Although in different generations,
But Dong Jie, Zhu Zhu and Yuan Shanshan are all on the screen
Left behind works on the expression of love by women of different generations.
Those sincere and resonant ways of performing,
Nuance makes people see Chinese women in their emotions
How to express, how to live, how to face yourself.
In real life,
They are also at different stages of love.
This time
Jia Ren will discuss with the three of them,
Their perception of love on and off the screen.
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Douban rating 8.2 hit drama "Hello! In "Mother Adult", Dong Jierun silently used her acting skills to restore the half-life story of a typical Chinese mother. In this film, which Dong Jie regards as "the scene that brings the longest ripples after the killing", she re-evaluates love, tenacity and courage.
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The story of a woman's half-life is both solemn and complicated. As soon as the play started, Dong Jie stayed on the set every day, from a young girl to a twilight year, shooting thirteen or four hours a day. After more than two decades of acting, there are not many opportunities to play a character with an age span of nearly four decades, which she says has never been seen in her previous acting experience. "The [characters] I used to play were more fairytale, or more beautiful characters. Whether it is Leng Qingqiu or Empress Fucha Langmi in "Ruyi Zhuan", although Lang Wei has some negative characters and her own personality shortcomings, these roles are more literary fictional. In this play, I played an ordinary mother, in life, she exists, and the degree of authenticity is particularly high. ”
"Hello! "Mother Adult" is adapted from the essay collection "On the Clouds: 99 Little Things with Mother", the original author and screenwriter Bad Sheng, after watching Dong Jie's performance, wrote, "Many moments of processing, details, emotions, expressions, a change of a set of drama can obviously be done very 'big'... She presents the inner rhyme of the character very stoicly, and precisely grasps the physiological texture of the character", Dong Jie restrained all the sorrow and sensationalism that could have been amplified, so that the audience was willing to believe that the existence of Ding Biyun was real, and it was someone we could meet at any time in the deep streets and narrow alleys and vegetable markets. She said, "The depth of Ding Biyun's heart is very deep. Those performances that stay on the surface and some drama are all because you look at the character from a high plane, not the role grows out of your heart. When the character grows out of your mind, your performance is controlled by it. Looking back at a lot of my scenes now, I didn't think about how to deal with it, but for a moment, I knew the character would do it. ”
Most of the time, Dong Jie firmly believes in the existence of "Ding Biyun", and she has too many mothers like Ding Biyun around her. For a long time in the past, Dong Jie lived with her family in her hometown of Dalian, and she consciously pulled the circle of work and life into a clear boundary. "When I'm not filming, I rarely spend time with the actors, and my days are ordinary people's days. I often look at the fragments of life around me, listen to the neighbor's aunt and mother chatting, and observe how normal people live. They would line up in the supermarket for a bag of salt and a pound of rice, and that was life, and my feelings about the characters came from life. ”
Regardless of the look or words, Dong Jie is always light, eloquent, gentle and powerful. We talked about the mother-daughter relationship, which is the most intense love between the two generations of women, and it is also the deepest intimate relationship. She said that after she had a child, she understood her mother's situation more and more, "I know what my mother is like, and even see what I will be like in the future." My mother and I are very similar to the love and dedication to our children. I admire the previous generation, who gave everything unreservedly, regardless of gain or loss. ”
A year ago, Dong Jie moved back to Beijing from Dalian because of her son's top education. She often thinks that the security she can give her child may only accompany him until he is 20 years old. When the child is older, with the direction of life that he longs to achieve, he will want to live his own life. "I've been thinking now, when I was young, you felt that losing your parents was an extremely terrible thing, and as you get older, you will feel that that day may be getting closer and closer to you, not only is it as fearful as when you were a child, but your heart is full of more content, and you will think about why your mother did this or that to me? I still know that my mother only has me in her eyes, but I know that a large part of my eyes is my child, and when he grows up, I will become my mother. Generation after generation, that's it. Therefore, I feel that everyone must have a growth experience so that you can understand how much your parents have paid for you. ”
