Laugh to death,
Brush vibrato, brush to Zhou Xun's circle of friends Versailles:
If you only have 3 months left in your life, what do you most want to do?
You quickly bring your parents to meet friends, but there are too many friends! I can't finish it, I can only finish it in three months, and wherever I go, it counts
The only thing that can match this answer is the meme —
Indeed, you are quick to socialize widely
Chen Kun, Park Shu, Zhang Yadong these familiar faces do not need to say.
Forget the year to make love to Dou Jingtong
The difference of 22 years old, but also to watch concerts together, together back to their hometown to celebrate the birthday,
harmonious
Jinlan sister Fan Xiaoxuan
Xuan said that the three most important people in life: mother, boyfriend & elder sister (Zhou Xun).
And you quickly to Xuan: I am to her, she can do anything~
Pampered
So the power of friendship, so that Xun and Xuan's circle of friends, quickly blended -
In the past two years, Zhou Xun and Aya have traveled to many places together.
From the countryside to the Gobi to the steppes, meet new people, see how they balance their lives and dreams, and witness a journey of healing.
(Work with the post-90s starry sky photographer to be the most beautiful "star chaser")
Onlookers also get strength from it, and in the fun and encounters, they believe more that "you can follow your heart and do what you want to do."
This year, Dou Jingtong joined again,
What kind of sparks will be sparked
Everything is possible, just in the "Nice to Know You 2" produced by Douyin.
Returning to the city from nature, Zhou Xun and Aya brought new and old friends——
Li Xueqin, Jing Bairan, Rainie Yang, Yutong Zhou, Yuchang Peng, Shen Zhou, Jingtong Dou,
Walk into urban life together and meet more young people in the city.
From 7 different areas of social, living, family, love, decompression, career and life,
Explore the anxiety & reconciliation of young people who want to stay in the city.
If you can't escape it, you might as well face it
The beginning of a new journey is the "social" problem that everyone has to face.
Li Xueqin said that the current society is an individual who says that he is "socially afraid."
Just like her friend, Yoko Spicy—
Hey, this is all called social fear, then there is no fear before it has to be unrestrained
Perhaps "social fear" has long been not a common symptom, but has become a common excuse.
In the busy urban struggle, the reason for prevaricating "social laziness" -
And the end of the new journey, a little heavy, is a topic that we often selectively avoid in our lives - how to face death.
Aya said: "The end of life is the only thing in our lives that is certain to happen, but why do we talk about it so little?
Like the confusion that many of us face: Does not cry when a loved one leaves, which means that I am not a qualified relative?
However, it seems that in life, it is difficult to find the right time to talk and relieve.
So Zhou Xun, Aya, and Dou Jingtong invited many ordinary people to join them and open their hearts to discuss the topic of the past that they had experienced in their lives.
Zhou Xun: I didn't cry when my grandmother died, but a year later, she (looking at Dou Jingtong) took me to pat my back, and when I took a picture of my grandmother in my head, I cried out "wow".
And girls who have been encouraged to talk about life and death since childhood dare to face this heaviness and come to the conclusion that "love is greedy for life and afraid of death", because you have more nostalgia for life.
The pediatrician's sharing made people cry:
A child with leukemia, on the third recurrence, asked for no treatment...
The doctor asked him: Do you know what it means not to treat?
Child Patient: Know, I'm going to die, and when I'm dead I'm going to heaven.
Hearing too many life and death stories at once, it is easy to emo, but in this emo, feel a life force.
It's like "Nice to Meet You 2" brings us to discover something new - the life force sharing meeting.
Ask the people in the meeting to write down the 8 most important people or things in their lives on a blank piece of paper. For example, parents, such as themselves, sort one by one, write in separate lines.
Then I was told to say goodbye to these 8 people or things, because when life reaches a certain stage, it is a journey of continuous abandonment.
Discard in order, and the one you want to give up, please tear it off the paper.
You can take out a blank piece of paper and write it, and see what the 8 most important people or things in your life will be?
In the program, it is good to give up the 8th important, Aya tore up the "career", Dou Jingtong tore off the "money"
And the 7th important, Aya hesitated: I can't tear this off Yay! It's "love"...
Sharing session moderator: There is no way, since you have made the choice, you can only tear it off.
So go on, the 6th important, Aya tore off the "friend", Zhou Xun tore off the "happy"...
In the midst of a difficult and heavy abandonment, the host reappeared: I know that it hurts you to tear every one, but life is moving forward in choice, and life cannot turn back...
It is better to be brave and face it squarely.
In the process of understanding aging and passing away, we should better understand the hard-won nature of life.
People who cry late at night, what is missing?
Yesterday, the "Life" episode was broadcast, and "Glad to Know You 2" came to an end.
But 7 themes, 7 touching, the power of healing did not stop.
