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"The Wolf Road" puts forward such a point of view, a brave and good wolf, it will never appear in front of others' eyes, but is on the verge of unexpected.
Sheep flock, but it can only eat grass when it travels all over the world. And the evil wolf walks alone, but it can eat meat when it travels all over the world.
Gregarious and unsociable determine whether you are on the edge or not. Especially in the workplace, if you are a social, then you are a member of the circle. If you don't fit in, then others will reject you and even look down on you.
I have met such a "personality" person, he is fierce in his work, and his personality is unique, like a "lone wolf". Although he is a person, he can still do things perfectly.
If a person is capable, and some aspects are particularly prominent, then he will naturally be jealous of others, and even isolated by others. It is a pity that it is such a good person that he has become a "marginal person".
His friend asked him, you have become a "marginal person" now, maybe you can only mix in this company as you are now, so do you still choose to do this?
He only said one sentence, the level is different, and others will not accept you if they are gregarious. Since this is the case, it is better to study silently by yourself, and perhaps there will be a greater breakthrough.
You know, in life, those who are marginalized and unsociable, often not ordinary people, have these 3 advantages.
02
People who are marginalized and unsociable have a firm temperament.
In contemporary society, people do not lack wisdom in the brain, but lack personal principles and firm disposition.
In a unit, in fact, everyone has a certain strength. However, in the face of powerful groups, people will choose to give up their dignity and thus humbly integrate into circles that do not belong to them.
When Xiao Wang first came to work in the unit, he was a newcomer, a small white in the jianghu, who didn't understand anything, and he didn't know anything about human feelings. Therefore, he can only go with the flow and dare not adhere to his principles.
When others told him to do this, he did not even think about it, but chose to blindly follow. In the end, he also suffered the fate of "helping people carry the black cauldron".
Since experiencing the calculations of others, Xiao Wang has also understood this point, that is, being too social, he will only be treated as a slave without dignity, calling for it and waving it away.
In fact, each of us will have such a terrible experience. However, it is precisely because we have experienced that we become lonely. You know, stick to your own principles, in order to better live out what you think of yourself.
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People who are marginalized and unsociable are good at "quiet solitude."
Tai Shi Gong once sighed that the hustle and bustle of the world is all for profit, and the world is all for profit.
No matter in which era, it is human nature to come for profit and go for profit. More importantly, in today's materialistic world, people's hearts are only restless, and there is no trace of peace.
At school, you ask students who haven't yet graduated, what do you want to do in the future? They will definitely say that they have to keep up with the trend, be an influencer, and make a lot of money.
In the workplace, you ask the employees, what kind of workplace life do you want to live? They will definitely say that if they want to join the group, they can mix up the performance and make a lot of money.
In fact, none of these people have ever thought about what they really want to pursue. You know, blindly following the tide, blindly going into the community, echoing the restless trend, I believe we will not be able to live well.
In life, those who are marginalized and unsociable, they all have their own set, their hearts are relatively calm, and they are accustomed to being alone, and they have achieved what Tao Yuanming called "the heart is far away from self-bias".
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People who are marginalized and unsociable have strong psychological adjustment skills.
Some psychologists believe that the gap between people lies in the ability of "psychological regulation".
What is "psychological regulation"? That's the attitude you take in the face of all kinds of emotions. In the face of sadness, if you blindly complain about others and give up on yourself, I believe that your psychological adjustment ability is extremely poor.
On the contrary, if you can withstand loneliness and resist the cold hearts of the world, then your psychological adjustment ability is particularly powerful.
Those who are gregarious, don't look at them as being in the group, but they can't even "live independently", and as soon as they leave the circle, they have a "sense of loss". How can such a person live the rest of his life?
And those who do not fit in, don't look at them are used to being alone, but they are the "chivalrous guests" in life, spanning thousands of miles, a sword and a wine, a life, not only strong in heart, but also dashing and free, envious.
Sometimes, being a marginal person is a grinding of yourself. The so-called "plum blossom fragrance comes from the bitter cold". If you are always in groups, then how can you have a huge breakthrough in life?
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Write to the end
From childhood to adulthood, many people have told us that we must know how to be social and know how to do a good job of interpersonal relations with others. Otherwise, it is easy to mix.
In fact, these people only talked about the skin, and did not tell us the "essence". Only by improving your own ability, getting rid of the low-level circle, and raising your own level is the king of interpersonal relations.
You know, low-level people like to worry about small things. And people at a high level, they value ability and confidence. You have the ability to attract a whole bunch of friends. This is "hard power."
So don't worry about not being out of place, but be happy about not being social. Because this time alone is a critical period for you to accumulate and develop.
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