If someone asks, how to judge whether a woman's marriage is happy or not?
I will definitely say: look at whether her personality changes before marriage and after marriage, the smaller the personality change, the happier the marriage. In marriage, being able to keep you self is a very important indicator of happiness.
01
Xiao Yue is a very lively girl, likes to send a circle of friends, likes to travel, and every bit of life is a little happiness in her eyes.
After graduating from college, she also married her classmates as she wished, but after half a year of marriage, she was like evaporating in the world, the circle of friends was no longer updated, and her classmates rarely heard about her recent situation.
Until 2 years later, she updated a circle of friends: finally, no longer bound!
Friends have left messages in the comment area to care about her, and she also said "away" lightly. Xiao Yue's friends all felt quite shocked, and the whole class of college love cultivation was this pair!
Later, Xiao Yue told her girlfriend about the marriage of these two years.
After getting married, Xiao Yue's husband used the excuse of "not wanting her to work too hard" to prevent her from working and restricting her from making friends.
Every time the husband and wife had a conflict, she wanted to find someone to talk to, and once she spat with her girlfriend about her husband and put the mobile phone on the table.
As a result, her husband found out, and her husband dropped the mobile phone and yelled:
Xiao Yue actually just wanted to find someone to talk to, but she didn't expect her husband to think that "the ugliness of the family cannot be publicized."
There are many more things like this, and Xiaoyue feels that her husband has been controlling her behavior and thoughts. So, she chose to file for divorce, her husband did not agree at first, but also felt that the two people were tired together, and a month later also chose to divorce.
Xiaoyue worked and lived as always, until the beginning of this year, when she announced in the circle of friends that she was "happy to be rich", everyone knew that she had remarried. She also lamented that the partner who can keep you "authentic" is the right person!
02
Contrary to Xiao Yue's experience, Qingqing has been married for four or five years but has always maintained a "girlish feeling" like not getting married, and the state of the whole person is no different from that of when she was in college.
Qingqing's husband supports her work, but when the work is not smooth, he will comfort her, "In fact, it doesn't matter if you don't work." Qingqing has also maintained her circle of friends, chatting with friends every once in a while, girlfriends talking about their lives and difficulties together, and sharing some ways of getting along with each other.
Marriage didn't change anything, but made her life more colorful. Marriages that don't change your personality are the right marriages!
03
If a girl who has always been lively and likes to post all kinds of small things is suddenly quiet after marriage, she will no longer post any news.
Well, the girl's husband is most likely a controlling person. He didn't want everything to be spread out in front of people, good things others would be red-eyed, bad things others would laugh.
Under this control, women will gradually lose the desire to talk, and eventually live into grievances and happiness are carried by themselves as "strong women".
Such a change is not so much a change in women as a compromise on a helpless marriage, and if you have enough to save up, you will leave.
In fact, whether it is a man or a woman, the smaller the change in the state before and after marriage, the higher the happiness and durability of marriage. If you can maintain your "truest self" and a comfortable state in your marriage, then cherish such a marriage.
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