The sun is always after the wind and rain
Text/Zeng Kaige
In the last issue of the article, we wrote about Xiaomei, and today, we continue to tell her story.
Xiaomei's mother continued to move forward on the road of seeking medical treatment and study. As soon as she heard where there were good doctors, or great immortals or something, she couldn't wait to contact them. Once went out to play, heard that a big immortal treatment method is very unique, Xiaomei's mother secretly rejoiced, thinking that if it is cured! Although she had been fooled many times by Daxian before, Xiaomei's mother still held the mentality of trying it out, put down the work in her hand, and ran to contact them non-stop. No matter how much it costs, Xiaomei's illness must be cured.
Daxian told Xiaomei's mother that Xiaomei's body was possessed by the soul of the snake spirit, that is, to give money for him to crack it, to write runes, and to burn incense, and to chant the incantation for a while. Within a week, the snake spirit ghost withdrew from her body. In order to cure Xiaomei's illness as soon as possible, her mother immediately took out a wad of money, and Daxian said that she would wait for the news in a week. A week passed and it didn't work. There was no way for Xiaomei's mother to ask those friends for help again, and then go to a big hospital to see a doctor.
In order to treat Xiaomei's illness, her mother also worked hard. A friend of Xiaomei's mother was a well-known lawyer in the provincial city, and after hearing about Xiaomei's condition, she immediately contacted a psychiatric hospital in the provincial city and found a famous psychiatrist. After various examinations, the diagnosis was confirmed as depression and anxiety, and Xiaomei needed psychological counseling.
The doctor formulated a treatment plan for Xiaomei and adjusted a series of work and rest times for Xiaomei. After a period of conditioning, Xiaomei basically returned to normal, Xiaomei's mother shed tears of excitement, she thanked the school's teachers, classmates and many parents for their care and help, with everyone's selfless dedication, Xiaomei returned to the previous lively and cute appearance.
At present, many parents' knowledge of depression only stays in the knowledge of teachers in class. I don't know much about the dangers of depression, and I just want to communicate with my child and let my child go back to school. Such an approach can only be described as ignorance. There are deep reasons why children are reluctant to go to school. Xiaomei is now because the pressure of the college entrance examination is a bit big, which is the reason why she is reluctant to go to school.
At present, the state has begun to pay attention to children with depression, and schools have opened psychology classes and equipped with psychology teachers, which is a sign of social progress.
The local education bureau knew about Xiaomei's situation, and they arranged for the school's psychological teacher to give Xiaomei psychological counseling. When psychological counseling, Xiaomei and the psychology teacher are alone in a psychological classroom, communicating one-on-one. In this way, the psychology teacher slowly opened Xiaomei's heart knot and slowly unblocked Xiaomei's mood.
When the exam was first taken, Xiaomei was admitted to a high school in the suburbs, and the leader of the Education Bureau transferred a school closer to home for Xiaomei, just so that Xiaomei's mother could take care of Xiaomei. Xiaomei was lucky, and with the help of so many doctors and psychology teachers, she gradually returned to normal.
In the process of adjustment, the class teacher let her mother accompany her in the first few days in order to let Xiaomei adapt as soon as possible. Because it is a freshman year of high school, let Xiaomei arrive at school at 7:30 in the morning, you can go a little late, and also tell the classroom teacher not to ask her questions first. For a week or so, Xiaomei adapted and slowly learned to get on the right track. Under the care of parents, all teachers, and leaders of the education department, Xiaomei's condition gradually improved and returned to the previous lively and cute situation. Xiaomei's mother cried with joy, and this illness wasted Xiaomei's two years. Now Xiaomei has finally come out, and what greets Xiaomei is a better tomorrow. Xiaomei's story ended perfectly.
Little Red's Wound
Xiaohong is a lively and cute rural girl who attends junior high school, at first, her father and mother had heavy feudal ideas, and the level of education was very low, belonging to the state of primary school has not yet graduated.
