"Mom/Dad, can I play with my phone?"
Such words can be called the death curse of parents, which must be sounded eight hundred times a day.
Kids, every day like a top around you, to play mobile phones, to watch cartoons, to play games...
Completely disregarded, addicted to the great harm of playing with mobile phones.
If you don't believe me, let's start with a set of research reports:
An American psychologist, more than a decade ago, selected 100 children from lower-middle-class families across the country and divided them into two groups:
One group was 50 children without access to mobile phones, and the other was 50 children who were obsessed with mobile phones.
Then, follow them up.
As a result, the results 10 years later are astonishing:
Of the 50 mobile-obsessed kids, only 2 are admitted to college.
Almost all of the other 50 children who do not have access to mobile phones are admitted to college, and only three children choose to help at home after graduating from high school.
It can be seen that although the mobile phone is not a flood beast, its lethality is enough to change a child's life!
Often play mobile phone,
Damage to the body
A few days ago, brushed a news, "9-year-old children play mobile phones without exercise, suffering from venous thrombosis." ”
On that day, the boy had a persistent low-grade fever, accompanied by chest pain.
When changing clothes, parents find that their children's legs are different in thickness and color.
At the time of medical treatment, he was diagnosed with a large venous thrombosis and also triggered a pulmonary embolism.
It is hard to imagine that the result of playing a summer vacation mobile phone will be so painful.
But sadly, looking at life, such events are not uncommon.
Previously, 8-year-old children in Beijing were addicted to playing mobile phones and tablets, suffering from cervical spondylosis, and the cervical spine was seriously aging, looking like the cervical spine of a 50- or 60-year-old person.
This is because addicted to mobile phones, long-term inactivity, easy to compress nerves, blood circulation leads to cervical aging or even paralysis.
In addition, addicting to mobile phones can sometimes endanger children's lives.
For example, the following scene, presumably parents are not strangers.
Children walk on the road, just play with their mobile phones, do not look at the road under their feet, and then step on the air wrestling, get stuck, fall into the water and other events, there are many more.
At the beginning of the year, a 12-year girl in Chongqing and her family were walking in the wilderness, because they were playing with their mobile phones while walking, they accidentally fell into a 5-meter-deep dry well.
Fortunately, the rescue was timely, the girl was only injured in the waist, and the others were not in serious trouble!
A 10-year-old girl, playing with her mobile phone while walking, her feet directly into the gap in the sewer;
Shuyang's 15-year-old boy fell into the lake because he walked and played with his mobile phone, and finally sank into the bottom of the lake after a while because no one went through the rescue...
All of this reminds us:
Mobile phones, although only a medium, but if we do not do a good job of regulation, it will also become the "devil" that dominates children.
Light damage to health, heavy is life-threatening, must be prevented!
Addicted to playing with mobile phones,
Damage the child's brain and affect the outlook on life
If you say that addicting to mobile phones is a threat to life and health, parents have a certain fluke mentality.
Then, its damage to the brain makes us avoid it.
Dimitri, a child behaviorist at the Seattle Children's Institute, has found that:
The brains of children who are overly addicted to mobile phones are much smaller than those of ordinary children, and the areas where brain cells are active are much smaller than those of normal children, and they look like brain atrophy.
Over time, children can easily be captured with concentration, reflexes, memory, and even intelligence.
In addition, indulging in mobile games and cartoons will also affect children's outlook on life and conduct.
Recently, the Consumer Protection Commission of Jiangsu Province released the "Investigation Report on the Safe Consumption of Minors in the Animation Field", which triggered heated discussion among parents.
The report shows that cartoons, including the classic "Bear Haunting" and "Peppa Pig", have elements of violent crime.
Long-term viewing, it is difficult not to be affected by it.
Before a friend, always complained that his son loved to imitate the plot of cartoons and punched and kicked his family.
For a while, children were obsessed with "Xiyang Yang and Gray Wolf", and liked to imitate the red wolf to beat people with a pan.
