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In life, most people still need to find a partner to accompany them for a lifetime. The road to feelings is long, whether you are happy in the future life, this person will give you a great influence.
Being loved and cherished is certainly a kind of happiness, but after entering marriage, there will be many differences with love, which requires us to learn to operate in marriage, and even have a sense of crisis, and can always have insight into the problems between the two sides.
There is a neighbor, the two are married, the wedding is hasty, and the birth of the child is even more chicken feathers. As soon as the child is born, the two people are constantly arguing, the problem of child rearing, the problem of milk powder, the problem of education, the division of labor of the family...
Now the children are also five years old, and their marriage lasts for five years. Both believe that they are not wrong, and the other is unreasonable and unwilling to communicate and change.
It can be seen that the final result of this marriage is likely to end in divorce or survive.
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Marriage is not easy, and it is good and cherished, and when couples get along, they grasp four points to make the marriage undefeated for a long time:
First, understand the foot, after marriage to fulfill their respective choices
The most emotional thing that can make a person who loves you resolutely and resolutely leave may be betrayal. In marriage, we must understand that every relationship is self-selected, and everything has a cause and effect.
If the relationship really can't continue, then please let go of your hands before you go to a new life.
As long as they are still in marriage, both parties must fulfill their respective obligations, maintain a certain responsibility, and play their roles in the marriage.
Of course, if you still have hope for this marriage, it is even more important to take on your own tasks in the marriage, where only two people, each doing their duty, will not let one of them live so tired, and exhaustion is the fuse of all entanglements.
Second, learn to communicate and adjust your mindset
In love, women can have some small temperament, but they must also learn to be soft and give in. Maybe initially your waywardness will be tolerated by the other party, but if you want to keep his heart permanently, you must learn to make some appropriate changes for love.
To learn effective communication, know how to speak well, avoid verbal violence, do not blindly let the other party accommodate themselves, women will have a sense of superiority when in love, but can not bring this sense of superiority into the relationship between husband and wife, so that sooner or later the patience of men will be exhausted by you.
In life, we must correct our own mentality, and every adult cannot be like a child, always thinking about the toys in the hands of others. We must do what we can, and we can work hard to fight for what we can't get, but don't complain about others and put your mentality to the bottom.
Third, grasp the sense of distance and give each other space
I once heard the saying that marriage is like a painting, and when you look at it, you are too close to see the whole picture; too far away, and you can't see the details clearly. Only by standing at the right distance can you see the happiness you want.
The relationship between husband and wife is the most intimate, but it is undeniable that proper distancing is necessary. Everyone has their own time to be alone in their hearts, and you have the space you need to relax and uncheck.
Under the recognition, tolerance and trust of each other, you can give each other a certain stretch space, which is a correct choice to resist the ordinary life of chai rice oil and salt.
Fourth, treat the families of both sides with a grateful heart
Just as parents worry about their children, in fact, every parent is the concern of their children's life. Walking into a house, if you can do it to care for each other's elderly, then emotionally, of course, you can go further.
Don't argue with the elderly often because of the trivialities in family life, or even treat each other coldly. Each step back, young people respect old traditions, the elderly learn new things, life can be more tasteful, mutual respect.
Of course, as a man, thank your father-in-law and mother-in-law for their trust and entrust their daughters to you. As a woman, be grateful to your in-laws for raising the children they raise as your future life.
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Marriage is like making tea, the first tea is a strong encounter in love, the second tea is like a newlywed fragrant, the third tea is like many years of marriage as plain as water, but we need to taste it with a normal heart, often more tasteful.
At the beginning of marriage, everyone's heart will plan to run a good marriage, but they are often defeated by the reality of chai rice oil and salt and the contradictions between getting along, and the boredom after a long time.
A harmonious and happy marriage is what countless people yearn for, and people who want to improve their marriage but have nowhere to start hope that they can read this article and be able to analyze some problems in marriage.
There are always bits and pieces of problems in marriage, and as long as there are no mistakes involving questions of principle, life will always go on. Learn to operate, meet people who cooperate, marriage is not a cage, but can really be your safe haven.
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About author:Zhang Ping, psychological counselor, marriage and family counselor, well-known emotional self-media. I have wine, do you have a story?