In all the roles she has played, Dong Jie subconsciously believes that Ding Biyun's concept of love is more similar to her own, "Maybe because I am also a paying mother, I will pay my time and energy on my son." The silky tenacity, gentleness, and stubbornness of Ding Biyun attracted Dong Jie. She said that she also has an extremely tough side, and rarely thinks of compromise when things happen, "This is something in the bones, not compromised." "They are not exactly similar," I will not have a similar life trajectory to Ding Biyun, I have suffered too much, I think women now need to retain a part of themselves to take care of themselves." We are in different times and circumstances, my personal choices, my attitude to life, and my understanding of myself are broader than hers. ”
The uninterrupted thinking of the past one or two years has made Dong Jie form a new cognition, "You want to find your own value, is the only embodiment of your value is your children?" We can do it for the sake of the kids, but, sometimes, does all this really make you happy? We often encounter setbacks, and when we encounter setbacks, can the child comfort all the injuries you have suffered? Therefore, I think we must have a self-awareness, constantly encourage ourselves, and not be defeated in the face of setbacks. ”
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Dong Jie, who is forty years old, has done something in recent years that she has never done before. She has always had a light temperament and is not keen on competition, she appeared in the second season of popular variety shows such as "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", comfortable is no longer comfortable, and the experience of success or failure makes her like an adversity, "In the second season of "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves", I am very frustrated, which is a good experience. You have to adapt to different environments, adapt to different rules of the game, just like encountering adversity, when I find that I can't do it, I will feel more and more frustrated; when everyone says you can do it, you feel that you are very good. ”
She cares more and more about what she thinks, and bluntly says that women who know how to care about what they think are the most beautiful. "You have to keep thinking. If you don't know what you want in your heart, just to maintain it, just blindly cater to others. When you're rich enough inside to know what you want, everything goes naturally. Sometimes, too much to please others, to please the friends around you, to please your lover, or (to go with the flow), everyone likes to do what they want, often you don't know if you are enjoying yourself. ”
"Have you ever had such a stage?"
"I must have had ah, I have had I didn't know what to do, and sometimes (I think) other people's judgments of me, my evaluation is the most important, there must be this stage." 」 She is unabashed, rarely escapes, is generous and frank, and does not have enough confidence to feel that she can control life. "I kept falling, getting up, falling, getting up again. After entering the 40s, I told myself that there are many things to let go, and at this moment I can no longer bear the weight to move forward, I have to let go. When you are 30 years old, you can still carry it, and when you are 40 years old, you don't want to carry it. ”
Those troubles that could not be emptied and difficult to resolve, Dong Jie chose to throw away. "I'm not as strong as I thought, and when I'm frustrated, I'll find that your excuses for yourself are useless." The relationship between man and the world is related to age. Yesterday's past has long been dusted, left in the mind, silence has become a part of the body, she said, "Life is like our TV series, there are no special ups and downs, but every little thing is enough to crush you, and the trials and tribulations will make me more confident to face the setbacks that will continue to suffer in the future, I am still learning." ”
M.C. If you performed a three-act play about your life, how would you show your life to the audience?
Dong Jie: The three scenes that are more important to me should be motherhood, entering marriage, and finally (cognitive) self. Regarding the self, I hope that the audience can see the process of Dong Jie's growth, that is, clean, leave some distractions, and see that I am really free at this stage. After entering the 40-year-old, I can express myself, and I am more willing to do what I want to do, and I don't want to shape anything.
M.C. In the past, did you shape what everyone wanted because of the expectations of the outside world?
Dong Jie: I think at 30 years old, there is still confusion, you are trying to create a state that you think is right, and maybe even a state that you want to get. Those 40-year-old words can let the audience see a self-contained thing, want to say it, and don't say it if they don't want to. That's where I am.
