Not dictating other people's lives is the greatest virtue of adults

Miyazaki said, "Life is not just like the first sight. No matter how good the feelings, the times have changed, and then I want to regain it, that is, to carve a boat and ask for a sword. It is better to go with the flow and let love have a way to live. If you can't hold the hand of your son, grow old with your son, for the rest of your life, there is a deep affection to remember, which is also a kind of beauty and comfort.

"Zhou Yi" said: Turning in is not slanderous, and handing in is not blasphemous. Do not be flattered by people who are stronger than yourself, and do not treat people who are weaker than yourself.

Respect is not only the embodiment of a person's inner kindness, but also the improvement of his personality and cultivation, and a person who knows how to respect others must also be a person who is respected by others.

Know respect, let a person learn to empathize, can understand the difficulties of others; know respect, let a person improve their own cultivation, can become the beacon of others; know respect, let a person cultivate their own emotional intelligence, become a better person!

Blessing is not good for less, and misfortune is more for more. Do not disturb yourself, less nosy, the heart is naturally more calm and comfortable than others. Only by doing things as a person, knowing how to move forward and backward, and having a ruler and a degree, can we live a stable life.

In life, many elderly people will complain: they are already retired, they are very free every day, but they feel tired, they always feel that they have not lived well in this life, and they will not be able to live in the future; they are worried about the career of their children and begin to worry about the learning of their grandchildren.

The Indian philosopher Krishnamurti said, "Crises are not on the outside, crises are actually on the inside, and we don't want to face that." ”

We always think that happiness is elsewhere, suffering is in our own home, but this is not the case, we just don't seriously examine ourselves, put too much energy, put too much energy on the matter of "thinking too much".

The writer Wang Guozhen once said: "Pessimistic people are first defeated by themselves and then defeated by life; optimistic people first overcome themselves, and then they overcome life." ”

It is true that the elderly, as the elders in the family, should be good at guiding the direction of the family and changing the family atmosphere. Your optimism is a ray of sunshine in the family.

If you want to get rid of the internal friction of the family, you must start from yourself, rather than blindly asking the younger generations to do something and what the people around them should live like. You have flowers in your life, everything is gorgeous, standing in any place, you can smell the flowers. Blessings, accompanied by floral fragrances, come naturally.

Don't fight with your children and keep your distance. In the "Awakening to the Everlasting Word", there is an old man named Guoshan, born in the last year of the Han Dynasty, who lives in Xuchang, with thousands of acres of good land and several houses.

The son moved over, idle, and gambled all day. Every time he saw his son gambling money, he took up a stick and beat him. After the son married his daughter-in-law, he did not repent and remained the same as before.

Guoshan was so disappointed in his son that he threw him out. Before his death, he left all his family wealth to his son-in-law.

The son-in-law Zhang Xiaoji is a well-informed person who feels that he is an "outsider" and should not swallow his property alone, so he tries to find a way to get the relocation back.

Zhang Xiaoji lied that everything in the family had failed, and his parents had passed away in grief. In the days to come, it can only be maintained by cultivating land for people.

The scene of falling in the middle of the family road makes The transfer regret endlessly. He had to accept the "facts" and farm steadily. As the saying goes, "The prodigal son does not change his head." "The change of relocation has surprised the whole family.

It can be seen that different educational methods have very different outcomes. We can't scold and punish our children like we are too good, but like Zhang Xiaoji, we must guide our children to work and make money with our own hands.

When people are old, as long as they can still walk, it is best not to live with their children. When the family is small, life is comfortable. When children become heads of a family, they will naturally find ways to support themselves.

The elderly struggle instead of their children and interfere excessively in their children's families, which will make themselves very tired and will also produce family friction. They are all "parents", who is it to listen to? When your children are older, they will not obey, and they do not need you to scold in your ears every day.

Don't talk about family ugliness, just laugh it off. Zhuo Wenjun, a talented woman of the Han Dynasty, wrote in the poem: "I wish to have a heart, and the white head is not separated." ”

The verses are beautiful, and the scenes in the poems are enviable. In real life, Zhuo Wenjun and her husband Sima Xiangxiang's feelings have experienced ups and downs, and they have suffered a lot of economic hardships.

Zhuo Wenjun was originally a rich woman, but she wronged herself and married Sima Xiangru, a poor scholar. In order to survive, they opened taverns together and read books together.

Infuriatingly, after Sima Xiangru succeeded, he began to indulge in wine, fell in love with the Maoling woman, and forgot about the wife of the chaff .

Zhuo Wenjun used verses to awaken Sima Xiangru's conscience. After that, they became an enviable pair of "old wives". There is a saying that goes: "In the gorgeous cheongsam, there are many lice." ”

In any family, there are scandals that are difficult to say. But like Zhuo Wenjun, we must learn to be tolerant and remind in time. Even if the people around them change their hearts, they must know how to repair their feelings, rather than often talking about it and widening the rift.

Tolerating family ugliness is a person's pattern and the source of a family's happiness. Don't have grudges with your neighbors and have good intentions. There is such a saying: "The neighbors are harmonious and the family is close, the owner and the west house take care of the diligent; the children are difficult to work outside, and they help each other to show their true feelings." ”

No matter how prosperous your family is, you can't ignore the role of your neighbors. After all, people are old, their children are working outside, they can't take care of you all the time, only neighbors are the people who meet every day, the people who can take the handle.