Social fears like Li Xueqin, after this journey, accepted the reality of human urban life -
As for how she achieves this "self-consistent" reconciliation, it will be waited for you to find out on Douyin.
The circle of friends Versailles is like Zhou Xun, and there will also be a lonely moment for a person.
And communication and companionship are the necessary bridges to alleviate this common human anxiety.
In friendship, love, and affection, it is all needed.
What is love?
Is it the chosen son, or the madness of the head, the crush that has a long relationship but never talks, or the secret cry behind the door...
Rainie Yang said that love is gambling, because people will change, not only men, but also women.
Therefore, the big boy who loves the sister and brother, after interacting with the sister, becomes more concerned about the girl's thoughts, hoping that every sentence will make the other party happy.
Some get better, some get worse.
For example, this urban woman who cried incessantly in the love open class -
Her life, with a family and a stable life in the metropolis, has become the yearning of too many young people.
But it was still pressed by the triple pressure of work, child-rearing, and communication with her husband to the point of collapse.
Commute back and forth for 4 hours a day, coax the child to sleep at 11 o'clock at night, and then lie in bed with her husband and play with their mobile phones, and the day is over.
She said: It's terrible!
Under the harmonization of the program, her husband began to face the problem squarely and was willing to communicate more actively.
But still make excuses: too busy...
Zhou Xun "I don't understand" went online again
：
Isn't there even 5 minutes, 10 minutes?
some
Only to admit that he also has deficiencies and can no longer "perfunctory" solve the housework.
After that, it's a romantic hand-in-hand under the setting sun
In Nice to Meet You 2, we see that pulling a person back from the brink of collapse to a happy experience really doesn't take much.
10 minutes or even 5 minutes of care and effective companionship is enough.
Similarly, this healing method is also suitable for family anxiety. As the saying goes: Parents want their children to be like flowing water, and children want their parents to be like a gust of wind.
Zhou Yutong said that the last video with his parents has been a long time.
An urban aunt: There is no deep communication [with children].
Avoiding communication seems to have become a tacit understanding.
So whether you don't want to communicate, or you won't communicate...
Just like this north drift girl, because she is worried that the living conditions will not meet the ideal standards, she has always refused the request for family visits.
So her parents have always fantasized that she lives in the basement, eats instant noodles, and has a very hard time.
Even after seeing her offer and salary photos, I still can't believe it, afraid that it was a dream.
In the issue of "Nice to Know You 2" Intergenerational Relations, we see the importance of effective communication with parents.
For children who are wandering outside, parents are most worried about whether you are doing well or not.
Avoiding communication or concealing information will not only not alleviate the problem, but will make parents imagine that you are living more freely
How miserable
So, take 10 or 5 minutes and let them get to know you and make them feel more at ease.
Love must know how to express, not express, what kind of proof to use?
It turns out that not fleeing is also healing
The charm of the city comes from its prosperity and dreams, and the anxiety of the city also comes from this.
It is always full of hope, but every moment there are dreams falling.
So everyone rushed forward with all their might, as if if they just had to rest for a while, they would be left behind and surpassed.
Like the takeaway guy who works 3 jobs a day, his vow:
Don't leave Shenzhen only my youth, but also leave me!
Therefore, choosing to stay in the bustling city, the pressure really cannot be avoided
But don't panic, because stress isn't scary, it's not lonely, we're all the same.
And when stress turns into anxiety, how to use the appropriate method to soothe and release is the problem we have to solve, and it is also a problem that we can control.
Social fears such as Li Xueqin, try again and again (omit n again here), only to find a favorite social sport - swing dance.
1v1 sincere communication is a social space she enjoys.
Make friends as wide as Zhou Xun, and the trophy is as soft as Zhou Xun, and it is actually impossible to kill the script that is called "strong social"
(Post-film laughter)
She just doesn't like to make friends in the test of IQ test, preferring relaxed and comfortable camping.
Aya, on the other hand, left an immersed tear in the ritual sense of the chorus.
There are ordinary people who have been forced to collapse by life,
In the release of the boxing movement to face the fear, I feel happiness again: I am much luckier than those who are really depressed.
So, the city is so big, try it, try it again,
Maybe at a turn, you find a more diverse version of yourself and meet someone who makes you happy.
That sport, a hobby, a new friend, maybe the cure you've been looking for.
After the whole season of "Glad to Know You 2" brushed by Douyin, he and Xunya walked together for a period of time of encounter and companionship,
It was found that the original in the busy and high-pressure city, as long as you find a "self-consistent" way, do not flee, but also heal.
So back to the question at the beginning —
What is your answer?
The answer of the social animal drama: resignation
Dou Jingtong's words are: spend every day well.
After all, the deadline of life is often accompanied by illness and accidents, and there are very few who can really make up for the past without regrets.
So take advantage of health, cherish the present, do what you want to do in the answer, and express the love that you want to express in the answer.
Regret is not always good, and letting it happen in a different way may be a better reality.