M.C.: The poem always says that love is eternal patience, love is kindness... Everyone has a different understanding of love, what is the most important part of love for you?
Dong Jie: What is more important in love is mutual understanding. It is difficult to say how long it will last in love, but whether you can understand some of the experiences you have grown up in love that are worth preserving, even if it is said to be higher, it is the wisdom in life, the wisdom in life, then I think it is valuable and meaningful.
M.C: Is there any wisdom that you have summed up yourself?
Dong Jie: This matter is more contradictory. For love, it is very simple, I think love comes from the heart, and this will always be the most important part of it.
M.C.: Love has always been an eternal proposition around creation by countless film directors, is there a movie related to love that you particularly like?
Dong Jie: I usually watch movies, and most of them still watch dramas or life dramas related to love. The deeper impression is "She is lonely than fireworks", I like it very much, although there is a bit of a deformed relationship, the sister in the play is a very good person, but her inner things can not be interpreted, she is excellent at the same time, but also flawed, that play, let me very impressed. The other was Manchester by the Sea, and although it was a bit depressing, I was able to appreciate this deep self-blame and the dilemma of not being able to get out. None of them are particularly romantic romances, but I think that the reason why human nature looks good is precisely because of its contradictions, these are real, often able to impress you, or the real things in human nature.
M.C. What are the small changes you would like to make this year?
Dong Jie: I hope that I can have some new roles to expand the path of the play, and I also hope to be able to really complete a new departure and make new changes like the positioning I gave myself.
M.C. What is the most valuable evaluation that makes you feel so many years?
Dong Jie: When the audience says that Dong Jie's acting skills are OK, this is my biggest and most valuable evaluation.
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Yuan Shanshan, who has been debuting for ten years, has gradually mastered her own rhythm, sometimes urgently accumulating works through intensive work, and sometimes relaxing to expand different possibilities in her work. When she shuttles through these ups and downs, the meaning of feelings is not only a simple payment or gain, but to establish a close connection with different people, and then provide beneficial emotional value for each other. These increasingly abundant sensory experiences come from her empathizing with the characters again and again, and then experiencing life and understanding the world from different perspectives.
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Looking back at the past 2021, Yuan Shanshan's workload is not too big, but it has blossomed in the three directions of variety shows, film and television and drama at the same time, and each work has brought her more space to think. If the original drama was a pile of some quantities, now Yuan Shanshan is more of a mind to savor what she is doing every day. Work gradually becomes a nourishment, nourishing her.
"When you come across a very good team and a good script, you will learn a lot from the director and the opponent actors, which is actually a process of progress, and it is very 'nurturing' actors." So I think actors should give some time to 'raise' themselves appropriately, one is to participate in the work of a good team, and the other is to act in dramas. ”
In the fast-paced acting industry, Yuan Shanshan of course knows that many times she can't help herself, but when she begins to have some choices, she is willing to take a relatively luxurious time to fulfill her needs in this regard.
Take the recent drama "The Thief Wants to Get You", which she just starred in, although this is her first time on the stage of the drama, she wants to use the word "challenge" to summarize the whole experience of this time than simply nervous. "When we shoot film and television dramas, in fact, the scene will give the actors a quiet creative environment, so that they can invest their feelings." But rehearsal drama is different, you and other actors will be in the same rehearsal hall, there is no moment is quiet, everyone is doing their own thing. This is not necessarily a good thing, because it taught me to concentrate in a noisy environment, and really have been exercised. ”
When she took over this job, Yuan Shanshan didn't think much about it, but she just felt that she could try to exert her strength in the direction of comedy, and she identified drama to hone her acting skills, but she didn't expect that the stage gave her far more than expected. When the performance is not limited to facing the camera, all her senses seem to be activated, the ears can hear the sounds around her that have nothing to do with the play, and the eyes can see the strange audience that has various reactions to her performance... The moment before the curtain opens, the lights are all dark, and she has to make all kinds of preparations to make herself a convincing role on the stage.