When I was a child, as long as my family made good food, my mother would say, "Go quickly, invite the neighbor's uncle over, and have a drink." "Sometimes, my mother would send a bowl of broth to the neighbors to taste.

When the farmers are busy, the villagers will help each other, so it is not busy. The blessings of the family are inseparable from the surrounding environment. When you live in a mansion, you can't see a smiley face for miles, and it is estimated that you will not be better.

The old man's time is relatively free, and helping the neighbors to the best of his ability is not a matter of duty, but he can leave a human feeling.

Even if there is nothing to do, you will be comfortable smiling at others. Don't care about how much wealth, just enough. The most difficult thing for a family to deal with should be the "property" issue.

When you are very old, your children will think about your possessions, especially your house in the city. As a parent, you are very partial to one child, which will inevitably lead to dissatisfaction with other children. Over time, children will turn against each other.

The lack of unity in the extended family is inseparable from the way parents behave. The wise old man will not leave a large amount of wealth, but will divide the money to everyone after consulting with his children on the premise of enough use.

The more transparent the wealth, the less family conflicts there are. The old man has done a lot of things that are "hidden", and the contradiction will continue to bubble up like a nameless fire.

Writer Zhang Defen wrote in "Meet the Unknown Self": "Honey, there is no one else outside, only yourself. ”

When people are old, where does the blessing come from? The key is the source, in their own extended family. It is better to be good than to be harmonious in the family; it is better to be in a difficult situation than to have a broken family. Family interaction, tied but not bound, love without drowning, self-warm.

True kindness is warm, implicit understanding and thoughtfulness, and giving dignity to others.

Some people say that "the best state of being a person is: regardless of other people's idleness, do not show their superiority, do not show love." What do you think about that?

From a psychological point of view, "sunning" is because some desires are not realized or certain needs are not met, and excessive sunshine life and show love are actually the embodiment of mental immaturity.

Life is different, but the best way to live is not to interfere in other people's lives, to manage yourself and respect others at the same time, and to keep the sense of boundaries within the comfort of both parties. The wisdom of being a person: take care of yourself and be less nosy. Don't do it yourself, don't be opportunistic.

The world is like a kaleidoscope, everyone has their own lifestyle and value orientation, in any relationship need to know how to "treat themselves as outsiders", leaving freedom and space for each other. Dickens said, "The best courtesy is to be nosy." ”

The word "idle" shows that we are outsiders who have nothing to do with this matter, because we do not have a practical experience, it is difficult for us to consider the problem from the perspective of the parties, and the solutions proposed by painstaking efforts may not be the results that the parties want most.

True cultivation should be not to impose one's own subjective ideas on others, not to evaluate the lives of others without one's own living standards, and not to measure the value orientation of others with one's own values. Acting without being rash and reckless is to protect oneself, and to do what is beyond one's reach is also a form of self-preservation.

In the fable, Mr. Dongguo rescues a wild wolf chased by hunters, is seduced by the wolf's rhetoric and releases it, and still manages this unsupportable thing even though he knows that his ability cannot compete with the wild wolf, and finally ends up being devoured.

But not being nosy is not the same as refusing to provide any help, and help and care need to be built on certain principles and bottom lines.

When family and friends need us to lend a helping hand with a knife in both ribs, or when we perceive that something is going in a bad direction and we can really help within our ability, we cannot ignore it under the pretext of "being nosy".

Only by learning to respect and accept the lives of others and not to interfere in the private affairs of others at will, can we not create problems for ourselves in a vacuum, and the future road can go more steadily and farther. The best attitude to life should be to live well and accept others.

Not dictating other people's lives is the greatest virtue of adults. Everyone does not use their own scales and standards to measure others, which is the greatest kindness and respect for others. It is more frightening to dictate other people's lives than to stand by and watch.

As Mark Levy writes in The Man Who Stole the Shadow: "You can't interfere in someone else's life, even if it's for their own good, because it's his life." ”

Human beings are essentially animals of relationship, and an independent individual often needs to face two extremes of relationships, one is that the relationship is too far away, and the boundaries between themselves and others and groups are too clear, so that to the extent that the relationship is rigid, affecting normal interpersonal interactions.

The other is that the relationship is too close, and the boundary between oneself and others is not clear, forming a chaotic situation of "you have me, I have you", resulting in the inner world being affected by the environment and breaking the original stability and tranquility.

People often lack a sense of boundaries, like to point fingers at other people's things, catalyzed by the desire to control the will in their own minds to others, and even in the name of love to coerce others.

The idea of "paste logic" is what I got from watching "Hundred Pulpits" once, which means that the circle Chinese is in is like a huge and chaotic paste, which is obviously synonymous with "no boundaries".

In the real world, many people use "paste logic" to unscrupulously meddle in the lives of others, exerting moral oppression under the guise of "being good for you" and "caring for you".

As everyone knows, a person's best cultivation should be to put himself in the shoes of others to understand the situation of others, rather than arbitrarily denying and criticizing others from his own standpoint.

The sense of boundaries is the best cultivation of adults, and the best way to get along with each other is to keep a distance, have their own boundaries and know how to stop at the right time.

