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When your child's grades are not satisfactory – accept your child

The eldest went to junior high school, the midterm exam results were not ideal, at that time I did not criticize her, nor did I help her find out the problem, just chatted with her, if you work hard enough, the grades can be better. At that time, I also wrote an article because I didn't have the time and ability to tutor the children, so I had to be a cheerleader. Now the final exam results are out, which is 34 points higher than the total midterm score, and the child is satisfied with his results.

Picking her up on the bus, she gave me a midterm and final grade comparison. I said, "There is still room for improvement in the next semester, if you improve a little bit every semester, you will counterattack by the third year of junior high school." The child did not speak, I think she should have secretly made up her mind and tried her best.

When a child's grades are not satisfactory, accepting the child is actually accepting himself.

I am a bilingual guidance teacher who guides many children to achieve good grades. But my daughter is not a bully, and it stands to reason that I will feel landless and have no confidence to tutor other parents. But this kind of heart I never had, but felt that this was my wealth. I have traveled through pits, detours, and children's academic performance is not ideal, these are my valuable experiences. I am willing to share it frankly with you, and I hope that you will take fewer detours and less pitfalls.

Just because my child is not good academically does not mean that she is not good, nor does it mean that her mother is not excellent. So I accept myself, accept my true self, accept the life of a chicken feather, accept the life that moves forward in the collapse. Once you accept yourself, you will accept the child, accept the child's academic excellence, accept the child's grinding, accept the child's not tidying up, accept the child's back, accept the child's adolescence, accept the child's everything...

When I truly accepted myself, children were almost all good things in my eyes. Today I took her things upstairs, and she was sitting on the bed drawing on the computer, and saw a table of paintbrushes, and I was about to help her clean up. She was embarrassed to say, "Mom, I'll clean up in a moment, you don't have to care about me." After children feel recognized and accepted, they will also reflect on their own problems.

In our children's time management course, there is a test of what type of child the child belongs to, and then find the corresponding time management strategy. From the time management attribute, children are divided into four types, tiger type, owl type, peacock type, and sheep type. The eldest belongs to the sheep type, and the time management of children in this personality is relatively weak, which is suitable for being driven by example. Now it seems that I have not taught and taught for half a year, no matter what, the child is in the eyes, and she is unconsciously changing. The process of change is disorderly and long, but as long as parents give positive guidance and role models, children will move in a positive direction.

Accepting a child does not mean accepting everything about a child, but a positive attitude towards life. The child's problem should be criticized or criticized, and the correction should be corrected or corrected, rather than blindly throwing the pot and lying flat. Just when facing the problem of children, we should not take accusations, do not have condescending tones and attitudes. And to precipitate down first, without judgment to see the child's problems, those can not be forced, such as grades and personality. Those are things that can slowly get better, such as habits and virtues. If we are only the identity of the observer, the comprehensive assessment of the child will be relatively objective.

Once there is an objective assessment of the child, we will tolerate the child and understand the child. Maybe the heart can not be completely tolerant, only less will be merciful under the mouth, less should not nag, causing the child's disgust.

Children, not born excellent. The educator Ervet said: "People are born the same, just because of the difference in environment and education, some people may become geniuses, and others become ordinary people or even fools." Even ordinary children, as long as the education method is appropriate, will become extraordinary people. ”

There are no two identical leaves in the world. Every child is a unique being. Learning to accept their imperfections and walking with them toward perfection in our hearts is what our parents should practice.

We accept our children's inadequacies as we accept our imperfect selves! Let the child grow up in their own time zone, not rushed, not hurried, the child is comfortable, and we are happy.