In that moment, the performance is not about saying a line or making a certain emotion in front of the camera, but she becomes a living person, existing in a space for an evening. "Before the first show started, I envisioned ten thousand possibilities about what would happen on stage, such as what if I forgot the words? What should I do if I get in the wrong place? One time, I used so much force that I almost knocked down a prop well, which scared me. There will be a variety of situations, and there will be no chance for you to do it again on the stage. ”
In fact, even if ten thousand problems have been preset, the real stage will also have the 10,000th possibility, which is not within the scope of Yuan Shanshan's expectations, but it is such an accident that she regards as the reason for choosing this work. They became her nourishment like treasures, and every time she saw a little more, her knowledge of performance became a little richer.
From brave teenage girls to independent women
In addition to the performance itself, Yuan Shanshan is also experiencing "love" that is different every time through this job, and then relying on these experiences from fictional stories to explore her attitude towards intimate relationships.
"For example, Lu Qing in "I Love the Male Nanny", she let me know that girls can boldly pursue the boy they like, and it doesn't matter if you pay first, as long as you think that this person is right." 」 "I've also acted in a lot of costume dramas, an emperor has so many concubines, and I play one of them, which is definitely different from modern monogamy." But in fact, from ancient times to modern times, although everyone's requirements for feelings are different, sincere feelings can travel through time. ”
The experience and thinking of the character accompanied Yuan Shanshan all the way to growth. When she is still a girl full of unknowns about everything, the role can give her encouragement and make her believe that giving will be rewarded; when she has some of her own experiences, the role can teach her to remain pure, so that she understands that strong feelings can overcome all external limitations.
Then gradually, she will also bring her own understanding of feelings into the interpretation of the role.
For example, in the summer of 2021, she just finished the TV series "The Wife's New World". This work explores a problem that many people may encounter today: what should a housewife do if her husband cheats after giving all her time and love to the family?
"Our director is a boy, and when he discussed the role with him, he felt that since the girl found out that her husband was cheating, she should not forgive, but should bravely go out and fight for her career, which is cool." But I think as a traditional Chinese woman, she will have some hesitation, first of all, to give her husband a chance to keep the family. Of course, such gentleness has a bottom line and limit, and she will also guard her ability to survive independently. ”
When Yuan Shanshan's own life bids farewell to the twenties who make choices more impulsively, as a mature urban woman in her thirties, she will judge from a more comprehensive and long-term perspective. "I haven't changed much in my personality, but after all, I'm a little more mature, and I'm not as willful as before." So even, she will understand the role from this perspective.
When she assumes that she is the wife she plays who has cheated on her husband, the person must not give up everything she had on impulse. "As a woman, I still want the family to be complete, so I'll still give the man time." It's just that when he can't go back, I still have the ability to take the children myself and go out to start everything from scratch, so that I can win happiness for myself later, which is also a rebirth. ”
Now a popular word is called "independent women", in the eyes of Yuan Shanshan, who has played many different female roles, the real independence is not to rush forward in a daze, but after a comprehensive analysis, the posture beautifully handles everything around it. It's the progress she's experienced with the character.
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Yuan Shanshan, who can look at love in such an inclusive way, has also matured in more dimensions of feelings. For her, instead of carefully subdividing the various relationships around her, it is better to think about what kind of emotional value she has paid and gained in various family, friendship and love, which is the most cherished existence in every relationship.
"Whether it is with parents, friends or lovers, providing better emotional values to each other is the most important thing, so that your relationship will get better and better." 」 Since feelings are different from work, what is important is the emotion itself, then she returns to the original point to think about the direction of feelings. At present, Yuan Shanshan hopes that feelings are nourishing rather than consuming, so she will also hold such an attitude to deal with her relationship with others.