Since ancient times, the "boundary" in Chinese culture means alienation, estrangement and separation, and too much content in traditional education that endures humiliation and burdens and can bend and stretch has always hinted at us.

The boundaries between people are blurred and elastic, and these ideas naturally invade our space, feelings, and free will.

In "Native China", Fei Xiaotong compares Westerners to bundles of firewood that come together to form a collection with clear boundaries, while people in traditional Chinese society are described as ripples of stones thrown on the surface of the water, each of which is the center of the ripples, and each ripple interferes with each other.

In real life, everyone has their own privacy and bottom line, and this privacy often has a very strong self-characteristics, if these bottom lines are unfortunately broken by outsiders, then it will cause great harm. Because no one wants to expose everything they have to the public.

In fact, the ancient people's "water is clear, then there is no fish" contains this truth, if we can see a person extremely clearly and thoroughly.

Isn't that a very terrible thing? Cai Kangyong said: "Interpersonal relationships are the measures that people can continue to communicate with each other. ”

The sense of boundaries is not arrogance and alienation, but the sense of boundaries that speaks of proportion and knows how to advance and retreat is the highest respect for others.

A cultivated person often knows better how to grasp a clear sense of boundaries in interpersonal communication, and will not easily cross the line to cause unnecessary harm. Maintaining each other's boundaries is the best upbringing for us adults.

There is a saying that people who have not really visited the world are not enough to talk about life, and I think so deeply. Only those who have tasted all kinds of tastes in the world are qualified to talk about the trade-offs and choices of life.

Therefore, Dong Qing once said in the program that she prefers to talk to the elderly rather than the place where she eats, drinks and has fun with her peers, even if it is an ordinary old man, she has years in her eyes.

A common saying among many elderly people is that when you are young, you are not called a blessing, and it is a real blessing to enjoy happiness when you are old.

This view is obviously contrary to the principle of "living in the moment" adhered to by young people today.

Young people always put their timely pleasure on their lips, they follow the trend of the consumerist era, take the current pleasure as the principle, live today and do not want tomorrow, even if their credit cards still owe high loans, they still can't resist their own enthusiastic plans for the next trip.

A recent statistical data shows that in the two years of the epidemic, the proportion of luxury cars and luxury goods consumption in the mainland has not decreased but increased, especially when the consumption of luxury goods in other countries has decreased sharply, and the mainland has increased by 45%.

As the young people on the Internet said, the arrival of the epidemic makes people understand even more, you can never predict tomorrow and accident which will come first, want to buy something quickly, enjoy early and do not suffer losses.

Just look at the present, such a life is happy, but aside from all kinds of carnival and clamor on the Internet, in reality, everyone's life is still living step by step, is it really happy to have fun in time? Not necessarily. Young people will not understand that the blessings of life must be seen in the second half.

Whether a person has a blessing or not, it is clear at a glance in middle age. The key is not whether you have money, but whether you have the following things, which is your real confidence in dealing with the world.

A healthy body is the foundation and guarantee of everything. When people are young, they often do not pay attention to the importance of the body, always sit for a long time, stay up late, eat takeaway, etc., and will not exercise systematically.

Such an unhealthy lifestyle is actually a consumption of life, and when your body sends a signal, it should be paid attention to. If you are really sick, no matter how much money you make, you may not have the opportunity to spend it.

Everyone must understand that a healthy body is the foundation of everything, that the body collapses, and there is nothing left.

If you want everything to run smoothly, it is a real vision to take care of all parts of the body, maintain a healthy and regular schedule, check up and exercise on time.

A harmonious family is a person's greatest support and backing, and people with a harmonious family often have more blessings, because you can feel more love and warmth.

No matter what setbacks and problems you encounter outside, and no matter how much grievance you have suffered in your heart, as long as you have a family, you will feel that you have belonging and dependence, which is why many people habitually compare home to a harbor, after all, people who have been wandering for a long time will one day dock.

And those who lack love in their hearts and have a disharmonious family, even if they live well by their own efforts, they will still feel that there is a big hole in their hearts, he has no sense of belonging, and the more he goes forward, the easier it is to be confused.

Home is the original place, is a person's original intention, the family is not harmonious, not warm, there is no courage and courage to rush forward.

A satisfactory job can fill many gaps in life. How important is a satisfying job for a woman? It's probably the person you love who determines how happy you are after work, and work determines whether you're happy a third of the time of the day.

If you have a job that satisfies you, you will be happy most of the day.

Some women choose to sacrifice themselves to become housewives after marriage, whether it is film and television dramas or real life, there are too many examples to tell us that housewives generally do not have a good end.

Women out of the workplace, basically equivalent to isolation from society, in the long run, and the husband who works outside the common language is less and less, the maintenance of feelings has become very difficult, women's personal charm is also rapidly declining.

When women are young, they must pave the way for their future, step by step to find the most suitable job for themselves, do not need to be too good, do not need to be paid much, as long as they can give themselves a sense of satisfaction and self-realization, it is a worthwhile job.

Looking at people's lives, the long river of time is not short, do not be blinded by the pleasures in front of you. You know, for one person.

Whether you are happy after the age of forty is the real test. I hope that each of us can become a blessed person.

We need to understand that living in this world is not easy, so don't think too much about things, and don't make the previous things too complicated.

Many times it is because we think too much, the problems that eventually arise, life is in the world, sometimes you can't think too much, once you think too much, life will have problems.

