Introduction: Some girls do not pursue love when they are young, but sit and wait for the world to fall down a domineering president, and as a result, they are still waiting when they are in their thirties. In fact, a good marriage also requires girls to take the initiative to fight for and make reasonable arrangements, and it is necessary to have "core competitiveness".
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Recently, my mother's girlfriend Aunt Chen was a little sad, because it was almost the end of the year, and her eldest daughter was 34 years old, but she had not yet married.
Aunt Chen just can't understand how her daughter has become a leftover woman, she must have a good look, fair skin, and good facial features; she must work and work in a public institution, and her income is not bad. Except for being a little shorter, the conditions are really good in all aspects.
Aunt Chen's daughter is called Jin Jin, and she is really a very good girl.
When Jin Jin was young, he was very good at reading, and knowing that his parents' economy was not rich, and that there was a sister in the family who also had to go to school to spend money, he went to study a teacher training. After graduation, he was admitted to a secondary school in a town, worked early, and subsidized his mother's family.
Jinjin life is very simple, the daily wear is very ordinary, and it is reluctant to spend money. According to the views of her parents' generation, Jin Jin is a proper woman who will live a life, and whoever marries will be blessed.
However, real life is not as beautiful as imagined, Jin Jin has also been in love and talked about love, but it is not long before they break up. A large part of the reason is that Kim Kim is too passive and will not seize the opportunity to miss out on several good marriage partners.
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For example, the family conditions of a certain blind date man are OK, and the boy has pocket money since he was a child, plus he also has his own good salary after work, so he always likes to buy something scattered when they are together.
Jin Jin is very disdainful of this consumption state of the boy, blaming him for spending money indiscriminately, and the boy also can't look at jin Jin's dress of stalling goods, blaming Jin Jin for not having taste.
Words do not speculate more than half a sentence, the two are not a road people, and soon failed.
In fact, a few years later, this blind date man's personality, family, parents and other aspects are very good, but at that time it was not a road person, there was no fate.
There is also a blind date man, but he does not spend money to buy clothes and shoes and other bits and pieces, but likes to spend money to travel. I often have a weekend to go to a flying game to watch a ball game, or a flying one to see the sea.
Jin Jin couldn't understand it again, and felt that the other party was a brother who burned money. And this boy is not satisfied with Jin Jin, wherever he goes, he looks poor, rarely eats a meal outside, and is preoccupied, so the two also failed.
Later, after a few years, the boy was also good, and now the development is very good, but the two did not call at that time.
Jin Jin is now 34 years old, and he has not saved much money, not even a house of his own, or a dormitory. The appearance is not young, and without good maintenance, you can also see the age.
And Jin Jin always feels very good about herself, feels that she is very good, thinks that she should not be left behind, and is still waiting for God to reward her with a good marriage.
In this "waiting" process, neither efforts are made to improve their business capabilities, nor will they improve their image temperament, and even when they dress up, they will not think about what style is most suitable for their current self.
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You must know that all girls who have a good marriage are definitely not waiting for a good object to fall from the sky, but know how to find it.
And before looking for a partner, these smart girls will also run themselves and mold themselves into girls with the core of marriage.
What is the "core force of marriage"?
When a girl is at the best age, she does not just want to get married, but to plan her future life. Even housewives need to be well managed in order to gain the approval of their husbands.
But the risk of being a housewife is too great, so many smart girls will first raise their height and level.
I used to know a girl, after graduating from undergraduate, I did North Drift, and my boyfriend said that he couldn't see her future, so he proposed to break up. The girl was very sad and sad, so she turned her grief into strength, and was admitted to the graduate school of a key university in one fell swoop, and after graduation, she was admitted to the top 500 units.
In less than four years, he has refreshed himself, and the boys gathered around him are all high-quality young people.
At this time, the ex-boyfriend came to the door again, saying that he was obsessed with her and wanted to continue the frontier. As a result, the girl looked for an opportunity to find a position abroad to avoid harassment by her ex-boyfriend.
Before leaving, the girl said quietly, "If I were still drifting north, doing unstable work of several thousand yuan a month, I guess I would have been kicked by someone a long time ago." Now that I'm going abroad, he'll come and look for him if he has the ability, but he doesn't have the ability. "
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I have to admit that when many boys are looking for a girlfriend or wife candidate, their appearance and figure are still an important reference.
You may not find a high-value beauty with 7 points and 8 points, but the boys also have their bottom line, at least they can convince themselves to accept this girl.
It is no longer the era of looking at the "beauty of the soul", and the hearts of many girls with high looks are also very beautiful. What's more, if there is no external image to speak of, who will pay attention to your mind?
There are no ugly women, only lazy women, and no one likes a girlfriend with a full face, unless you have other irreplaceable strengths.
It is recommended that the vast majority of girls still pay attention to exercise and maintenance, maintain a good state of youth, and when they become thin and beautiful, the mood of girls will be much better, why not enjoy it?
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The jin jin in the above article is a poor girl who values money, so she misses a lot of the beauty of understanding the world.
In fact, if the girls have a job and an income at a young age, it is really a very happy thing, they earn money to buy flowers and wear, and they earn money to buy clothes and wear. Not only invest in the appearance, but also invest in the mind and experience, go around more, look at the landscape and water outside, and know what it looks like outside.
Only by seeing the beauty of life and broadening your horizons will you have a broader mind and a calmer heart.
Don't be a frog at the bottom of the well, not limited to a small problem and a small link, you will meet the person who understands himself.
Don't stubbornly think that the environment you live in represents the whole world, in fact, the environment you live in is just a bit of life.
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There is also a digression that is very important, love and marriage are also to be constantly studied and pondered.
It is recommended that young girls should talk about a relationship in their twenties, learn how to fall in love, learn how to choose a reliable boyfriend, and in the process of falling in love, they can find out what kind of object is more suitable for themselves.
After all, many married men and women, especially those who are happily married, have not interacted with each other before marriage? Because I have interacted with the other person, I have more experience and ability to judge and distinguish whether the other party is the right person.
In any case, it is still recommended that female friends who are similar to Jinjin go out first, don't always wait for her family to introduce her, but take the initiative to meet different people.
There was also a friend next to me, who suddenly wanted to start a life of preparing to get married and have children when he was thirty years old, so he took the initiative to participate in various parties and activities. Finally, I met a boy half a year later, and after half a year, I received her happy post.
You see, everything depends on your own initiative to have hope.
A girl like Jin Jin should also pay attention to the improvement of her core strength in three aspects, and only by improving herself will she have the right and opportunity to take the initiative.
The last sentence is for all the older unmarried women who hate to marry: It's not too late to be in your thirties, as long as you want, everything is too late!
[This article is derived from the "Flower Shadow Story".] The story of the flower shadow, the story of your heart, accompanies you to wake up in the morning light, and sleeps peacefully in the night. 】