"A lot of things have to be carried by yourself, otherwise who wants to bear your negative emotions every day?" In this way, others don't want to be friends with you! Specific to each relationship, she chooses to harvest positive meaning through simple and neat interactions. If many people in their youth, they can't help but prove that they are really paying through "common suffering", and the seemingly bland "Tonggan" when they grow up can actually make a relationship develop in the long run. "You're an adult now, and you have to have the ability to find your own way to digest your negative emotions."
Now when encountering unhappy things, Yuan Shanshan will no longer pull her friends like a little girl to complain repeatedly, but prefer to exercise herself, let new things intervene in life, and transfer those bad emotions gathered in front of her. "You can also find friends, but watch a movie together or do something fun!"
Including in daily interactions with friends, Yuan Shanshan is also more willing to bring real happiness to everyone through practical actions. "For example, to give gifts, I will choose the practical type." To observe what other people's lives are like, such as when a friend has a baby, I will buy a small blanket, a small dress or a small hat, and when people can use these things, I will be very happy. And on some birthdays or holidays, if she meets a friend who has prepared any surprises for herself, she will be very happy to accept, after all, "this is the other party's intention." In the same way, she is willing to spend some thoughts to design such a celebration for her friends, not to show the other party's expression of gratitude when facing all this, the key is that everything is out of her heart, "because when you do these things, you yourself will be very happy."
People grow up, and this happens in the sunrise and sunset of every day. Sometimes because of one or two important things happening, there will be rapid changes in thinking, and sometimes because I am used to ordinary days, I can't see any ups and downs. But in fact, it has nothing to do with external stimuli, from the observation of the eyes to the inner speculation, everything is proceeding in an orderly manner. Yuan Shanshan is perceiving and thinking like this, about drama, about love, about people.
M.C.: Did you just finish the drama "The Thief Wants to Get You" any love inspiration for you?
Yuan Shanshan: This drama was originally a British drama, about a small British town, everyone is not so sincere and kind, they all get money through deception, and so is my character. She knew that she was still a relatively beautiful young girl in the town, so she got living expenses from various men, but when she finally met true love, she realized that if there was no love, there was no point in asking for this money, so in the end she chose love, true love is supreme.
M.C. You've played a lot of roles, and they all have different emotional experiences, are there any roles that you particularly disagree with?
Yuan Shanshan: Almost nothing. Acting is a profession that is very empathetic, and you have to have the ability to empathize in order to figure out the heart of the character. Even if the decisions she makes are different from your own, you have to understand her, because if you don't understand, you can't play the role.
M.C.: The audience will care a lot about the "cp sense" of the two leading actors when watching the emotional drama, as an actor, how do you create the "cp sense"?
Yuan Shanshan: When shaping the role, there will be some design, but the subconscious response will be better than the design, that is, you need to do the design on top of the real feelings. In fact, the cp sense involves a wide range of dimensions, about the performance rhythm and performance methods of the two actors, about some shots given by the director to the actors, and even about the lighting, script settings... It is a synthesis.
M.C. In various emotional relationships, are you giving, or are you more in the love and care that others give you?
Shanshan Yuan: I think it's mutual. When you have been giving, you will want to get feedback from everyone, and you will be a little tired psychologically, so I still hope that each other is mutual.
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In the newly released "List of 100 Beautiful Faces in the World" by the American movie website TC Candler, actress Zhu Zhu has won the list for the tenth time.
The beauty of Zhu Zhu always has a sense of the afterglow of idle flowers shining on the water, and the ripples of the pear swirl direct the flow of style, gradually charming the eyes. Looking at herself and the series of female characters she has played in her works in the past, all of them are modern, brainy, and exude a very firm confidence in being loved. However, this woman who was from a good background and advocated independence was not too optimistic about love and marriage for a long time. In the past 2021, Zhu Zhu completed two major events in her life: marriage and children. The long-established concept has been loosened. She said she began to understand what unconditional love is.
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Slowly, it is not the time to relax
In September 2021, Zhu Zhu gave birth to a daughter, and in less than three months, she lost more than 20 pounds and quickly resumed business. In the entertainment industry where appearance, figure, and clothing are magnified at any time, Zhu Zhu, like all the people present, tacitly follows some unwritten law that cannot be left for too long.
