What are the disadvantages of being good at abstract thinking?

When you put a concept into a specific problem, everything becomes clear.

For example, personality problems, some people say that they are introverted, then it means that he feels that he is very introverted in many occasions.

But when we go back to a specific occasion, back to a specific question – how do you introduce yourself well in a group of strangers?

Then the answer will be very clear, you think about what to say, and then practice it once, twice, three times, four times, and then you can talk about it.

If you think about your former self, you will find many such "firsts", and after these first failures, how do you summarize this failure?

To sum up with some big concepts? Or do you just think of it as a thing?

Therefore, we must be vigilant against the instinct of summarizing and summarizing, and let ourselves return to specific problems, and only when we return to specific problems can we not be bound by one concept after another.

Too many people feel introverted, feel shy, feel bad luck, and end up losing the opportunity to grow in this self-fulfilling prophecy.

In addition to the concept of upgrading, there are also upgrade relationships, such as going to a friend's house, parents let the child call the uncle, the child called a bit and then continued to play mobile phones.

At this time, the mother is very angry, scolding the child and saying: You are very rude like this!

Is such a scene familiar?

So the question is, is what Mom said right? The friend who went to visit did not think that the child was rude to play with the mobile phone, and the child himself certainly did not feel it.

Who is the last person to feel rude? Of course it was Mom, who felt lost face.

So the problem is, this problem is not actually the relationship between the child and the guest, but the relationship between the child and the mother, the relationship between the child and the mother has a problem, and the mother generalizes the problem as "impolite".

You are not polite, you are very rude to everyone, you play with your mobile phone to make your mother feel very faceless, this is a three-level problem.

We are always used to exaggerating problems, kidnapping others, and using the concept of grandeur to achieve our own goals.

The mother here kidnaps the guests, making the children feel that it is rude to everyone to do so.

In life you often meet people who use the power of "everyone" to achieve their own ends, especially those who like moral kidnapping.

Because moral issues are essentially the consensus of everyone.

So we also need to be vigilant against this kind of sublimation, the problem of two people, escalated to everyone's problem, when the problem becomes everyone's problem, the pressure will become greater, the relationship will naturally deteriorate.

Induction and summarization, relationship sublimation or sublimation are all ways of thinking abstractly, and they are also one of the sources of human wisdom.

Only when we begin to generalize, to summarize, to abstract analysis, to enlarge into a wider group of people, can we have a greater pattern and vision, and we can also find universal laws and increase our knowledge.

But we need to always be vigilant against the disadvantages of this kind of abstract thinking, that is, rising too high to be grounded, but forgetting the real problem, the real relationship.

So in addition to the ability to think abstractly, we also need to have a moment of self-consciousness to return to the problem itself.

All attitude problems can be decomposed into ability problems, and all ability problems can become method problems.

As long as it is a method problem, it can be obtained through deliberate practice, then the problem is naturally not a problem.

In the same way, all abstract big concepts, what civilization, what morality, what culture, what ideas, etc., finally need to return to concrete people.

As long as you get a specific person, then you can re-understand the beautiful concepts of civilization, morality, culture, philosophy, etc. under the stars.