Life is like a journey.
Whether it is the scenery along the road or the people who accompany us, it will eventually become a precious memory of our life and quietly affect our lives.
Those you've worked so hard for may pay off at some point.
Those that you have slackened off and have not cherished may leave regrets at some point.
Those you hold hands with or miss, perhaps in a moment, change the trajectory of your life.
In this life, we always have to experience some good and bad, bitter and happy.
But I don't know if you have found out, in fact, most of the things you have experienced in this life have been predestined as early as in the dark.
There is a little couple in "I'm Good in Other Places": Xu Yan and Shen Zichang.
They met on campus, fell in love with the city, and in order to be with their boyfriends, Xu Yan stayed in Beijing after graduation and left his hometown.
The two have a good relationship, Xu Yan wants a brand-name bag, Shen Zichang took out a month's salary to buy it for her.
After the two quarreled, they would wear bear clothes and wait downstairs at Xu Yan's company to apologize to her and reconcile with her.
Xu Yan is the same, although she has a bit of a demanding personality, she will sell her favorite bag just to buy Shen Zichang his favorite running shoes. I will also save money to take the subway, just to save enough for a down payment earlier.
But the reality is often not like what we imagine, two people will have a tacit understanding after a long time, and the effort will be rewarded for a long time.
When the burden of buying a house falls on the shoulders of two people, disagreements arise —
They started arguing over a three-dollar bottle of Coke.
Gamble on whether to take the subway or take the bus today.
Even when inviting friends to dinner, there is no balance of 200 yuan that can be taken out.
The trivialities of life wear down the patience of these two people and make them rethink whether the relationship is worth continuing.
The scene of the breakup, many people watched and cried.
Xu Yan, dressed in the little bear clothes that Shen Zichang used to apologize, said to him:
Liking you is the least regrettable thing I've ever done in my life.
We've tried hard, but there's no way, we just can't be together.
Thank you for ever loving me!
Then turn around, leave, leave the boy he once loved, leave the city he has loved, return to his hometown, and start a new life.
A little sorry?
But that's the reality.
There are more long-cherished wishes that cannot be fulfilled, more people who cannot accompany them for life, and more emotions that are defeated by reality.
But whether passing by or spending the rest of your life together, those who pass through your life have more or less taught you something.
Someone taught you to love, someone taught you to be strong.
There are also people who may not have left anything, but when they think about it later, they can't help but raise the corners of their mouths, and their experience has become the warmest affection stationed in the depths of the atrium.
I have heard a saying: One must grind in things in order to be able to stand, and only then can one be still and fixed, and only then can one be still and fixed.
In this life, people will always experience more or less things, encountering large and small obstacles.
Speaking of which, I think of a friend.
When he was young, he made a vision to make a better life for his family.
After seeing the right time, he and several partners jointly started a business, when the wind and rain came and went, and they saw all the eyes and suffered a lot.
Just when there was a breakthrough in the career and several partners moved from a small, dilapidated office to an office building, unfortunately it happened.
My friend accidentally had a car accident while outing, and my 3-year-old daughter left forever...
At that time, his career was just small and successful, and he was fantasizing about changing the big house for his family in a few years.
The sudden blow struck his heart, and during that time, he and his wife stayed in the dimly lit room, touching the clothes their daughter was wearing and weeping.
Self-blame, resentment, and remorse filled his heart, and the pain of losing his flesh and blood loved ones struck his heart again and again.
He had fantasized countless times that if he didn't travel that day, everything would be able to start all over again.
But reality is sometimes crueler than we think.
He and his wife went to psychological intervention, and the people around them continued to enlighten them.
Some people comforted that life is composed of one after another, some of the obstacles have passed, life has been dark and bright since then, some of the obstacles can not be passed, since then, life has an insurmountable peak.
Slowly, after countless sleepless nights, he came out of the pain little by little.
In the middle of the night, he hid his pain in his heart, letting go of himself and his loved ones.
During the day, he took his daughter's share of hope to live well, both for himself and for his family.
People often say that the hardships of life may make a person lose their spirit, but a person who bursts out of a strong vitality in his heart will always find a way to face the pain and overcome the difficulties.
In the adult world, everyone has suffering and difficulties, and no one has unspeakable bitterness and tiredness, and only by surviving the past, those who have suffered can become the light that illuminates tomorrow.
Writing this, I think of Tai Lihua.
When she was a child, tai lihua lost her hearing due to the side effects of streptomycin injection.
In order to let the child read and write, and not be trapped in the future, her parents were fierce and sent her to a special school.
There, she sensed the melody of the music for the first time and began to try to follow the melody.
Because she couldn't hear the music, she could only feel the vibration of the beat with her heart and practice in front of the mirror over and over again.
Everyday life, in addition to eating and sleeping, is constant practice.
She has to memorize the beat, feel the vibrations, and work many times harder than ordinary people.
From the beginning of the initial simple dance, to the final award in the dance competition, Tai Lihua practiced hard for countless days and nights.
Subsequently, in order to present a more exquisite dance posture, Tai Lihua fought all her efforts.
At the closing ceremony of the 2004 Paralympic Games, a group of girls conquered the world with "Thousand Hands Kannon".
The show was also featured on CCTV Spring Festival Gala in 2005.
At that time, the audience was shocked, and no one would believe that these elegant and beautiful dance postures and beautiful shapes came from 21 dancers living in a silent world.
The lead dancer of the dance is Tai Lihua.
From being deaf at the age of 2, God closed the door in front of her, to being reborn through dance.
Her talent was affirmed, her efforts were recognized, tai lihua relied on her own efforts, opened the door of hope, and also achieved herself through dance.
For us, too.
In this life, people always have to face endless difficulties from life, but it does not want you to become angry and corrupt, but to make you more calm.
When you trot to embrace hope, hope embraces you passionately.
People often say that there are nine times out of ten unsatisfactory things in the world, but it is precisely because there are more unsatisfactory things that those good days shine brightly.
The rest of your life is long, may you not give up hope in the midst of lows and desperate situations, may you still have confidence and strength in the face of successive blows.
May you have a love for life from the inside out, a rich heart, a light in your eyes, and quietly live as you like.
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