Venus,Retrograde.
During the New Year's Festival, other boys like to set off firecrackers and chase and fight.
Venus is different.
She (he) thought that was too rude and dangerous. Or put grease and powder on your face to make yourself more beautiful.
▲ Venus's dream when he was 6 years old.
At the age of 6, Venus looked forward to thunder every day.
When lightning strikes you, you will wake up and become a girl.
Of course, this dream of being "struck by lightning" has never been realized. At that time, Venus did not expect that she or he would have a wife named Kemperin in the future.
Venus underwent sex reassignment surgery on Qingming Festival in 1995, but the marriage with Kemperin did not end until 2000, when Shemboling became pregnant.
How did Venus handle this at the time? How did Kemperine live?
In 1967, Venus was born in Shenyang, and has an older sister, Jin Xianglan.
You may know that Venus is Korean when you see this surname.
When Venus was born, her mother hid under her bed in the hospital for a night to prevent stray bullets.
Although life cannot be said to be "very good", the mother has been using her shoulders to shield her from the wind and rain.
Whenever she recalls her childhood, she always praises her mother:
I always dressed cleanly in my childhood, and it was because of my mother's hard work.
This resolute character of her mother and her turbulent childhood also affected her life later.
As a child, Venus showed an unusual passion for dance.
At the age of 4, she began to show her beauty on stage.
Because of her high talent, she was selected to join the school's Korean literature and art propaganda team.
There were 18 girls in the team, but only 2 boys. So everyone gave Little Venus a nickname called "Little Daughter-in-law".
She didn't think anything of it, but instead expected the teacher to put blush on her face and dress herself up beautifully.
In 1976, at the age of 9, Venus wanted to apply for the Army's Literary and Labor Corps, but her mother disagreed. The reason is that going to college is the only way out at the moment.
Few people know that in addition to being good at dancing, Venus is actually quite talented in her studies, and she won the first place in the abacus competition at a very young age. Her mother hoped that she would study hard, go to college, and take the "right path."
▲ In the old video data, Venus's movements have been biased towards women.
Venus, of course, is not willing to compromise.
She stayed up late every day to write a letter of determination to the admissions officers of the Literary and Labor Corps. In order to express her determination, she had to fight with her mother. First I didn't go to school, and then I went on hunger strike.
Later, the mother was also shocked by her persistence, and helplessly left a sentence:
Do whatever you want, just think about it.
Venus finally got his wish to join the literary troupe.
▲ Venus and father.
She was the youngest in the group, but her training intensity was no less than that of the other children.
In winter, every day, get up and run three or five kilometers in the morning to warm up, and then go to the practice room with one person and one pillar, with the tiptoes up, and tie the legs and pillars with ropes.
In the summer, she is still the last to stay in the studio. At the end of each training session, the sweat on the clothes can be wrung out of half a bucket.
Venus later said:
I'm luckier than other transgender people, but this luck is something I earned myself by breaking my teeth.
The reason why Venus can achieve later success is because of her fierceness, especially for herself to be "fierce".
Because it was a boy, Venus's ligaments were always not as soft as girls'. In a group of girls, although Venus's movements are done to the most standard, her femininity has never been able to fight girls.
In this way, she has not been able to get a good role.
Until one time the group rehearsed "Golden Mountain War Drums", a girl fell ill.
The teacher hired Venus and 2 other girls to choose a substitute.
All of Venus's movements were well done, with only one "pulling the hind leg" movement inferior to that of the two girls.
▲ Venus's early women's clothing photos.
Girls are inherently more flexible than boys, and it is effortless to do this, while Venus can't do it.
The teacher sighed and said:
Venus, you can't jump if you can't do this action. Well, if you can pull your leg up in a week, I'll let you play.
In fact, when he first said this, the teacher did not have much hope for Venus. Because practicing this action in a week is almost impossible.
No one knows what Venus went through in the week after that, but she succeeded.
▲ Venus on the stage is always radiant.
It was that appearance that brought the attention of a veteran choreographer to her.
He felt that Venus was very spirited, and he took her everywhere he went, and there were new movements for her to experience first.
Because of that "fierce" energy, whether it is a boy or a girl's movements, Venus will do it and do it better than the girl.
In 1985, Venus went to participate in the first "Tao Li Cup" dance competition, and Venus danced the "Pamir Pastoral Song", which had a scene of a shepherd boy teasing the lamb. In this competition, Venus used the original "toe tip dancing" jumping method, which stood out from more than 400 high-ranking players from all over the world and won the first place in the junior men's group.
Since then, Venus's dance career seems to have been hanging all the way.
At the age of 20, he was sent to the United States to learn modern dance, and then held a solo work evening in South Korea.
At the age of 24, he became a screenwriter at the American Dance Festival, and his work "Half a Dream" won the "Best Choreography Award" of the American Dance Festival.