In the early years, she laughed at herself: "I can't call it hard work, but I never slacken off." "Since returning to China in 2018, Zhu Zhu, who does not allow herself to be lazy, has frequently exerted her strength when filming: the gold medal secretary who seems to move the landscape in the office building, Zhao Ji who mediates between power and love, and the blue heart jie who is loyal to love and selfless... She maintains the speed of shooting several plays a year, each with an angular role, so that she has been filming overseas for many years, she has gradually explored a performance method suitable for domestic film and television dramas, and the arrow is on the string, and she has to send it. "Whether it's from my performance status, or the audience's awareness and expectations of me, now is not the best time for me to rest. When you still have energy, you will shoot more dramas and create more value. ”
The new drama is about to start, the good news is swirling in, with the spy drama "Rebel" Lan Xinjie's role, Zhu Zhu won the 32nd Huading Awards Best Supporting Actress nomination. On the day of the award ceremony, she carefully "resurrected" Lan Xinjie for one night, and appeared at the ceremony in a play. This is one of the roles she has played well in recent years, and looking back on the first time I met the director Zhou You, it was no different from today, also on the set of the magazine shooting, the two people in the dressing room talked about the scene and hit it off. "Zhou You treats this play like a child, the whole crew is basically very careful, everyone cares about it in order to make the play good, and it feels great to have all your teammates and your heart."
Zhu Zhu's portrayal of Lan Xinjie, a woman from the wind and moon field, is a tragic character who combines beauty and sorrow. "The wheel of fate pushes her life experience, emotional story has undergone great changes, people live in the general trend, the wheel of the great trend sweeps people and things into it, she is so weak, so small, must go against fate, try their best to control their own lives." 」 Speaking of the process of interpreting her, "As an actor, you have to go to a place where emotions are very deep for a role. For example, for the experience of the male protagonist dying because of love, it is difficult to find emotional resonance from herself that has a similar experience with the character, and if she does not go into the emotional concentration, the things performed are not convincing. ”
She uses "adventure" to describe this "play real" performance, "like an adventure, you walk into an unknown primeval forest, what awaits you, don't know, but the process is very interesting." When I took the trouble to present something that was recognized by everyone, or I saw it and felt like that, I was very happy. ”
As an actress, Zhu Zhu is far-sighted, and she is too clear about her own value. People praised her meticulous hair in "Elite Lawyer", her charming figure, her decent and restrained beauty, and she said, "Women should not hesitate to show their beauty" and bring values into the performance. Whether in the workplace or in life, she said that she agreed to be her true self within the normal range, removing her disguise and not having to perform.
To be precise, she hated everything that was fake, and had been in the habit for years. The face in front of her has been included in the "List of 100 Beautiful Faces in the World" by foreign media for ten consecutive years, asking what kind of woman can be called beautiful in her eyes? She raised an eyebrow lightly and said, "I think that women who love themselves are beautiful, and women who dare to accept themselves are beautiful." Every woman will doubt herself, or will use the yardstick of the outside world to measure herself, all of them are in front of others to present their most beautiful state, but when you go home and face the mirror, you will see some of the unbearable when you are not in good shape, you can't always compare the best state of others with your own unbearable, it will definitely be unhappy. ”
She had unhappy times. Not long ago, Zhu Zhu posted a model photo of the British version of VOGUE on Weibo, in which the woman's slightly fat body was immersed in water, and she unabashedly admitted in the interview that she was anxious about her body for a period of time after giving birth, "Slimming down is not as easy as imagined." ”
Zhu Zhu went in and out of the gym as a teenager, ran marathons, and practiced Pilates for many years, firmly believing that "as a woman, having a certain body management is a requirement for the self." She didn't treat others harshly with her own set of standards, and when she didn't achieve significant results, she felt depressed. One day, she came back to god and put aside the bad emotions, "No matter what others say, no matter what the mainstream aesthetic is now, I suddenly feel how much I need the affirmation, encouragement and support of others at this time, how can I be disappointed in myself at this time, frustrated, and constantly squeezing myself?" Haven't you become your enemy? ”
She began to look in the mirror and praise herself, "Zhu Zhu, you are great. Just this year has passed, in order to get pregnant and give birth, you have ingested various nutrients to make yourself fat, experienced such a big, so painful, so consuming yourself, you gave birth to a new life. In this process, you have not caused too much trouble to others, and you have been working hard to open your business, and you can return to your current form in such a short period of time, you are already remarkable. ”
Where is the best place for a woman to take care of? Zhu Zhu's answer is to take care of his heart. These processes of constant self-talk in the mirror are seen by her as caring for her heart, taking care of her soul, far more important than how many expensive skin care products are applied to the skin, or how many calories are consumed in the gym.
