Story of the 35-year-old widower - Chen Qiang

01

Chen Qiang's diploma is not high, he lives by doing odd jobs, and his temperament is not reliable, and he has not married until he is close to the age of 30. He himself didn't care about marriage, but his mother was anxious and asked around for the right family.

But the good girl's family is unwilling, and the girl's family with poor conditions can't see it, so it has been dragging on. When I was 30 years old, I finally settled down a girl named Wang Ping. The two people also saw each other, and they were quite satisfied with each other, so it didn't take long to get married and set up a banquet.

After marriage, Chen Qiang's temperament is more stable, and he also hurts his daughter-in-law very much, and every time he goes out, he will always bring some small things to Wang Ping, and his life is also happy. In the second half of her marriage, Wang Ping became pregnant with a child.

Chen Qiang was even happier, and he was even more meticulous about Wang Ping, although Wang Ping was sometimes easily angry, he also tolerated it. But he never expected that after Wang Ping became pregnant, there was a sudden neurological problem.

The illness came suddenly, and there was no warning, at first he only heard Wang Ping occasionally talk to himself, he thought it was some reaction after pregnancy, and he didn't pay much attention. But this phenomenon is getting more and more serious, Wang Ping not only talks to herself, but also suddenly hits things, and occasionally even bites people.

Chen Qiang finally sensed that something was wrong and observed that Wang Ping's mental state was not normal, so he wanted to take someone to the hospital.

But it took a lot of effort to take people to the hospital. Wang Ping was pregnant with a child, and she did not want to, nor did she dare to force it, so she could only coax and deceive people to take people to the hospital.

On the way to the hospital, watching Wang Ping sitting and talking to herself and saying things that others could not understand, Chen Qiang felt unprecedented panic and helplessness. When she arrived at the hospital, Chen Qiang coaxed her to do various examinations, but some sudden problems occurred.

Wang Ping rejected the examination, and when she saw the strange doctor, she made a big fuss, and even had the tendency to do it. After the tossing and turning, after the inspection, I took Wang Ping home again. A few days later, the results were obtained and the hospital diagnosed it with schizophrenia.

Chen Qiang never figured out how a good person would suddenly suffer from this disease. After that, I took the medicine prescribed by the hospital and ate it, but the condition not only did not improve, but even the symptoms became more and more serious.

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Chen Qiang has to go out to work every day, there is only his mother and Wang Ping at home, he has no choice but to ask his mother to watch over Wang Ping all day long, afraid of accidents, after all, she is still pregnant with a child. Because of Wang Ping's disease, Chen Qiang also specifically asked the doctor, afraid that it would affect the child.

As the saying goes, I am afraid of what comes, and the doctor said that Wang Ping's condition may be inherited. Chen Qiang's mother persuaded Chen Qiang to give up the child, and if the child was born with this disease, it would also be painful.

But Chen Qiang looked at Wang Ping's already obviously bulging belly, not to mention that this child could not be beaten off, even if he could hit him, he did not want to fight, after all, it was his first child. He insisted on this child, thinking that even if he was sick in the back, he would raise it himself and would never treat it badly.

The burden of the family is on him, he goes out to work every day, only comes home at night, and when he returns home, he still has to take care of Wang Ping, watching Wang Ping make a big fuss and throw around, he only feels tired and tired to the extreme.

In this way, it was finally time for the birth of the child. Because of Wang Ping's special circumstances, half a month before giving birth, he pushed off his job and Wang Ping was admitted to the hospital. The child was a week ahead of her due date, but the child was healthy, was born more than six pounds, and was a white and fat son.

Chen Qiang looked at the child and felt that all the hardships were worth it. Since the child was born, most of it was carried by him, and he wanted to work with his mother. As for Wang Ping, he did not dare to hand over the child to her.

At first, he still thought about breastfeeding, but on the one hand, the doctor did not recommend breastfeeding, on the other hand, Wang Ping did not know the child, and there was a violent tendency, so he gave up this idea.