Once the old man avoided it, the child was the first "pot", knocking on the person's head dizzy.
In life, similar cases are not uncommon.
The 7-year-old boy imitated the animation plot and jumped from the 5th floor with an umbrella, but fortunately was blocked by an object when he fell, and did not land directly.
A boy in Xuzhou imitated a bald head to strongly transform the fan, and as a result, his left hand was rolled into a high-speed rotating fan blade, and the damage was serious.
Just think, children have been watching such "violent" animations, temperament, morality, more or less will have an impact.
In order to avoid such incidents, we must do a good job of supervision -
In addition to limiting the time for children to play mobile phones, it is also necessary to choose cartoons for children to watch and communicate plots with children so as not to be affected badly.
the harm of mobile phones,
Damage to the paternity relationship
Previously, a short film called "Life with Heads Down" exploded on the Internet, which described the living conditions of the low-headed people in an exaggerated and humorous way.
Obviously, playing mobile phone addiction has seriously affected people's lives, and even parent-child relationships.
It's like a photo brushed by the circle of friends, which is lamentable.
A mother with two children, taking advantage of the autumn high spirits to go out to qingqing, the result of the two children one by one mobile phone to play games, watch animation.
Only Bao Mom herself faced the camera and showed a grudging smile.
Many times, what should be a scene of family fun and harmony is invaded by cold mobile phones.
At the dinner table, the old man is full of expectations, but the child does not give a single look, only cares about playing mobile phones;
The happy moment when the whole family watches the drama and eats melon seeds is also replaced by a mobile phone held by one person...
There is a saying that says:
A little closer to your cold phone will be one point away from the family who loves you.
I hope that parents can lead by example, take the children together, create more happy parent-child time, and get closer to the people around them!
Put down your phone,
Liberate your own life
If you don't touch your phone for a day, how will your life change?
Friend Wei Wei, during the summer vacation this year, decided to take her children back to her hometown to live for a period of time, in order to change the problem of children playing mobile phones.
For this experience, Vivi spent a lot of effort to make a special schedule:
Daily schedule during the summer holidays
Get up at 7:00 to wash up.
At 7:30, memorize an essay, English word, or poem.
At 8:30, accompany the elderly to feed the animals (dogs, chickens, etc.) and do the sprinkling work.
At 8:30, breakfast is served.
At 10:00, work in the countryside, take the children to the fields to do labor, weeding, watering, picking melons and fruits.
(If it is not a daily necessity, let the child do homework instead)
At 12:00, eat lunch, melon and fruit, chat with the elderly, and make up for the lack of companionship;
At 13:30, take a nap to cool off.
At 15:00, do homework, or practice calligraphy, play chess with your family, etc., and have fun and education.
At 17:00, play with your friends, experience the joy of the field, jump the grid, catch dragonflies, play with water and other fun (pay attention to safety issues).
At 18:30, eat dinner, let the child participate in cooking, and exercise the ability to do housework.
19:30, parent-child time, cool off at night, or visit the door, or watch TV, nag melons and fruits, or let children do handicrafts...
At 22:00, wash up and go to sleep, feel the summer night when everything is silent (let the child have a good night's sleep).
A full schedule allows children to feel the fullness of life at the same time, but also can gain a lot.
In fact, 24 hours a day, long is also long, short is also very short.
If you spend all your time on your phone, play games, watch animations, brush vibrato......... Then, time will be as fast as water, and in the blink of an eye, the day will be gone.
But by following the schedule, you will find:
It turns out that there is so much fun in life, and it turns out that so many things can be accomplished in one day!
Mobile phone is a double-edged sword, how to seek advantages and avoid harms, is the focus of everyone's consideration.
In short, don't let the phone ruin the child's life!
Then, as parents, we must lead by example, not rely too much on mobile phones, and give enough children to accompany.
At the same time, teach children to manage time, reasonably arrange play, study and life, and be a self-disciplined and positive person!