In life, learning to pretend to be stupid is today's winner. Pretending to be stupid when we encounter problems that should not be solved, not everything in our lives is smooth sailing, so we have to understand that if you are always a smart person.

Don't think about what happens next. Once something happens, we don't need to do anything, just silent attention.

Don't feel that many things in this world are simple, sometimes more complicated than we think, to live in this world.

We must consider all things more comprehensively, life, only in this way can we live happier, in fact, the fool is not very bad, just a loss, you have to know how to pretend to be stupid.

In life, you must know how to pretend to be stupid, otherwise your life will be very difficult. The real winner is knowing what you're doing and what you're going to do with your life.

If you don't even understand this, no matter how hard you try, it doesn't make any sense, and everything in this world is not as simple as we think.

Only by pretending to be stupid will we get benefits, we must understand that in this world, only pretending to be stupid will get benefits, and many times many things, you are not clear at all.

When you face it you will find a complete difference. A lot of times we think of this as a very simple thing, but it's actually more complicated.

So, in this world only people who pretend to be stupid are the real winners, because we never understand some things, and when you think it's easy, it's actually not easy at all.

Then you learn to pretend to be stupid and no one else will let you do anything, and if you always think that you are a smart person, you may face a lot of pressure.

To be honest, in fact, many things are self-inflicted, and we do not consider the consequences at all. Life itself is such that everything is very simple.

We carefully analyze the reasons for this to get what we want. Be smart when you should be smart, and pretend to be a fool when you shouldn't be smart.

We don't need to care too much about what others say or what others think, as long as there is no loss in our lives.

So don't dwell too much on what shouldn't happen, sometimes some things are still very complicated when you think it's simple, as long as we take it seriously, or ignore this thing, life will be better.

The scenery of life, the beauty in the heart, does not depend on the scenery of the outside world, the heart is rich, there is a scene in the heart, where is not between the water and clouds, there is warmth in the heart, and why fear the desolation of life, the heart is kind and sincere, where is life not full of flowers?

Cultivate the heart with sincerity and be kind to people, Xunzi: "A gentleman cultivates a heart, and he is not good at sincerity." This means that there is nothing more important than sincerity in cultivating a gentleman's ideological disposition and improving his moral cultivation.

In the time of kindness, in the gentle years, we all have the same name - red dust passerby.

Everyone comes into this world to cultivate themselves and hone their true disposition, but you also have to see the cruelty of this world, the cold and warm of human feelings, the cold and cold of the world, no matter how sincere you are, when you meet people who doubt you, you are a liar in his eyes. You don't have to argue.

No matter how simple you are, you will pay your heart and lungs out of people, but you will always meet people with complicated hearts, then you are a scheming person in his eyes.

You don't need to explain. No matter how naïve you are, when you encounter the traps that the world always assumes, you become a joke.

No matter how professional you are, don't argue with unprofessional people. As Guo Degang has a passage: "For example, I said to rocket experts, your rocket is not good, the fuel is not good, I think you have to burn firewood, it is best to burn coal, coal must also be selected coal, water washing coal is not OK." If the scientist takes a straight look at me, he loses. ”

Perhaps, your efforts are not worth mentioning at all in the eyes of others, so don't care too much about what others evaluate you, all you need is to do yourself well, and others are just others.

When you are sincere with others, when you encounter someone who is full of anger, there is no need to persuade him, because he does not look good to the eye, and he will not be pleasing to the eye, rather than being hated, it is better to wait and see. For those who are dissatisfied with the status quo but are powerless to change, it is best to stay away.

Because they will project their inner dissatisfaction and defective feelings on you, they will feel that the world is full of enemies. Inner fear and anxiety will magnify the flaws of personality, and will feel that there is no good in the world, there are no good people, and there is no goodness.

No matter how annoying you meet, don't lose your temper and don't hate others. Instead, warn yourself not to be that kind of person, this is goodness

Jia Pingwa's "May Life Be Calm": "The real calm is not to avoid the hustle and bustle and disputes, but to treat life calmly."

Your feelings, the things you experience, the people you meet, will become the scenery of your life, and with the passage of time, they will also become the past and the past.

Let yourself not love the past, what you once had, whether it is gain or loss, success or failure, the encounter of the present, whether it is happiness or pain, will also become the past.

No matter how good you were in the past, you can't always indulge in memories, no matter how much pain you have experienced in the past, life must look forward, and you must liberate yourself from dreams or difficulties.

The mood should be kept peaceful, do not be affected by the outside world, live a confident and affectionate life, live up to the time, do not live up to yourself.

Be a simple and kind person, then the purple qi will come from the east, and good luck and blessings will naturally surround you and protect you.

When the heart is simple, the world is simple. Take good care of yourself, adjust your mentality, do the things you like well, treat the people around you well, and the beauty you want in life will naturally come as promised.

You must know that time is changing, people's hearts are also changing, some things, there is no need to waste time, do not have to explain to anyone, you think it is right to insist. People who understand you, do not have to explain, will understand you, support you; those who do not understand you, why explain, explain is also in vain, waste of feelings.

You know, knowing how to love yourself, this is also kindness, and it is also the most important thing to insist on in a lifetime. If you are born as a human being, if you don't even love yourself, then how can you talk about loving others? The prosperity is over, the return of a thousand sails, and the kindness of everyone is their final destination.