In the remote countryside, little boys belong to a family that has been passed down from generation to generation, and if anyone has a little girl, it will be looked down upon. There are many little girls in the countryside who drop out of school early. Because Xiaohong is the second little girl in the family, Xiaohong's status in the family is not welcomed. Contrary to wishes, Xiaohong's father and mother gave birth to a little sister, and the arrival of this little life did not add some happiness to the family. Because Xiaohong's father and mother sighed all day, how did they all have some girly pieces? In this way, her every day is spent in the nagging of her father and mother. Xiaohong also often complained that if I were a little boy, because her parents did not want to see, Xiaohong slowly became unhappy, and her body lost a lot of weight and became silent. After a long time, Xiaohong's father realized the seriousness of the problem, so he took Xiaohong to the hospital and was diagnosed with severe depression. When the doctor listened to Xiaohong's confession, he criticized Xiaohong's father and mother, and Xiaohong's mother also said that she wanted to change her bad habits. Back at home, Xiaohong's father and mother gave Xiaohong meticulous care. Now Xiaohong feels the warmth of the family, and her behavior gradually returns to normal.
Xiao Hua's pain
Classmate Xiaohua is the third case of depression that I know. Xiaohua's parents are both middle-level leaders of public institutions, because their parents are excellent, and the goals set for Xiaohua are also very high. Xiaohua's parents have high hopes for Xiaohua.
Xiaohua is a master of athletics, or a bully. From primary school to high school, I have won a lot of awards, Xiaohua's father and mother set The goal for Xiaohua is to go to a 985,211 university, and there is a slight decline in learning, and Xiaohua's father and mother are furious. Under this pressure of learning, Xiaohua slowly fell ill, became depressed and unhappy, and thought about how to die all day long. Maybe usually Xiaohua said that he was used to how he died, and his mother didn't care much, Xiaohua's illness lasted for more than half a year, and finally one day Xiaohua jumped from the 27th floor without her mother's defense. Xiaohua's father and mother left infinite pain, Xiaohua's father and mother could not accept such a heavy blow, after a period of time, Xiaohua's father and mother divorced, and a good family was destroyed in this way, which was sighing.
Xiaohua's story is a warning to all our parents that grades are not the only ones, health is the first, without health, everything goes to zero.
However, there are still countless parents who are desperately running for their children's scores. They all shouted that points are the lifeblood of their classmates, and there are not a few parents like Xiaohua's parents. Many parents enrolled their classmates in various types of tutoring classes. Students spent Saturdays and Sundays in tutoring classes. Parents say that learning one more skill is making far-reaching plans for their children's future. Some parents fill the weekend tutoring class very full, so that the students are very tired of shouting. Parents don't care so much, insisting on learning one more skill, saying that they are planning for their children's future.
How many parents make the same mistake, saying that grades are a status symbol for their classmates. If the parents meet, how many points does your child score? What school does your child attend from? What rank does your child rank in the class? Whose children were admitted to what kind of university.
Therefore, students with very low scores are embarrassed to say it when they meet with their parents and friends. I am afraid that others will ask for the score, but when the parents meet, they have to ask how many points they have scored, just imagine, have we asked you adults? Did you change the big house? Didn't you change the car? How much do you have to deposit? The score is very conservative for us students, when we meet, we don't want adults to ask this topic the most, and the parents also respect us!
On the road to growth, students need their parents to help patiently, rather than watching from the sidelines. Educating every child is the most beneficial investment in a parent's life.
I hope that when sharing this article, I can bring some strength and hope to the families of those who have depression. Therefore, how to be a parent is also a science. Regrettably, students with such cases are still struggling. Come on, get out early and get back to our beautiful campus life.
(Illustration and painting: created by Zeng Kaige's mother)
【About the author】Zeng Kaige (female), born in November 2005, is a first-year high school student in Linyi City, Shandong Province, she is good at singing, dancing, hosting, recitation, painting, writing, etc. Won the grand prize of the campus singer competition organized by the school, and the song was sung into the programs "Melody Time 135" and "Zeng Kaige's Growing Memory" and broadcast on television. She was photographed in cradle nutrition when she was three years old, and featured on the cover of the tenth issue of Junior Heaven and Earth at the age of 12. Published a number of essays and paintings in "Young Heaven and Earth". Her compositions have been published by some newspapers, print media, People's Daily quality news, China Poetry Network and other online platforms. He has done a special report in China. He won the Chinese Poetry Art Student Award and the second prize of the Linyi Composition Competition. Won the Chinese Red Poetry Research Association's original poetry calligraphy and painting new poets.