Text/Monday Sauce
In 2014, Li Xiaoran, who experienced two love injuries, suddenly chose to "flash marriage" and married Xu Jianning, a male girlfriend who had been in love for half a year. When proposing, Xu Jianning made a high-profile confession: "Marry me, I will give you 500 million yuan and let you do it." "Eight years on, this marriage that was slightly hastily married, what is going on now?"
Li Xiaoran is 17 years old and met Xu Jianning because of drama. Because of his similar temperament, he quickly became a good friend. The two will have a private dinner and exchange filming experience, but they will never talk about feelings.
Later, Li Xiaoran had two boyfriends, one broke up because of too much control, and the other had been in a relationship for 7 years, ending up without a problem.
These two relationships not only affected her career development, but also made her body and mind suffer greatly. And all this, Xu Jianning saw in his eyes.
In order to help her get out of the haze of lost love, Xu Jianning asked her to play ball, sing, skate every three to five... Even, with some seemingly clumsy tricks, help her adjust her mood.
When Li Xiaoran was at her most difficult, one day, Xu Jianning said to her: "The doctor said that I had high blood sugar and wanted me to run, but I couldn't hold on to it alone, so you should accompany me." Li Xiaoran was not moving, and wanted to refuse, but he could not stand his soft grinding hard bubbles, or agreed. Who knows, after running with her for two months, she actually found that she had been deceived.
At that time, the two people ran together every day, and slowly, Li Xiaoran's appetite and sleep became better.
One day, Li Xiaoran wanted to accompany Xu Jianning to the review, and Xu Jianning told the truth: I am not sick, exercise is the best healing agent, you are a good girl, I just want you to be happy.
Such careful companionship and encouragement not only touched Li Xiaoran, but also made her realize that perhaps this man is the person who can rely on for a lifetime.
In this way, the two hearts got closer and closer, gradually developed into a couple, and after falling in love for half a year, they quickly entered the marriage.
After marriage, the two lived a quiet and good life. When you don't work, you just hide at home, walk, raise flowers, and enjoy life. When working, it is also disconnected.
Once, Li Xiaoran wanted to go to a warship to shoot a variety show, and in order to be able to contact his lover every day, he specially bought a maritime phone for her. There are many small details such as this, and it is these real cares that make Li Xiaoran feel that she is married to the right person.
Therefore, Li Xiaoran became more and more family-loving. In her own words: "Before I got married, I filmed every day, the crew was home, and after I got married, I had worries in my heart, and I wanted to go home as soon as I went out." ”
From the first acquaintance at the age of 17 to the marriage at the age of 38, 21 years of silent companionship finally let her see his goodness.
Today, the two have been married for 8 years and are still sweet and loving.
After reading their emotional experience, I think of a sentence: Behind a happy marriage, there is a man with three positive views.
What are the Three Views?
1. In times of adversity, he can give you positive strength
Sanmao said: "With my heart, in exchange for your heart, only then do you know the depth of lovesickness, and only then do you know that we share happiness and suffering." ”
No matter how strong a woman is, she will be vulnerable and have things that she can't reach. And a good man will give unconditional support and companionship. Just like when Li Xiaoran fell out of love, he tried to help her divert her attention and take her out of the predicament.
2. In good times, he can keep his bottom line
Yan Geling said: "Marriage is a strict discipline. ”
It includes: the observance of promises, the restraint of Y hope, and the sobriety of the unbreakable bottom line in marriage.
Whether marriage can come to the end is a test of a person's character. A man with three views will fulfill his commitment, escort his feelings with a sense of responsibility, and shield the other party from the wind and rain.
3. When they get along, they can give you understanding and respect
Xue Zhaofeng said: "Women sacrifice themselves earlier, will be P in the weaker side, at this time, men should come up with more chips, to appear fair." ”
Men with three views of righteousness know how to prove their affection with fairness and justice. Respect each other's efforts, and understand the other half's difficulty.
Because in the end of marriage, the test is not a person's romance, but whether the person can achieve the most basic understanding, respect and dedication.
In short, behind the happy marriage, there is a man with three views, who knows how to pay, knows how to operate, and knows how to shoulder the responsibility of marriage.
Truly excellent men are not rich and powerful, but have attitudes, temperatures, and initial intentions.
May you, with a tacit attitude, a mature attitude, carefully care for hard-won feelings, day after day, accompanied by your lover.
Author: Monday Sauce, a girl who wants to drive a caravan to the end of the world, may we become friends.
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