The years I was blind dated (eight) Pandora's box

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Why did I think of looking for someone online?

It's not that I don't have the resources around me. Former classmates, colleagues in the office, neighbors I know in the community, there are many sisters who attract me. But the world is full of "unattainable" things, and it is important to recognize reality. You say I don't believe it, I have to force it! Well, you can give it a try.

You edited the confession copy with great affection, sent it to the classmates who usually meet often and have a good relationship, and then waited for the classmate's reply at the heartbeat of 180, "I never considered this aspect of your problem, I'm sorry, let's be friends." Your heart aches and you're a little disappointed, but you still decide to go find the next one.

At a good time, you are with colleagues who usually have a good relationship, express your wishes to colleagues in a sincere tone, and then colleagues say, "I'm sorry, I like older, your age is not appropriate, let's still be ordinary colleagues, I hope it doesn't affect our daily work." "Your heart cracked a little, a little desperate, but not willing to give up, and you decided to try the next one again.

Christmas is coming, you carefully prepared the gift, carefully knocked on the neighbor's door, just said "Merry Christmas" to send the gift, the neighbor directly waved "no need", and then "snapped" to give you a closed door. This time, your heart is finally broken.

Originally, being rejected is not a big deal, as long as the face is thick and inappropriate, but repeatedly rejected by the people around you, you suddenly find that your work, life, entertainment space are full of subtle embarrassment, as if reality is laughing at you all the time: see if you dare to continue to find objects around you next time?

Well, I was wrong, I didn't dare anyway.

But life always has to go on, we have to believe that the difficulties are only temporary, and there will always be a solution to the problem of partners. What to do? The old ancestors have long said, "A twisted melon is not sweet."

I have always said that the development of a healthy relationship between the sexes must be premised on mutual attraction.

If someone says that their circle is small and there is no way to know the opposite sex, this is nonsense. The real reason is that you can't look at the opposite sex around you, and they can't attract you.

Some people also say that people are now Buddhist and unwilling to pursue others, which is also nonsense. The real reason is that the part of the person you look at is not willing to take care of you and is not attracted to you.

So the question is, how can you find someone who is attracted to you and can attract you at the same time? Ask Du Niang. Ah no, go online dating.

By chance, I brushed a line in Zhihu, "What are your mate selection criteria in Luoyang?" "The information, curious to click into a look: I X, it turns out that there are so many people with the same needs as me! It turns out that there are so many girls here who are looking for objects! Take a closer look at some girls in good condition, such a good place, how did I not know it before? Come here early, and find what square dance aunt and what introducer to rely on! Look at those boys, some are much worse than me, in my condition, even if it is not a MVP who kills randomly, at least it is a hot super output.

I quickly and excitedly wrote some of my personal information and family situation into a copywriter, and also carefully did a bit of typography, and then found a few photos of myself after losing weight successfully, packaged and sent them to Zhihu together, and then began to wait nervously.

After less than two hours of anxiety, Zhihu showed that I had a private message, clicked on it, and said, "Hello, I saw your information, do you want to know each other about it?"

OMG！ Don't lie to me! Internet YYDS! The Father of Zhihu YYDS!

I didn't hold back the excitement, "hahaha" laughed three times in a row, and shook my body three times, startling my colleagues who were brushing Weibo.

I quickly replied "Hello, it's a pleasure to meet you, I also want to get to know you".

After all, it is not WeChat, the delay is much worse, after a good year of the first party to reply to me, I officially hooked up with the first netizen and began the journey of online blind date.

I know you'll be curious about what my first netizen was like, I'm sorry, I'm also curious now, what my first netizen was. I'm sorry I forgot...

I said at the beginning that I had come into contact with no less than 50 people of the opposite sex before and after. But until I posted online, I only knew the debut, the street girl, the old city girl, Xiao Yu, and Xiao Ying, these 5 blind dates, and guess where the remaining 40 or so came from?

I underestimated the power of the Internet: both the number of people looking for people online and their willingness.

On the first day of posting, 3 girls came to me, and in the first week of posting, 5 new strangers were added to my WeChat.

You say that's not good? Chat with several people at the same time, who do you want to talk to and who you want to talk to, but is it addictive?

It was cool at first, like when the girl on the street chatted with me, the girl ignored me, and I was anxious, and I never appeared again. Now we have people! After this chat, that chat, these two ignore you? Just go to the next one, it is really not possible to know the private message, there is always a way to resolve your dilemma. Over time, you even have the illusion that you are the emperor and the whole world is waiting for you to be pampered.

But we all know that there are always two sides to everything, and over time, the drawbacks will come out.

What is the concept of communicating with more than three people while maintaining a high quality of emotional output? Every night, in addition to eating and sleeping, the rest of the time is always looking for topics, picking up topics, finding resonance, and preventing accidentally replying to the wrong person. The brain kept running at high speed for a long time, well, I had never been so tired from school.

You say it's all deserved, you find it yourself, who made you so greedy, adding so many girls at once.

You're right, but I grew up, I've never had contact with so many girls at the same time, plus I've been failing on my blind date before, and I do have a lot of resentment deep inside. Now that I have learned so many girls through the Internet, the desires of many years have been satisfied at once, and people have naturally swelled up at once. What would he do if he laid out a table of fragrant dishes in front of a hungry man? That's not going to be eaten! Eat to the end, eat until the explosion!