People in the red dust, this is a lonely walk, if someone goes along, is lucky, of course, good, if not, there is no need to resent, you also have to become your own sun, even if it is a person, you also have to shine and live, with your own light, steaming.

To perfect himself and go with the flow, Zhou Guoping said: "The activities that a person engages in just to make a living or make money are all labor, while the activities he engages in out of his true interests and true disposition are all creation." Labor can only bring external benefits, and only creation can obtain the happiness of the heart. ”

When people reach middle age, they have learned to live with nature, obey the imperfections of life, and just want to live a stable and smooth life, in their own small world, in small fireworks, do what they like to do, bear what they should bear, bear what they should bear, this is the calmness of life.

In the midst of materialistic desires, people's hearts are impetuous, the pursuit of their own enjoyment has become a pursuit, few people stop for the suffering of others, and few people offer their own acts of kindness for the things around them.

In fact, we live not only to pursue material prosperity, but also to have a heart of benevolence, to have acts and desires to do good, and only when everyone releases the good thoughts in their hearts, the world is beautiful.

Or, let the flowers of inner goodness bloom in their own acres of flower fields, then, while fragrant others, will also be beautiful by the fragrance of others!

Therefore, be kind to people, self-improvement, when you are working the way to self-improvement, don't care about what the results are, just cultivate, don't ask about the future.

You must know how to feel with your heart in the process, experience it personally, and continue to experience, and strive to improve yourself until the end.

What the result is, it is no longer important, what is important is that after undergoing tempering and precipitation, you have obtained the baptism of the spirit and become more mature and stable.

As the saying goes, things cannot be done nonsense, and words cannot be said indiscriminately. To be a man is to fear heaven and earth. There are gods who raise their heads three feet, and they are not afraid of others and fear themselves.

When we are doing something, we think that no one else knows, but people are doing it, and the sky is watching. Ordinary people have not seen what you are doing, but there are gods in the heavens, which may be on your head, and your words and deeds of the gods can be seen clearly.

The other day, several friends got together, and one of them actually had some kind of small problem in his body, but he swore it and denied it.

The consequence is that, just one day apart, the old disease recurs, and although it is a small disease, it is still suffering from pain, which is a real thing.

Therefore, in life, we must have good intentions, do things with openness, openness, integrity, integrity, and integrity, do things conscientiously, be cautious in words and deeds, and must not be careless and open-minded, otherwise there will be results.

Life is made up of multiple choice questions. Some people choose to be comfortable, always choose the most self-interested way to live; some people continue to choose, rampage, and want to make their lives have a different color.

Ma Boyong said: "The purpose of walking out of the comfort zone is not to find guilt, but to find a more comfortable zone that you never knew before." ”

Really strong people are very good at taking "detours". Taking a detour is an experience for yourself. If you have ideals and ambitions in your heart, you should have no remorse. Choose differently, and only then will someone stand on the top of the mountain and look at the vista.

Success does not mean that there is one, and it takes a lot of effort to meet it. Sometimes they even fall directly into the bottom, only by constantly persevering and working hard, they will break a path that suits them.

On the tortuous road forward, you can let yourself have more time to practice, to experience, to turn the process into your own valuable experience, and to let yourself grow in adversity.

Taking detours and accumulating experience, Lu You wrote in the poem: "On paper, I finally feel shallow, and I never know that this matter must be done." "On the road of life, only through experience can we achieve growth."

If you achieve success and reap success too easily, you may be overwhelmed by the applause and cheers around you, and you will not really realize your own shortcomings.

If you are complacent or stop learning, then your ability and achievement will not have new growth, and you will eventually be eliminated.

Taking a detour is actually a learning process. When you stand at the crossroads of life, you simply cannot judge whether the decision you have made is right or wrong at this moment. Since you have chosen the wrong one, you should strive to improve your ability and return to the right track as soon as possible.

On the road to success, every bump, every obstacle, is constantly tempering people's own will. Challenge people's potential and inspire themselves to become stronger.

Don't be afraid to take a detour, people are constantly trying and making mistakes, constantly summing up experience, improving their own ability and becoming a better self.

Only by taking detours can we achieve a stronger heart and ourselves. Taking a detour is a kind of attempt, going through a detour, trying, and only then do you know if you can do it.

In the TV series "Xiao MinJia", Chen Zhuo and Qian Feng have been stable in a company for more than ten years, and when they are almost fifty years old, they have the idea of starting a business.

In the eyes of others, this was a very unwise choice, but they still started the business with a hard heart.

Among them, they have experienced the withdrawal of investors and the difficulty of running a lack of funds, but this attempt will become a very precious experience on their life path. Fortunately, in the end, the company began to go uphill, and this "detour" was the right one.

People will always have a yearning for their unknown territory, but also with a sense of trepidation and uncertainty, both want to prove themselves, but also afraid of the final defeat.

In fact, the most important thing in life is not how you think, but how you do it, only by trying and experiencing, can you be more clear about your ability.

Everyone has the right to choose their own life path, and only when they really do it will they know whether they can do it. Sometimes just a little more persistence can make life better.

Taking a detour can find the right direction, and taking the wrong road can find the right way. There is no shortage of arrogant and good teachers in life, who have achieved some small achievements and are self-righteous and begin to flutter.

