In the book Distant Savior, there is such a sentence:
"The more advanced philosopher is alone not because he wants to be alone, but because he can't find his kind around him."
In a sense, the higher a person's IQ, the easier it is to have a sense of loneliness of "high and low".
Just like Jin Yong's "lonely and defeated", why is it that the martial arts are superb but still depressed and lonely all their lives?
Just because there is no opponent in the martial arts jianghu of loneliness and defeat, a jianghu master cannot find a good opponent, how lonely is this?
There are two states of solitude: active pursuit and passive choice.
Those who actively choose to be alone are not simple, because they have learned to cherish their time alone.
Those who passively choose to be alone are often passive decisions made after "not finding the same kind".
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Why do people like to be alone?
First: "A view of the mountains is small" loneliness
This kind of solitude belongs to "passive solitude".
It's not that they don't want to fit into the circle, or that they don't want to find some like-minded people, but in the circle around him, no one can read him and start a normal dialogue relationship with him.
A philosopher, what they think about every day is philosophy, the relationship between birth and entry, life, the meaning of life.
He wanted to pursue the truth, but he was always trapped by the truth.
The way he sees things and thinks is so transparent that he doesn't feel the joy in the eyes of others.
The sadness in his eyes, others do not understand; there is no happiness in his eyes, so he cannot fit into the noise around him.
It's like a person climbing high and looking far, climbing one mountain after another, but there is no one around to go along.
This loneliness leads them to choose to be alone.
In solitude, we find a deeper meaning in life; we also find more and more loneliness on the road to self-discovery.
Second: "Withdrawn" and "introverted" in personality
Another kind of solitude is due to one's character.
For example, those who are "socially phobia", in the face of social interaction will make them confused, the whole person's body and mind are in a tense state.
Forcing yourself to fit into a certain circle will make you feel uncomfortable and consume your energy excessively.
After repeated fruitless attempts to blend into the surrounding circles, they prefer to be alone.
Only when they are alone can they completely relax.
You don't have to be anxious about social relationships, you don't have to be timid because you deal with people.
Only when he is alone can he completely relax and be himself.
Third: Cherish the opportunity to be alone and find yourself
In the end, people are actually "looking for themselves" all their lives.
Learning is to let us have a deeper understanding, reading is to enrich our vision, knowledge, let us have our own views on a thing, establish our own three views.
And falling in love and getting married is also a path that verifies the meaning of our lives.
In the final analysis, people look for their own value and the meaning of life on different paths.
Some people live in order to get higher grades;
Some people are there to bring joy and help to others;
Some people, on the other hand, travel thousands of miles and read thousands of books in order to see the wider world outside.
It is precisely because they have a higher pursuit of life and want to understand themselves more urgently, they are more willing to be alone.
In the days of singleness, cherish one's time;
In a person's life, cherish these days and strive to improve your abilities.
Those who can "withstand the temperament" are not simple.
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The greatest wisdom of a person: cherish being alone
In this life, there are very few opportunities to be alone.
When you are studying, you can be alone; after graduation, you can work and live alone.
If you do a good job, there is very little time that people can spend alone, that is, only a few years.
Like what:
After falling in love and getting married, you want to be alone, and it is a luxury to be alone, read a book, and enjoy the weekend break.
Especially after getting married and having children, the responsibilities and burdens on your body are heavier, and you simply don't have much time to stop and think and rest.
So, in the days when you can be alone, cherish these years well.
Read more books, go out to see more, feel every beauty of life, enjoy life, and strive to be the best version of yourself.
What are the benefits of being alone?
First, being alone can make a person know more about themselves.
Have you ever tried the state of "meditation"?
Let your mind be empty, don't think about anything, in the process of meditation, you can harvest more peace and inner peace.
Only by being alone with yourself can you discover yourself, understand yourself, and recognize your strengths and weaknesses.
Second, solitude allows us to build a "margin of social interaction."
What is the marginality of socialization?
In fact, it is: a sense of proportion.
If you are not alone and are afraid of being alone, then you are eager for relationships, eager to be in contact with people.
Then, it is always difficult for you to find a sense of proportion, and it is easy to overly affect the lives of others.
Only by learning to be alone can you find a balance in socializing.
Finally, being alone can improve our cognition.
Only by being alone can we calm down and think about our current work, life and feelings.
When you are busy and gregarious, these are difficult to calm down and think clearly.
And only by being alone can you diverge your thinking and give you a more rational and clear mind.
Today's Topic:
Do you like to be alone?
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