Fortunately, I was still a little sane, and I soon realized that I was wrong. Knowing that chatting with several girls at the same time like this is not a long-term solution, if you don't get it right, you will become a bear breaking stick, and in the end there will be nothing left. Coupled with this kind of daily life of not doing anything and chatting lightly, I really can't go on, so I took the initiative to reject some girls who were not suitable on the conditions, online dating, everyone understands, you pick others, others will naturally pick you, good to get together and disperse.

I have suffered from long-distance relationships before, so this online blind date, I euphemistically proposed: I hope to develop a relationship with a girl who can be closer to my home. As a result, I can recognize girls in seven districts and seven counties in Luoyang City. Some are too far from the city, I will tell the girl, sorry I don't think about such a long distance.

I don't like to drive, if you find a girl who is too far away from the county to develop, the pain of long-distance love usually does not count, in case the two people become, every New Year's Holiday relatives or have a family matter, but also run to the county every day, make the teacher move, too troublesome. Some troubles are to be strangled in the cradle.

There are also some girls whose situation is that their home is Luoyang, but now people are in other places, either in school or at work, and their statements are more consistent: "They will come back to develop in the future, and now they want to look for it on the Internet to see if there is anyone who can develop a relationship." For this kind of girl, my reply is uniform: "Then when you come back, we will contact again." ”

Anyway, it is online dating, and the resources are there. That way I lost more than half of the girls.

The most outrageous thing is that there is a 96-year-old girl in Xiamen who added me, said that she likes Luoyang, plans to come to Luoyang to develop in the future, read my information and thinks I am very suitable, if I agree, she is willing to try it with me, but the premise is that I buy her a ticket. Well, I thank you to your whole family, or I will help you call the police directly?

Then there's the work of these girls, and after talking to a lot of them, I really feel that sometimes it's not that people don't want to fall in love, but some special work, it doesn't allow you to fall in love.

Some girls whose families are in the city, who are assigned to work in the surrounding townships and counties, usually work very hard, and when they get home at night, they just want to rest and rest, but the family does not understand, and every night when they go home, they have to be held by their own parents and mothers, and the theme of the general meeting is "XXX When do you find a partner?" "XXX, when are you going to marry yourself off?" ”

Their parents also do not think well, their daughters go back and forth between the city and the county every day, usually just commute to work on the road for an hour or two, at night to home feel that they are about to fall apart, where is the mind, time to talk about what bullshit love?

The days passed like this day by day, unconsciously these girls themselves became older, and the family began to be more anxious, sneering at home every day, soft and hard, forcing themselves to go on a blind date and find a partner. The girls themselves really can't stand it, so they come to the Internet to try their luck.

For this kind of girl, I usually express deep sympathy, I can be friends with you, be very good friends, be the kind of friends who meet us and I invite you to dinner, watch movies, and listen to your complaints in person. But I'm sorry, I wouldn't consider developing an intimate relationship with you, that would be too much for me to bear, what caused this situation today is your own choice, and I am not obliged to bear the dilemma you are facing with you.

Some people think I'm cold, but I want to say that this is human nature, and no one wants to gamble their whole life for a stranger. At least I will make it clear to these girls that it is impossible not to waste people's time and energy. Some people on the Internet, obviously gave others a promise, but immediately turned their faces and did not recognize people after achieving their own goals, this kind of talent is the most hateful, and the wind evaluation of online love is also brought bad by this part of the people.

You may feel that these girls are a little miserable now, but this is not caused by you and me, or believe in the future, and I wish them well in the future.

Let's move on to a blind date! After screening out all the girls who are not suitable for these regions and jobs, there are not many left, and I am a layman, so among the remaining girls, I chose a girl who looks at the photo with white skin, red lips and white teeth, and smart eyes, which can make me think of Huang Rong, and I plan to communicate with her in depth and develop for a long time.

I ignored the others for a while and began to talk intently with the girl, and as soon as the number of people was small, the quality of the chat went up in an instant. In less than a week, the two of us were getting better and better online.

This process is very wonderful, obviously two strangers who have never met, but because they can produce emotional resonance, and then have the psychology of mutual dependence, they want to share with each other at the first time, and they will think about what the other party is doing when they are fine. Generally to this extent, on the Internet, they are almost the same as each other.

I saw that the heat was almost over, so I said, "Since it is so compatible, come to the surface base." ”

Girl replies "I dare not see you"

I'm curious "Why?" ”

The girl replied "because I'm not very good-looking".

I was more curious, "I've seen your picture, it's already very good, I'm afraid you'll dislike me."

The girl replied, "That's P-chart, I'm not like that myself."

I know the P chart, but in my cognition, no matter how you P the map, it is always necessary to take me as the prototype, your photos are so good, where can I be worse?

So I started to say a lot of words "It's okay, the appearance is just a skin bag, I prefer to chat with me you, this is your inside, this is what attracts me!" ”

The girl replied "Is what you say true?" ”

I couldn't think of anything to see her, "Of course it's true! We've known each other for so long, we always want to meet each other, and it's not a thing to talk like this."

The girl replied "Okay then".

For the first time in my life, I can finally meet with netizens!

My parents knew that I was looking for someone on the Internet, and they kept advising me bitterly, "Don't look for it on the Internet, it's not reliable." "But I've always been in a state of high emotion, and I don't hear them.

Think about it carefully and get excited: this is the girl I know from the Internet, and it is also the girl who took the initiative to add me, look at the girl's photo that resembles Huang Rong, and then think about the sweetness of the chat between the two of us, what square dance aunt, what blind date introducer, and myself is simply weak and explosive! Haha, wait and see, I'm going to surprise all of you!

(To be continued...) ）