I always think that every decision I make is right, and I think that those who oppose myself are not self-sufficient and unwilling to calm down and think carefully. The road of life, if it goes too smoothly, it is easy to get carried away.

It is very dangerous in terms of self-development, and only by taking the wrong path can we know which way is right. Detours actually give life a chance to correct mistakes.

People who have been smooth sailing in the beginning have not been hit and failed, and if they suddenly encounter unexpected setbacks, it is easy to collapse and become depressed.

Only by taking detours and constantly precipitating oneself in adversity can you gradually make yourself mature.

Only by walking through detours can we know how to think carefully, have a long-term vision, and have the courage to ride the wind and waves, and only then can we find a new way out.

On the road of life, don't be afraid to take a detour. Kant said: "Since I have embarked on this path, nothing should prevent me from going down this road." ”

On the road of life, it will not always be smooth sailing, and it will deviate from the original route when walking. If you confess your destiny, the height of this life can only stop here.

Those who have become big things will take a detour and will not be helpless. Instead, it is to sink the breath, thick and thin. Learn and grow in the detour, accumulate experience, and thus turn this detour into a good road.

On the road of life, don't be afraid to take a detour, growth is pain, not growing is unhappy. On the road of trial and error, as long as you persist, you will always find a correct path and see the dawn of success again.

Life is a long road, you have to have confidence in yourself. When the strength is strong enough, when the heart is firm enough, no wind or rain can hinder the pace of progress, the life that belongs to you will only become smoother and smoother! Loving others first and pleasing others is far worse than practicing oneself.

The rest of life is not long, do not wronged yourself, do not live, but also the great wisdom of life, after all, relying on grievances to be able to long-term relationship, is not worth continuing. Entrusting one's happiness to other people's emotions is even more foolish.

Our attitude towards life is to use a tolerant and beautiful heart to resolve hardships and be grateful for happiness, rather than the cold and warm of obedient life.

Along the way, when we go from innocent teenagers to devastated vicissitudes. The wind that blew in the ears went from gentle to sharp and piercing, and all that was regretted, regretted, and missed was diluted by the years, and bowed to reality.

The past can not be traced, the future will not be, the kite that broke the line should not let go, only once in life, why bother to grievance yourself, live a good moment, happiness is the most important. Hurriedly passing by, the way is different, do not conspire with each other, try to please, it is better to say goodbye in a dashing manner.

Once carefully maintain the relationship with everyone, sensitively excavate every emotional change of the other party, do what to make others happy, learn to cater to please without temper, take care of all feelings, and feel wrong at any time.

In the end, I realized how ridiculous I was, neither winning friendship nor making my life easy. No one understands the grievances, and there is no place for pure sincerity. No one can do what everyone likes, and why should the circle that can't be integrated be angry with themselves.

A truly wise person will not bother to please others with all kinds of thoughts, if you bloom and the butterflies come, what you get by bending the "poor" is a rootless dead tree, a baptism that cannot withstand the wind and rain.

Only when you are strong and excellent can you attract the same level of networking. Life is hard, the pursuit of difference, do not live in the expectations of others to go with the flow, open-minded, away from the unsuitable circle, make friends with the circle of insiders.

As the saying goes, a low-quality marriage is not as good as a high-quality single, and it is also a wise move to choose not to be wronged by marriage.

In reality, how many men and women choose the wrong person because of family pressure and the mentality of complacency, and get married in a hurry.

When the shortcomings of both parties are exposed one by one after marriage, there is no heartache, no love, and all that remains is disgust and cost measurement.

In the family wars staged every day, all kinds of trivialities make grievances accumulate more and more, and once people have grievances, they will amplify even a small thing in life, thus committing irrational behavior.

Endless complaining and oppression is the result of long-term disappointment in marriage, and in the end it can only end up being the result of a song and a person. In fact, what really crushed the camel was not the last straw, but the accumulated grievances.

Can't help but make me start to reflect on myself, love is easy to get along with, good marriage is never by bending the curve to seek perfection can last, but by not wronging myself to start.

If there is no impulsive will, there will be no misery in the wrong marriage. When wronged yourself becomes a habit, it is to bury your happiness with your own hands.

There is really no need to make everyone understandable, everything is satisfactory, rather than asking others to obey their own hearts, it is better to please themselves, this is the smart way to run a good marriage.

In life, some people can refuse the ease of others, and some people are as uneasy as if they have made a mistake, this kind of "flattering" self-abuse, so that they invisibly carry a huge psychological burden, humble life.

Indeed, if you care too much about the eyes of others, you will make yourself very tired, and the understanding of your own will also become a chip for being bullied by others. Even aggrieved themselves without principles and bottom lines to agree to the unreasonable demands of others.

It is very necessary to learn to protect your own rejection, rather than being a painful good person, it is better to be a "bad person" who is not good at talking, even if you are no longer in contact because of anger, you have done it with a clear conscience.

People who understand you will respect you because of your high style and bright festivals, and people who don't understand you don't have to grievance themselves to deliberately please.

People who always live in the eyes of others will lose themselves and cannot see their current situation and heart clearly. If the person who knows that it is impossible to do it and is difficult for you is itself an unkindness, you must bravely say your true thoughts and remember not to wronged yourself.

