"Forget it, don't do it, it's too much trouble."
"Still don't eat, it's too much trouble."
"Don't go, it's too much trouble."
"Give up, it's too much trouble."
Is a similar sound familiar?
Have you ever met a similar "fear of trouble" person in your life?
Or are you a person who is very afraid of trouble, troublesome?
One of the collective confusions of contemporary adults:
"While eager to step out of your comfort zone and change yourself, you are afraid of trouble and too lazy to invest in costs and try more."
What is the essence of life?
It's little thing after thing, one connection after another.
If something comes to you and you don't solve it in time, then the next little thing that you ignore will be replaced by a bigger trouble.
Most people are not "afraid of trouble", but make an excuse for their laziness.
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Fear of trouble is a person's "inert psychology"
There are a lot of breakfast places near the neighborhood.
Among them, there are 2, which have been operating for more than 20 years, and the business has been very hot, and the people who go to breakfast every day are some "familiar faces".
However, as the size of the community grows larger, there are many more breakfast restaurants around.
However, several new stores, one of which, did not last even for 2 months.
Because the owner of this shop is a young man, the reason why he can't do it is that breakfast is too early.
Steaming dumplings, to be noodles, fermenting, wrapping dumplings, this process in between is long and complex.
The two shopkeepers who have been operating for more than 20 years have worked from their youth to the present.
They insist on getting up early every day for ten years, preparing everything early, and doing every step step by step.
In contrast, one is laziness and the other is persistence.
Later, I heard people around me say that the reason why the young people's shop was not working was because it was "too troublesome."
"Getting up early is too much trouble, doing morning is too troublesome, and making the smell of morning every day is too troublesome."
In fact, it is a trouble, or an excuse for not being able to stick with it.
There is such an interesting story.
A person's home faucet is broken, but he is too lazy to call someone to repair it, and he does not want to go to the store to buy tools to change, thinking that these are too troublesome.
So he casually found a wire and blocked the faucet with a piece of cloth.
When you can use it, open the faucet again, and when you can't use it, block it again.
One day, the man was not at home, and when he returned home, he found that the house was full of water.
Because the faucet is completely cracked, the water does not stop.
Only then did he chagrin and regret his original "perfunctory".
If the faucet was broken at that time, he was not afraid of trouble, and he bought tools in time to repair it, and it would not be in exchange for the big trouble he has now.
Essentially, fear of trouble is another form of laziness.
Laziness, on the other hand, is divided into physical laziness and mental (mental) laziness.
What is physical laziness?
The simplest example:
The family made a meal and told you to get up and go to dinner, and you still felt that it was troublesome to eat.
When someone washes the fruit and brings it to you, you feel troubled; you think that eating fruit is too troublesome.
What is laziness in thinking?
Knowing that indulging in trouble is bad and wrong, he still insists on doing so.
Like the example of "the faucet is broken" mentioned above.
He could have fixed the faucet as soon as possible, but he delayed it until it was more serious.
This is mental laziness.
"I knew I was wrong, I knew I had to change, but I just didn't."
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Fear of trouble is a habit of "mindset"
In the book "Thinking, Fast and Slow", there is this passage:
"The brain often has two mindsets that help us make decisions. One is lazy thinking, which makes decisions based on our experience and habits; the other is thinking thinking, after some deliberation, before making a decision. ”
These two modes of thinking are the most obvious difference between fear of trouble and fear of trouble.
The reason why some people are reluctant to fall in love is that they are afraid of trouble.
They often think in their hearts:
"Re-acquaintance with a person, slowly understand, repeat what has been done in the previous relationship; to do this, it is not necessarily successful, if the relationship fails, you have to repeat this step, it is too troublesome." 」
You see, when this kind of thinking arises, they take the lead in holding a "negative mindset."
"I can't, I'm going to fail, so don't go, so trouble."
Because of the negative mentality, he feels troubled; and always being troublesome will encourage the negative psychology in his heart.
This state is a typical "lazy way of thinking".
What you stop doing now because you are afraid of trouble will one day become "bigger trouble" waiting for you.
Like what:
A person is too lazy to cook, order takeout for three meals a day, or go out and eat casually.
He often talks about "cooking too much trouble".
But this unhealthy way of eating for ten years will one day drag down his body.
There are some things that can not be done, and some things, but we must not be "afraid of trouble".
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How to avoid the "fear of trouble" mentality?
Don't rush to question the outcome, you just have to do it.
The easiest way is to try to do it, only if you try you have a chance to succeed, do not want to try, you do not even have the chance to succeed.
It's like work, life, feelings.
Before you started, you gave up "too much trouble", how do you know if you will succeed if you try hard?
There are many things in this world, which are actually not difficult, but the "inert thinking" in your subconscious makes you stop moving.
If you're willing to try to take the first step, then the next thing is not as difficult as you think.
Because "everything is difficult at the beginning", I have tried it, and naturally I don't feel difficult.
Today's Topic:
Are you a "trouble-fearing" person?
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