Before his death, Tao Yuanming composed three elegy poems for himself.
In the face of death, the whole poem has no pain, no resentment, no remorse, and no fear.
If you read it carefully, it will make you can't help but smile.
"Long live the thousand autumns, who knows the glory and humiliation." But when hate is alive, drinking alcohol is not enough. "After death, everything is empty, Tao Gong does not care about his reputation after death, but regrets that he did not drink enough wine in his life."
"Relatives or sorrows, others have sung." Some people say that this is a criticism of people's indifference, but it is not a poet's expectation.
The Slovaks are gone, and the living will continue. No one will be sad for a long time, singing in sorrow, not because of forgetting, but to face the inevitable fate calmly.
Between life and death, what is separated is not tears, but happiness.
Just like the movie "Recipes for Forty-Nine Days", commemoration, in addition to sadness, you can also dance and sing.
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Yuriko feels that her biggest grievance is that she is not afraid to take care of her paralyzed mother-in-law, but her husband is cheating, and Xiao San is pregnant.
Xiao San is very arrogant and takes the initiative to call Yuriko and ask her to divorce and fulfill them.
People sometimes put their mistakes on themselves.
Yuriko left the divorce agreement and ran away from home, she can not leave, stay and defend her rights and interests.
But she had to go again, and she thought she had no reason to stay. Because Yuriko has been married for many years, but has not given birth to a son and a half daughter.
Since the husband wants to have his own children, what is the point of her not leaving?
The only way to leave is to save your poor dignity.
However, when he returned to his father's house, his mood was even more depressed.
Stepmother Otomi has just passed away, and his father Atsuta is devastated, drinking all day, and the family is in chaos.
Before Otomi died, she asked Xiao Tao to come to the Atsuta family to take charge of all the household affairs within forty-nine days of her death, and paid the wages in advance, so Xiao Taro also lived in.
Xiao Tao is a problem girl, with dyed blonde hair and strange dress, who has been away from home for a long time, but fortunately she is taken in by the House of Rebirth.
No one's life is smooth sailing, and the three people who live under the same roof have their own sad things.
It was like the room full of clutter, dull and crowded, but had to live.
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Xiao Tao took out the manga secret recipe card left by Sensei Otomi and announced that she would make a big banquet with this recipe during the forty-nine-day festival.
Atsuta first objected, and Yuriko was not supportive.
Yuriko is not close to her stepmother Otomi, and she does not even want to call her mother, but only uses the title of Otomo instead.
Now the marriage is not going well, and I am not in the mood to hold this big banquet for my stepmother.
However, Xiao Tao insisted on fulfilling Otomi's wish and tried to practice with the secret recipe card every day to prepare for the big banquet.
Everyone will have traces, and these traces will be inadvertently engraved in the heart of another person.
Both Atsuta and Yuriko like to quietly gaze at the river in front of their homes.
Otomi said: If you feel confused, come to the river, the river will tell you what to do next, the river will help you dissolve the confusion in your heart, and take you forward.
Whether it is a trickle or a rough wave, the river never hesitates or stands still, it always rushes forward with joy.
The lonely Atsuta, the confused Yuriko, standing by the river, naturally recalls the person who encouraged him.
Avoidance does not solve the problem, with expectations, continue to walk, in order to know what kind of opportunities can be.
So, the big banquet was settled, and everyone began to prepare. Her father, Atsuta, did not want to do anything, so Yuriko proposed to make a life yearbook.
However, at this time, everyone found that they did not know about Otomi, especially before her marriage.
Life is so ironic, the closer people are, the less people will take the time to dig deeper.
Maybe it's because it's a long time, or maybe it's because it's unnecessary, so the closest person often becomes the most familiar stranger.
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Atsuta and Yuriko begin to look for people who know Otomi, hoping to learn more from them.
However, things did not go well, and they only got a little information from the acquaintance of Otomi.
Yi Mei lost both parents in the war, and has been dependent on her grandfather in a nursing home since childhood. Because of her grandfather's bondage, she gradually separated from society.
She has not experienced the love of her parents since she was a child, and after marriage, she has not had her own children.
However, she is willing to use herself as a springboard, using her love and kindness to let more children of the reborn family integrate into society and live actively and strongly.
She was afraid that Xiao Tao would repeat the same mistakes, so she asked her to help organize the forty-nine-day festival so that she could have a place to live.
She encourages Brazilian boys of Japanese descent not to be shy and depressed, because everyone you meet is not only smiling, but not just sad.
Yuriko began to rejoice that she had such a mother, who was like an angel and pointed herself in the right direction.
But too little information was available to fill the yearbook. A large blank space shows the paleness of Otomi's life.
Although there are regrets, there is no fear.
Despite the rudimentary banquet, the odd almanac, and the failure of her daughter's marriage, Otomi's forty-nine-day festival was held as scheduled
People picked up pens to write down their dealings with Otomi and danced a requiem dance to the song.
It's like a joyful dance party, where people toast and drink, sing, dance, and express their thoughts and wishes for the deceased.
There is a hint of sadness.
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If you smile at life, life will surprise you too.
Xiao Tao bid farewell to the Atsuta family with tears in her eyes, because she decided to go home, and she missed her parents.
Yuriko stood in front of Otomi's tablet and softly called out to her mother.
Atsuta also came out of his grief and went to live a life in the future with fond memories of his wife.
This is also the original intention of Otomi to hold a forty-nine-day banquet.
There is no long-term sadness in life, and those who can smile and face it are the strongest.
Only by smiling can you make yourself able to meet happiness one day.
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