▲ Venus (middle) in the background. At that time, the appearance was already quite feminine.
While studying in the United States, Venus met Kemperine, who was also studying dance in the United States, and Kempolen's boyfriend, Eric.
Kemperine and Eric felt that the rent in New York was expensive, and when they saw that Venus's house was very large, they discussed with Venus whether they could share the house and share the room rate.
Venus was a public student at the time, supported by tuition and living expenses, including rent.
Venus half-jokingly asked Kemperine if she would like to marry her, so that Kemperin and her boyfriend could move to Venus's big house for free, and Venus could get a green card and study dance in the United States more smoothly.
The three of them hit it off and decided to do just that.
▲ Venus in youth.
Interestingly, the witness to Venus and Kempolen's marriage was None other than Kembolling's boyfriend Eric.
In fact, Kempolen and Eric still trust Venus.
First of all, Venus and Eric are also good friends, and of course they can't betray their friends. Secondly, and most importantly, Venus doesn't like women at all...
Not long after the marriage, Venus began to tour, and her busy contact with the young couple became very small, only the house was still reserved for the two of them.
Around 1995, Venus returned home.
She's going to accomplish something she's always wanted to accomplish —changing genders.
Venus was admitted to the ward of Xiangshan Hospital, and the doctor asked her to go for a psychological examination first.
▲ Venus in Xiangshan Hospital.
On the Qingming Festival in 1995, Venus lay on the operating table of Xiangshan Hospital.
Before that, she completed a psychological test that the doctor had brought her.
There are more than 1000 questions.
If the answer is 60% in line, then there is a feminine tendency, but it is not suitable for transformation.
If 75% of them are in line, then it is biased towards women, but it can be corrected by treatment.
If more than 80% of them meet, they basically meet the standards for women and can go for surgery.
And Venus's score is as high as 94 points.
The grades are so "good", the doctor will not persuade her to turn back, tell her that you do it, no problem.
So it began.
If you've ever learned about sex reassignment surgery, you'll find that it's a pretty painful one.
Transgender people are really "warriors", both psychologically and physically.
Venus's surgery lasted 16 hours.
When she woke up, the doctor told her that everything was going well, except for one leg...
Because of the nurse's negligence, one of Venus's calves was crushed, and the nerves from the calf to the tip of the toe were all necrotic, and even if they recovered, they would most likely be disabled.
What this means for a dancer, Venus knows better than we do.
But Venus does not believe in evil, she said:
As long as people don't die, as long as I can get this leg back, I can do anything.
What she did in the months after that we can't imagine, but the legs, really, got it back.
More than 4 months after being discharged from the hospital, Venus dragged her still unconscious legs and stood on the stage again. She returned to the stage of "The Red and the Black" in 3 months.
Returning to the front of the stage also means that Venus must face gossip.
She says she understands, but more often than not she is understood.
At first, she would resist to explain, but after a long time, she felt that with all the mouths and gold, how could she resist with only one mouth.
Later, Venus understood that her "difference" was difficult to accept. She figured it out:
I want to be successful in my career and become a successful person before society can accept my difference.
Instead of begging for approval, become powerful.
▲ Venus in front of the camera has become more beautiful and powerful.
Venus, which is on the stage again, is more powerful than before.
She not only created brilliant achievements in the field of dance, but also worked well in the field of television variety.
However, behind the hilarity, she forgot one person- Kemperine.
One day in 2000, Venus received a phone call from Kemperine.
She said she was pregnant and the child was not Venus's.
Venus nodded, Emmm ~~~ Sister Jin has long since become a woman, and the child is certainly not hers.
Kemperine called to ask for a divorce because she was pregnant with Eric's child and wanted to marry Alec before the child was born.
Venus then remembered that she had a wife in the United States!
Immediately after the performance, she flew to the United States to divorce Kemperin.
Today, Kemperine has her own children and has a very happy life after marrying her sweetheart.
And Venus also found the person she wanted to love after the divorce. She adopted 3 children and met her true son, Hans.
Venus and Hans.
In February 2004, on a plane from Paris to Shanghai, Venus met Hans, a German man in a neighboring seat.
The two married on February 1, 2005.
However, only 1 year later, Venus divorced Hans because of the child's adoption certificate and household registration problems.
But the divorce did not put an end to the relationship between the two.
After settling the child's problems, Venus remarried Hans on August 18, 2018.
Today's Venus has lived out her own trajectory, geng outspoken is her label, even if it hits the head and bleeds, she is still proud.
▲ Venus with three children.
"Retrograde" hurts a lot of times, and the only thing we can do is be more tolerant and understanding.
As Venus himself said:
It is very normal and natural for others to talk about me and talk about me. I am very grateful to those who can understand me; and if not, time will make you understand. However, I always thought I had done something very honest.
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