Life requires wisdom, some people play a good hand of cards, and some people can play a bad hand of hole cards to win. How to live, after all, is up to you.

Fate is responsible for paving the way, but no matter what, wronging yourself is not a shortcut to happiness, and compromise cannot reap the same kindness of others.

Be kind to yourself, automatically shield the indifference of others, do not snub the sincere enthusiasm, interpret the simple beauty of life, and keep the peace and tranquility of the heart, in order not to live up to it.

Life does not need to be rehearsed, it is a real scene. Life is just a fragment of life, short but also wonderful. Heaven and earth shine with the sun and the moon, and life and years shine together. 过‬往‬的‬岁月静静地‬去‬了，不‬是‬索取了‬什么东西，而是看‬是‬否‬活‬出‬了真‬情‬的样子。

The years pass in a hurry, and life blossoms and falls. No matter how good the time will pass, life is one side to have, and the other side to lose.

无论是过去，还是现在，抑‬或是未来，生离死别，都是人生独特的场景。 Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy.

You have a constant, why do you need three more and five more sleep; the most useless, no more than a day of exposure to ten days of cold. Sound is beautiful, suitable is the best. What is always new is fascinating, and what is ordinary is great.

What is tough is long-lasting, and what is real is eternal. 人生中的每一次相遇，都是今‬生‬最爱的那个缘分。 遇到的那些美好的风景，适‬时地珍惜身边的所有陪伴。

生‬存‬是为‬了‬活‬下去，活一‬场‬不容‬易‬。 人生恰似一道多彩的风景，不是因为得到了多少，而是放弃了多少执‬念‬，轻松驾驭自己的人生。 生活既‬是一门‬学问，也‬是一‬门‬艺术，从中活岀真情的自我，才‬是‬人生宝贵‬的财富。

漫‬漫人生路，一‬路‬‬走来，风‬雨兼程，来‬时‬‬路‬途平‬坦‬，去‬时‬坎‬坷不‬平‬‬。 走‬来‬不‬要‬迷失方向，回‬去‬给‬你坦‬途‬。 一‬来一往‬都是人‬生‬的常态，来‬时‬轻轻松‬松‬，去‬时‬背‬负着沉重的担子。

Walk by and don't miss it. 不‬要忘了沿‬路的‬景‬色‬，脚下的风景美‬如画，看看醉‬人的美景‬，心‬醉神迷‬，‬闻‬一闻花‬花‬草‬草‬的清香。 Give yourself a gap in your heart, enjoy the scenery with ease, feast your eyes, revel in the soul, and wander in the beauty of nature.

人生的‬路‬上‬，不缺迷‬人‬的风景，缺的‬是赏花观‬景的心情。 不‬论是阴‬晴‬冷暖，还是风‬霜‬雨雪‬‬的日子，去‬寻找一份‬恬淡温馨的乐趣，怡养心情，追寻心头的一份情怀。 岁月的时光里，总有属于自己的一‬片‬天空。

人生如寄，并‬非一帆风顺，有‬坦‬途‬，也‬有‬坎‬坷‬，坎‬坎坷坷的道路上，总有‬看‬不完的风景。 从‬小到大，每‬个人走‬的路不‬一样，经‬历‬了许多的风风雨雨，看到的景色也会‬千‬差万别。

乡‬间‬有‬乡村的风景，城‬市有‬城市的喧嚣，宽‬阔‬的‬大‬马‬路‬也‬有‬独特的魅力，会‬欣赏才‬是最好的风景，也‬是‬你‬一‬生‬的财富。

时‬光‬匆匆的脚步远‬去‬，岁月的痕迹渐‬行渐‬远。 在跋‬涉‬的‬时光中，播种心灵的美好；快意每一个日出，用心感悟，释怀每一个日落。

Listen attentively to the natural sound of the heart, shake off the dust of the years, restore the authenticity of life with a pure heart, and treat everyone in life with a grateful attitude. The beautiful scenery of the soul and the pure inner world are the real scenery of life.

每‬个人‬的人‬生都‬不一样，生活的‬点滴都是人‬生‬的常态。 ‬只要你付出一片真心，对自己的生活尽‬心‬尽力，生活也‬不‬会‬让你失望，回‬馈‬属于你的那‬些光‬环‬。

If you are better about life, life will not treat you badly. 不当井底之蛙，坐井观天，走‬出‬小‬天‬地‬，登‬高望远，活出一道靓丽的风景线，这样才会无愧于自我人生。

Everyone will like the warmth under the sun, the fertile orchid heart Bell Lingyu show, the beautiful scenery of the mountains and rivers. Everything in the world has a fixed number, there is no love for no reason, there is no hate for no reason, love and hate will drift with the wind, and everything will become a memory of the past. As long as the past life does not leave regrets, live every day of life to the fullest.

Stop when carrying weights, and learn to give up when you can't move. Renunciation is not an escape, but a spiritual awakening, a manifestation of the wisdom root, like a bird returning to the forest, like a fish into the water.

When all the dust settles and the hustle and bustle of the past returns to calm, we will truly understand that giving up is also a choice, and losing is also a gain. To be tolerant of others is also to be tolerant of yourself, you no longer bother with small things, life will add a lot of joy and ease.

