【No. 990: Police Camp Sound Power】 Get rid of the entanglement of internal friction (III)

author：Ping An Huanggang 2022-01-20 18:42:00

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主 播/李廷格（黄冈市公安局辅警）

There is a saying in Sartre's novel "The Wall" that I like very much: "It is a very stupid and intriguing thing for people to exercise self-restraint at all times." "A lot of our unhappiness is because we are entangled in all kinds of thoughts in our heads. Serious mental wear and tear will affect their ability to make effective judgments, whether it is study, work or interpersonal communication will be more difficult. Accepting yourself and throwing away the label of perfect human design is the beginning of reducing internal friction.

The Japanese drama "We Can't Be Beasts" tells the story of the real "social animal" of the internal consumption type personality: in people's eyes, the heroine Shen Haijing smiles brightly every day, and is an all-round 30-year-old woman who is perfect in work and love. In fact, she is constantly patient for the sake of the eyes of the people around her, and she is tired of work and love. Everyone wants to be a beast, but because of their inner considerations, life is bound and difficult. When we no longer please all people and no longer push ourselves to be perfect, we will live more freely. We are creators of life, not passive adaptors.

In order to reduce internal friction and become high-performance people, we must learn to narrow the circle of attention and expand the circle of influence. Proactive people will focus more on the "circle of influence" and will not focus on uncontrollable things. Hobbies are a great medicine to eliminate emotional internal friction. In the few days when the college entrance examination results were announced one after another, a few joys and a few sorrows. Zhang from Anhui found that his total score in the college entrance examination was 529 points, which was not very ideal. But he did not collapse, nor did he blindly indulge in sad emotions, but went to the second floor alone to pull erhu. The music is bleak, but at the same time there is hope. He has made the decision to re-read, so he will no longer dwell on past failures and let negative emotions consume him.

The American psychoanalyst Karen mentioned in his book "Our Inner Conflicts": "The more we face up to our conflicts and seek solutions, the more we can gain inner freedom." As the saying goes, "The general is in a hurry, not the rabbit." "Smart people know how to focus time on important things; people with serious internal friction will spend time on entanglement and anxiety." At any time, we are the creators of our own psychological pain and the only terminators.

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Review: Lei Hong, Guo Zihua

Proofreader: Liu Yunshi Pan Xiaoting

Editor: Pan Xiaoting

【No. 990: Police Camp Sound Power】 Get rid of the entanglement of internal friction (III)

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