The birth of the child undoubtedly increased his burden, and the monthly milk powder and diapers were all expenses. He basically has no rest time for a month, and he will work hard to make money. His mother looked at him so hard and hurt him, and before marriage, he was anxious because of his uncertain nature, but now it hurts to see him so hard.

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His mother had not complained about Wang Ping, and had thought of marrying a daughter-in-law, but she did not think that it would bring a burden. But Chen Qiang was a man of great affection and righteousness, and when he heard his mother mention sending Wang Ping back to his mother's house, he refused without thinking about it.

If no one carries a child, he wants someone else, and if he has a child, he doesn't want it. Although the medicine that Wang Ping takes every month is more expensive, he has not given up, and the money spent on the child and Wang Ping every month is enough.

He did not think of sending Wang Ping back to his mother's house, but he did not expect that her family actually took the initiative to come and prepare to take Wang Ping back.

The mother's family thought that they were afraid that Wang Ping would be rejected by the in-laws when she got sick, so she took her home and raised her well. On the other hand, it was also because Grandma Wang Ping had also suffered from such a disease and realized that there might be heredity, because this matter also felt indebted to the Chen Qiang family.

Chen Qiang's mother was happy to see this happen, but she also respected Chen Qiang's ideas, and Chen Qiang did not say anything after raising himself. Just take medicine to take care of it, and it seems that there is really an improvement in the back.

Wang Ping can occasionally wake up for a while, and she can also hold the child for a while. Children have a natural sense of closeness to their mothers, although they have not had much contact with Wang Ping since birth, but the first time Wang Ping held the child after getting better, the child did not reject it in the slightest.

But when Wang Ping was not awake and sick, she still did not dare to give her the child. Only once, when she was awake at first, Chen Qiang's mother carried the child to her and walked away for a while, and when she came back, she saw the child fall to the ground and was shocked.

Fortunately, the package was thick and the child did not fall anywhere, but since then, although Wang Ping was awake, she did not dare to hold the child for her.

04

The child gradually grew up and began to learn to speak, and the first thing he said was to shout "Daddy", but Chen Qiang did not hear it with his own ears, he was working on the construction site at that time. Every day when he went home to watch his children, Chen Qiang felt that everything in life had hope.

Although the pressure is very high, sometimes because of Wang Ping's condition, he will suffer from the rumors of neighbors, but he sees that Wang Ping's condition is slowly improving, the child is gradually growing up, and he feels that everything is worth it.

But when the child was three or four years old, Wang Ping finally left. Her body was originally very good, but because of long-term medication and mental torture, her body became worse and worse, and her immunity became lower and lower, until finally because of a serious illness, she finally left.

Three- and four-year-old children are the most in need of parental companionship, although Wang Ping is usually not close to children, but because of the existence of this person, it is also a kind of companionship for children. But the child has completely lost its mother, which is cruel to a three- or four-year-old child.

On the day Wang Ping left, the child inexplicably cried and muted his throat, how to coax it was not good, and finally it was difficult to coax him to sleep.

Many people said that Wang Ping's departure was a relief for Chen Qiang, not only was there no burden, but he could also find another daughter-in-law. Many people think so, after all, the child is still young, Chen Qiang is only thirty-five years old, and it is not difficult to find a daughter-in-law.

But In the end, Chen Qiang never looked for it again, and dragged the child to grow up alone, giving the child double love. Chen Qiang's mother did not force him to go on a blind date, but Chen Qiang did not agree to remarry in the end.

He was not for Wang Ping, but he just thought that there would inevitably be children after remarriage, and it was difficult to make the love for the children even at that time, and he no longer wanted to remarry.

For his thoughts, his mother scolded him many times, and even said: "When I am gone, who will take care of every woman in the family?" You go to work day by day, who takes care of the children? If you don't look for one, don't call me Mom. ”

If you think about it, yes, now he relies on his mother for his children to work, and her mother is tired and panicked all day long. But he still did not change his mind, saying that the ship to the bridge is naturally straight, and can only double the compensation for the mother and child.

A home with a mother, a child and him, he felt enough.