Live, cherish; live to understand people, understand things, know how to be grateful; casual and not casual, lonely and unheard; everything is indifferent, and enjoy yourself.

Recognize the world and fall in love with it; people will be like this for a lifetime, and the next life may not meet again. Cherish this lovely world, some unnecessary troubles, throw them all away, and only then will there be a chance to be light.

人生得‬太多痛苦，还有很多不幸，都是因为顾虑得太多；总想要活成别人那样，而不是成为自己这样。 The price of envying others is often to lose oneself and lose one's original self.

If life must please a person, what you should please most is yourself, go with the direction of the heart, see the light of others, and know your own dazzling. Do not live up to youth, do not live up to Shaohua, do not live up to themselves, will not live up to life.

人‬贵在知足常乐，也‬要‬有自‬知之明。 To be a man, we do not seek great wealth and nobility, but only seek to have a good character; people must have a good heart when they are alive. Do not do to others what you do not want, and give your heart to the heart.

More sincerity, less calculation, more tolerance, less calculation, more support, less slander, more help, less difficulty. 人生虽‬不‬完‬美‬，但‬不‬留‬遗憾。

Doing ordinary things with a normal mind every day is actually the most extraordinary. 每个人的一生都有自己的使命，不用与‬别人攀‬比，好好活自己。

There are no people who are absolutely happy, only hearts that refuse to be happy. To please yourself is to accept yourself from the heart, love yourself, and know how to please yourself.

Pleasing yourself is not selfishness, but knowing how to take care of yourself, and only by taking care of yourself can you give yourself the strength to meet new challenges. 接受自己不仅是对自我价值的肯定，更是懂得接纳自己的缺点，修‬正‬自己的不足。

做‬人‬不‬要‬顾虑太多，也‬无需在意世俗的眼光。 What others say has nothing to do with you, then live according to your own wishes. As long as you know what you are seeking, my life is mine and your life is yours.

Only when a person knows how to please himself can he not give up on himself; he who knows how to please himself can tap into the ultimate beauty in ordinary life.

Life is an unusual journey, and I care not only about the scenery along the way, but also the mood when I see the scenery. The mood of clouds and uncertainties will also be terminated by the beautiful scenery.

In a person's itinerary, the road traveled, and the things experienced will eventually become the scenery behind it, and they cannot turn back or stay. If you choose to stay at a certain point in your life, you may miss a better scenery.

Time has tested people's hearts and witnessed good times. In the adult world, there are many helplessness, there are also many reluctance, everything is up to date, and the final result is determined by time.

Man lives a face, trees live a skin. No matter how beautiful the cheeks are, they can't withstand the beauty of the bottom of the heart. Life should be lived as you like, kind, upright, selfless, filial piety, such a life is the best choice, and in the end, you will be ashamed and face everything calmly.

Life is a lifetime, and living well depends on the state of mind. Only by living cheerfully and optimistically, being open-minded and wise to get along with people, can we face life calmly and calmly. You can't influence others, you can adjust your emotions, you can't live by your mood, but you have to live by your mentality.

The daily rush, the busyness of life, some departing things, that is inevitable, do not have to be too entangled; some are parting ways, and there is always nowhere to rest. And these are the scenery in front of you, the joy and laughter that have passed, the attachments of the past, and the sentimentalities that have been experienced, all of which will return to peace with the days like flowing water.

In the end, I finally woke up like a dream, life is just like a colorful landscape, not how much I have gained, but the true self, my world I decide, my life I decide.

The brightest star in life is the noble people you meet around you, they are not your parents and elders, or brothers and sisters, or relatives who are old, and friends who have suffered and seen the truth, and those strangers who meet you are part of your life, and they are the noble people in your life. The company of your loved ones, that is the best time of your life!

On the road of life, don't worry too much, if you think too much, you can't see the colorful scenery; if you think about how much you lose, it's not how much you get, but whether you live the true self.

人生像是运‬行‬的列车，不停地向前行驶。 不‬会‬无‬故‬停在轨道上，只‬有一‬路‬向‬前行驶。 行‬驶‬的列车‬不能‬停留，那么人‬生‬的运行‬轨‬迹也‬不会停‬。 就‬此‬不会‬去‬延长自己的生命，只‬是浏览人生旅途中多彩的风景。 There is no lack of beauty in life, but a lack of eyes to find beauty.

人生旅途中有太多的风景，一‬路‬走来尽‬情‬去欣赏。 A flood of autumn water, a row of geese, a tree, a flower, a beautiful person, and so on. 然而，人生的风景不光局限于自然中的景致，更进一步，每‬个‬人‬内心深处燃‬起的希望之‬光，也有很多美好的风景值得去发掘。

人生处处有风景，花‬开花谢皆美‬丽。 再‬美‬再‬漂亮的美‬景，也‬得‬有‬人‬去‬观‬赏‬。 看‬起来‬并‬‬不‬算‬美‬的风景，取‬决‬于‬观‬赏‬者‬的心‬情‬。 养‬在‬深闺人未识，一‬朝‬选在君王侧。 美丽的身影，等待赏‬识‬者‬去审视，有‬一‬份‬乐观开朗的情绪，有助于发现美妙的风景。 停‬下匆‬匆‬的‬‬脚步，放‬眼‬身边的美好时光，一‬切‬的‬繁华尽‬在不‬言‬中‬。

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