable, you will be sad when you think of someone, what others say will trigger your anger, and others will be more powerful than you.
Does a house, a lover, a marriage really make you feel safe?
Your emotions will flare up as soon as the emotion button is triggered.
Are you aware of the emotions that you trigger when you are able to control yourself?
Is your happiness hanging on someone else, or is it on you?
Are you like a marionette, being pulled by someone else?
Observing with awareness, what emotions are affected?
Realize why you are being held back by others, why you can't be your own soul master and sit on your throne.
From birth, people constantly experience anxiety, and in order to alleviate this discomfort, people begin to learn, exercise, socialize, and develop various abilities.
People find that the more abilities they have, the longer they stay in their preferred state, and in this state, people are always more able to get a better sense of security experience.
Once you encounter setbacks, anxiety will continue to rise, and in a person's life, it is impossible not to encounter any setbacks.
Behind the anxiety, in the final analysis, it all points to the same problem - you have never dealt with your relationship with yourself: do not understand yourself, do not accept yourself, do not let go of yourself. The mind can't catch up, so the faster it goes, the more wrong it gets.
There are so many things in life that make me anxious. For example, when you can't answer the phone, you will constantly guess whether the other party is in trouble, important documents must be backed up in several places to be assured, the next day when you want to go to a strange place, you will repeatedly check the map, and when you sleep at night, you will lie in bed and worry that tomorrow's work will not be completed.
When I can't meet other people's expectations, I get anxious;
I may be more anxious when I can't meet my expectations.
It keeps me in a state of frustration.
In addition to frustration, there is also a shadowy instinctive negativity.
Psychologist Carl Jung once said: The more you rebel against something, it will not only persist, but it will become more and more powerful.
What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size — What Jung describes is a state of mind in which the more consciously we resist to eliminate our anxiety, the greater the anxiety we get.
Many tweets use the word "confrontation" when describing anxiety.
Fight anxiety.
The word confrontation contains the meaning of opposition and resistance.
Only two sides with completely opposite positions need to be described by "confrontation".
But anxiety is an emotion, an emotion that is born from within us.
Emotions are who we are.
How do we confront ourselves?
We cannot fight against any kind of joy and sorrow.
Because joy and sorrow are emotions.
The existence of emotions is our own reaction and expression of external things.
How can we be happy when we suppress our own expression?
There is such a story:
One morning, Death was walking toward a city.
Someone asked him, "What are you going to do?" ”
Death said, "I'm going to take 100 people." ”
The man said, "It's terrible! I remind everyone! ”
So he spread this plan of the Grim Reaper to others everywhere.
When night fell, he met the god of death again: "You said that 100 people were to be taken away, but why did 1,000 people die?" ”
Death said calmly, "I did take 100 people with me." But anxiety took away more people. ”
It is true that events do make people anxious, but anxiety itself will produce more anxiety, making people deeply involved in it and unable to get out of trouble.
"If you fight with the dragon for too long, you will become a dragon yourself; if you stare into the abyss for too long, the abyss will return to stare." - Nietzsche
What is anxiety? It is a response to uncertainty.
How to face anxiety?
It is a lesson that we must learn.
I will analyze this matter on two levels: material and spiritual.
How do we materially address our anxieties?
It is to create other cash flow other than the main job as early as possible, preferably passive cash flow.
Spiritual level
In most cases, anxiety is a stressful response that facilitates concentrating all efforts on a problem in a short period of time.
We often do these stress responses with one premise: we believe it will soon pass.
However, as things drag on for a long time, we can't be sure when it will end, and anxiety becomes an extended emotional response, and the stress of anxiety will gradually consume our energy, making us feel tired or even confused.
It's like we've been scrambling to prepare for battle, but the enemy of the battle is delayed, and anxiety becomes a bad thing.
Many people are overly anxious fundamentally because they can't accept themselves, can't accept themselves, and can't accept the imperfections in life, the imperfections of others.
People who are overly anxious are very resentful of themselves, they cannot truly accept themselves, and they lose courage and confidence in everything.
Accepting the self is a kind of abandonment, abandoning the illusion and obsession with the perfect self and the perfect world, and abandoning the demanding and excessive control of the self.
When we are too demanding and demanding of ourselves and the external environment, is it also contrary to the orderly state of natural development?
Self-confidence comes from the restraint of the self, but excessive pursuit of perfection and self-repression will make us feel ashamed and inferior, thus avoiding problems.
Anxiety seems to be an external force, but in fact it comes from the heart, which adds a lot of trouble to life, often making us feel that we are useless, cowardly and timid.
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