Zhu Zhu recalled a phone call she had made in the United States in her 20s. At that time, she often called a friend of a counselor and got good advice. "My friend said to me, after you hang up the phone, talk to yourself three times. The first sentence is I love you, Zhu Zhu; the second sentence is sorry, if I ever did something to hurt you, Zhu Zhu; the third sentence is thank you, Zhu Zhu. Each sentence must end with its own name, and you have to repeat it several times. As a result, when I said these words to myself, I burst into tears, indicating that I had not taken the time to say such a thing to myself for a long time, and I had not cared for myself for a long time. ”
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There will always be moments in life that are stuck, and this woman who pays attention to gentleness and hard work begins to be relieved, "Many times the point of being stuck is because you don't really care for yourself, and you keep pushing yourself like a wheel, when you stop and comfort yourself, you have more strength to create value for yourself." 」 ”
What will be, will be
Zhu Zhu once compared the process of pregnancy to "enlightenment", after becoming a mother, the increase in weight is a change in appearance, from the depths of her heart, she has become more and more deeply aware of her unconditional love for a new life. "It used to be difficult to give completely to a person, and when you become a mother, there is no way not to love her unconditionally, and you also let go of something unknown and uneasy." 」
Zhu Zhu did not have too many plans for what kind of mother she wanted to become in the future, taking one step, looking at one step, and doing her best to give her child enough attention and enough love. She said that she would not be harsh on herself, this modern woman has a very clear position on her own identity, she is a mother, but still Zhu Zhu, "everyone has everyone's destiny, can not put all the burden on the mother's body." No one knows how to be the most perfect mother in the whole world, no one is obliged to do so, as long as I do my best, have such a recognition, and try to avoid causing deficiencies to my children as much as possible. ”
When she was five or six years old, Zhu Zhu's mother taught her to sing, the famous song from the Hitchcock movie Que Sera, Sera ("The World Can't Be Forced"), "When I was a little girl, I asked my mother, what will happen to me when I grow up? Will I be beautiful, will I become rich? My mother said to me, honey, what will happen in the future, we can't control and can't foresee, it will be as it should be. "Yesterday's little girl has experienced more than thirty years of abundance and fullness, and already understands the philosophy of life, she will sing Que Sera, Sera to children, and teach the philosophy of life to the ignorant daughter." Then live in the moment, everything is the best arrangement, when my child grows up and dwells on life's troubles, I will tell her, to accept, to follow the fate. ”
Zhu Zhu said that love is grand and is a compulsory course for everyone to learn throughout their lives. Love is not only the endless, chatty dialogue between the shirted men and women in the films she loves, but also the "bad girl" of her favorite contemporary art circle, Tracy Emin, the artist who hangs neon works on 10 Downing Street, and the confessional declaration that she is eager to let her daughter master, "the ability to love and be loved", after all, It is very sad to have no love.
