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The question of whether man's nature is inherently good or inherently evil has been debated, mencius believed that man's original nature was good, but due to different living environments, personality is different. In contrast, Mencius's inherent evil nature, Xunzi's exposition of "human nature inherently evil", compared to Mencius's "human nature is inherently good", is a progress. There is both logic, not like Mencius's nonsense; and there is argument, not like Mencius's nonsense.
From a psychological point of view, being a good person requires great effort, sometimes even a counter-instinctive behavior, because of the need for altruism and identification with the superego, but people's instincts are to pursue the principle of happiness, but blindly pursuing happiness may lead to other people being hurt, "Satya Transformative Family Therapy" in the book introduction, good people are accustomed to taking care of other people's feelings, often ignoring their own feelings, and trying to avoid making others feel uncomfortable, but such an approach often makes them feel uncomfortable.
So since people enter society and want to become good people with moral role models, why do some people do evil or some people would rather suppress their desires and be a good old man?
There is a classic effect of psychology that may explain this problem, and that is the famous black sheep effect.
The so-called black sheep effect is that in a group, a group of people unconsciously hurt the new people who join the group, but the strange person who is hurt is also very innocent, the person who bullied him is not intentional, and the bystander is useless.
In this gang, the person who is hurt is called the black sheep, and the person who hurts them is called the butcher, and the person who looks at them with a cold eye can be called a white sheep or a bystander. This constitutes the black sheep effect.
The reason why this effect is widely spread is that everyone who hurts others is not intentional, for example, some time ago, in the incident when the door of the coat brother was kicked, the villagers were very poor, they saw that the honest coat brother was very hot, so they hoped to take the mobile phone to record his life to win the attention of netizens to make money, but the coat brother who has been at home behind closed doors provoked the anger of the villagers, so he kicked open the door of the coat brother's house, and transferred the resentment of the poor life to the coat brother, so that there is no need to face his weakness and incompetence. You can escape the responsibility of living hard but still living badly, so Brother Coat has become the innocent black sheep who was selected and a channel for the public to vent their emotions
So why do we know that these people are doing evil, but others are looking at it coldly?
The French sociologist Lebbin believes that "de-individuation" has played a huge role here.
That is to say, when many people do evil, all kinds of emotions will be transmitted to everyone, and even some people will believe that these people deserve to suffer after being infected.
Each of us may play a role in the black sheep effect: at home, for example, at home, parents and relatives take turns urging you to marry, regardless of your feelings.
Psychologist Philip Zimbardo proposed the famous psychological effect , the "Lucifer effect":
Individuals are susceptible to certain circumstances in which the individual's ability to judge declines dramatically— and we may fall from angels to demons against our instincts.
When we suffer from group exclusion for no reason, it is best to calmly tell everyone about the whole thing, at this time do not get emotionally excited, because everyone lacks rational judgment in their hearts, if you are emotional at this time, it is easy to arouse everyone's anger.
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You must know that in the black sheep effect, no one wants to be a demon, everyone is just bound by the environment and emotions, as long as everyone thinks rationally, they will stop the evil hands.
This effect also reveals a truth, that is, in a person's heart, angels and demons coexist, there is no one who is definitely an angel or who is definitely a demon, we must be aware of ourselves and the things around us when doing things, and be unashamed.