Brothers, in real life, not every relationship is beautiful and sweet, and sometimes we also encounter feelings that make us feel painful and tired, so why is this? In fact, the reason is not necessarily in you, you may encounter "emotional dependents".
So what is an "emotional dependent"? It's too professional, I guess you can't understand it, I will simply explain, that is, in a relationship, only know how to take and do not know how to pay. Maybe they are not voluntary, but as long as the emotional dependents do not properly handle their anxiety, no matter how hard they try to maintain the relationship, they will eventually escape the fate of the relationship collapse.
In fact, as their partners, we will consume huge costs because of their "selfishness" and "excessive demand", and because they have not been rewarded, they will be mentally exhausted, which is very painful. So at this time, how should we deal with it?
1. Understand the other person's real past
When a person is just born, it is a blank piece of paper, there is no distinction between good and evil, so "selfish", "double standard", "slag" these things must be formed by the other party in the process of growing up because of something, then we have to solve the problem must find out the cause of the problem, right? Therefore, we use an objective position to understand each other's past, to understand each other, and to communicate with each other on this premise.
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2. Persuasion
On the basis of understanding, your relationship with the other party has room to ease, then persuasion can play its real effect. Remember, persuasion is not more useful depending on who is stronger, who is more reasonable, or who has more say, but depends on the sense of trust between you.
In addition, since it is persuasion, the attitude and tone must not be too strong in this regard, otherwise your persuasion is no different from provocation.
3, say more about your feelings, let the other party see the disadvantages of the relationship and the benefits of improvement
Most of the reasons for the emotional rupture are because two people lack communication, always bury their feelings and emotions in their hearts, thinking that after a long time, they will forget, but they do not know that more and more accumulate, and finally become the "last straw" that crushes the camel.
Although when you open up to the other party, the other party may not bird you, but they are still very sober about their self-interest. When you finish talking about your feelings, explaining the disadvantages of her behavior and the benefits of improvement, then you have done everything you should do, and the final result depends on the other party's choice.
4, remember that love is a process of mutual pursuit, growth and support
The problem of some emotional dependents may be just a lack of love, inferiority, and lack of security in their hearts, feeling that they are a loser, how to work hard is a salted fish, afraid of the future. Then you can establish various short-term, long-term and ultimate goals for the other party and the relationship, encourage, tolerate, and comfort her when she fails, and affirm her when she succeeds. When she realizes that failure isn't terrible and that she has the other person's needs, you can resonate with each other and the relationship begins to return to a healthy, normal track.
So what should I do if I meet a girl who is really selfish and only knows how to ask for money and does not know how to give? Four words – give up early.