Su Shi said in "He Ouyang Shaoshi Zhi Shi Qi": "Great courage is like timidity, and great wisdom is like foolishness." ”
A truly brave man, he does not pretend to be particularly brave on the surface. Because he knows that bravery is used on the "blade" and not in daily life.
A truly wise man, he will not be too sharp, but choose to be a superficially stupid person. Because he understands that if he shows his sharp edge excessively, he will cause trouble and be excluded.
People in the jianghu, those who are smart on the surface and brave on the surface, will not have a good end after all. Because the human heart has a characteristic, that is, it is specially plotted to kill people and things that are "good on the surface".
Imagine that one day you say in the workplace that you can definitely get a promotion and salary increase in the future, so what kind of consequences will you face?
Your boss will be suspicious of you and even have a dislike for you. And your co-workers will be jealous of you and see you as a thorn in the eye and a thorn in the flesh.
Since the human heart is so complex and the world is so unpredictable, how can we take every step of the future? In fact, to become a "wise and foolish" person, I believe that the second half of our lives will become more and more stable.
Those who are truly "wise and foolish" will have these 15 strategies in their hearts, which are enough to make people go smoothly in their lives.
Handling of affairs
1. Plan and then move.
Dealing with the world is not as simple as hanging a "courage" word on the chest. What we need most is not to be brave for a while, but to make plans and observe the situation before we can formulate countermeasures and strike later.
2, be a low-key person, do things "let the merit".
Working hard in society, we all care about our "credit". However, this credit is difficult for one person to possess. Because you have taken the credit, others will come to grab it and hit you. Then, we need to "give way" and let others also be wet. In this way, we can last.
3, with the light and dust, into the collective.
Lao Tzu has a saying that is very good, and its light, with its dust. People who can really "fish in the water", they can adapt to any environment, but also can effectively survive in the collective, do not sin against people, do not do eye-catching thorns.
4. Retreat as advance, defense as offense.
A man's great wisdom is not manifested in his blindness, but in his wisdom. A sharp sword is often easily consumed by people and is frightening. Only by becoming a solid shield can we dispel the doubts of others, retreat to advance, and defend as offense.
5. Follow the rules and go with the flow.
In society, in the workplace, no matter what kind of situation we are in, we should maintain a principle, that is, to abide by the rules that should be there, and not to violate the rules. Because those who go against the grain will not have a good end after all.
Temperament
6. Hide the instrument in the body, and be patient and wait for it.
A knife, no matter how sharp it is, cannot shine. A person, even if he is talented, cannot be sharp. When you are weak, you can only usher in opportunities by being patient.
7, half awake and half confused, less persistent.
In this world, in fact, the most taboo is not monetary interests, but people are too "serious". People who are too serious often have a hard time mixing well. Therefore, it is appropriate to be confused, open one eye, close one eye, and you can last a long time.
8, half a villain, half a gentleman, flexible people.
On the issue of "gentlemen" and "villains", most people think that gentlemen are the best and villains are not good. In fact, when a gentleman should be a gentleman, when he should be a villain, he will be a villain, which is the attitude of being a flexible person.
9, secret development, leaving no trace.
The reason why people are flexible is because development takes time and opportunity. And if we want to buy ourselves time to develop, we can't offend others, but we can do whatever we see. In this way, you will not become the target of public criticism.
10, less words, more deeds, silence.
A man, the more he says, the more wrong he is. Because a person's words will often bring a person into the Jedi. In this way, less talk, do more, and even less express your opinions, in order to put yourself in a safe situation.
Communicative
11. Be humble and humble.
Why do young people always hit the "south wall"? Because they are proud and do not know the way of humility. When interacting with people, you must restrain your pride and temperament, and open your heart to let others feel your sincerity.
12 What is good is good, and what is evil is evil.
To be too kind is to be a rotten good person. There are many evils for people, and that is the perpetrator. To deal with the world, we must grasp the degree of "good and evil" well. Be good to gentlemen, and evil to evil people, and do not act without using your brains to harm yourself.
13, the heart mirror, the eyes like a lamp.
In dealing with people, we cannot trust a person too much, nor can we pay too much attention to a person. You know, the human heart in this world is unpredictable. Only by recognizing the purpose of the other party can we see the opportunity to act.
14, take yourself as the mainstay, not leeks.
People are floating in the rivers and lakes, and they are most afraid of becoming a confused leek. At any time, we need to consider our own safety and interests, and we cannot be wishful thinking. The former can live longer, while the latter is generally messed up.
15. Draw boundaries and stick to principles.
Many people believe that to work hard in society, you need to change your principles. Actually, this is not true. Because what matters most to a person is not his ability, but his boundaries as a person. Talented and virtuous are pillars, while talented and virtuous are dangerous goods.
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