For Zhu Zhu, who is in love, which aspect of love is particularly critical? She said, "Love is a verb, and you have to do all the actions of love, the acts of love. Not just want to love or love, what do you use to express your love? Love is something that requires real action. ”
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M.C.: You said at the wedding ceremony, "As a modern independent woman, I am not so optimistic about love and marriage, for a long time I have thought that I don't need a man much, I can live well", which is also a reflection of the inner thoughts of many independent women at the moment. Now that you're married, what would you say if you gave this group of women who had similar thoughts to you about love?
Zhu Zhu: Be true to your heart. It is not necessary to get married and have children for the sake of family or social expectations, if your inner yearning or subconscious is needed, but because you feel that escape is simpler, I will share a sentence: it is easier to endure pain than to achieve happiness. If it is the need of your soul deep inside, then you must overcome the difficulties, to grasp your own happiness, to fight for your own happiness. You can't not do it because it is too difficult or afraid not to do it, then I will endure it, it is always okay to endure myself to death. This thing is something you owe yourself.
M.C. If that's the case, there will be regrets, right?
Zhu Zhu: But there are also people who say that no matter how you choose, there will always be regrets, this is the proposition of life, no one has answered, I have no answer, it is better to live in the moment. If at this moment, there are people around me, and my fate develops as it is now, then I will accept it. If one day love or marriage becomes another state, we must also accept it. We often hear other people's divorce rumors, some people will feel that the face or the flag has fallen, I think there is no such problem, that moment for the parties, each other is the right person. The so-called Mr. Right is only Mr. Right Now, not the real Mr. Right. No one will always be your Mr. Right, and there is no one thing in life that will be done once and for all. Therefore, if you have it now, then cherish the people in front of you, love never talks about heroes with success or failure, as long as you have it and bravely do it, I think it is good.
M.C.: Do you think love is everywhere, or is it extremely rare?
Zhu Zhu: Love may be everywhere, love is not. Being able to meet someone who can look at each other is not so easy for me. I think it is very, very difficult to meet such a person, and I think it is very, very difficult, so I must cherish it.
M.C.: What is the most concise love story?
Zhu Zhu: What do you eat at night?
M.C. Of all the roles you have played, is there a single character whose understanding of love you agree with?
Zhu Zhu: The inner strength of these women is very strong, and they are all greater than me. Li Na in "Elite Lawyer" is unconditional love for Luo Bin and does not require possession, but when the other party needs it, I am always there, and I have a very maternal feeling. It's too hard for me! Lan Xinjie ("Rebel"), she has seen more love in the wind and moon field, and she has also looked down on it. Her love for Lin Nansheng goes beyond the love of men and women, but more of a fate connection between people, a kind of love like "you are the reason for me to live", she does not ask for any return. Then, Ma Suqin ("Children of the Qiao Family") is brave, rushing out of the environment of domestic violence, daring to break through the world, with a boy who is more than ten years younger than herself, she has wisdom about life, and can grasp her happiness.
And Zhao Ji ("Great Qin Fu"), I remember there was a scene, when Zhao Ji was discredited, Madame Huayang suddenly appeared and said to her, Your life mistake is that you should not give power to men, you look at me, the real power is in your hands. The line at the time was what I thought, I said, I had what I wanted, what about you? Whether it's power or love, you've got what you want. So what about the so-called foolproof and fault-free life? I'm miserable now, but I was cool, wasn't it? Ha ha. The characters I've played are better than the real me, and I can take inspiration from them.
Executive Producer / Wang Qiao
Photography / Shao Di
Editing & Styling / PUNKCHERRY
Text Editor / Chen Baiyan ChicoChan
Written by / Xu Lu (Dong Jie, Zhu Zhu), Zhang Fan (Yuan Shanshan)
Makeup & Hair / Ya Fei (Zhu Zhu)
Makeup / Wang Yichen Hairstyle / HE Zhiguo (Dong Jie)
Makeup / Tang Zixin Hairstyle / Zhang Boxuan (Yuan Shanshan)
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