Today, Niu Da made a very unexpected move: Niu Da wanted to play with my mobile phone, he asked my opinion, my reply is not allowed, the reason is that the eyes are not good, children do not play mobile phones. Niu Da still insisted, when I took back the argument with him, the phone fell off, I was a little angry, but I did not open my mouth, he watched me run back to the room and locked the door. I was surprised, it was the first time I'd seen him lock the door. When I knocked on the door and called out to him, he didn't open the door and didn't reply, because I was worried about him, I still had a very strong tone to let him open the door, and then he opened the door, he silently picked up my mobile phone and returned it to me, and said: Mom, I picked up the mobile phone.
Every child is a lovely angel
At that time, I was already regretting it, I saw that irritable, tough mother, when the child did not obey, did not cooperate, I would still be tough, uncompromising, more like a child than they were! I know that children have their own rhythm, but I can't help but get angry until I hate my performance!
I crouched down and hugged him, then asked him softly: Can you tell your mother why she closed the door? He replied quietly, "Because I'm afraid you'll hit me." "I listened, my heart is particularly sad, I think I love him unconditionally, I have been touched by my love for the children, but I don't know that the child has grown up, he has his thoughts and fears, he knows that his mother is angry, he also knows that what he did is wrong, but he can't do it without ability to deal with it, and then he is overwhelmed, because he is very afraid that his mother is angry, he can only choose to run and dodge." I hugged him, smiled and said, "No, Mom loves you so much, the phone dropped is a small thing, even if the phone is broken, Mom won't hit you." However, Mom is very sad, you close the door, I can't see you, I'm worried about you, next time can you not shut me out? "Gave him a pitiful and aggrieved expression." He laughed too and said, "Okay." In fact, no matter how you kill him, the child loves you and his eyes are full of you.
Don't live up to the kid whose eyes are full of you
I believe that all parenting techniques and methods are superficial, and only the strong inner growth of parents is the factor that really affects the growth of children. As mothers, if we can't fundamentally improve and strengthen our hearts, control and regulate our emotions, and truly realize the growth of our own personality, then the parenting knowledge and skills we accept are just empty words, which can't really help us improve the quality of parent-child relationships. Children are a precious treasure given to us by God, and their arrival not only brings us unlimited joy and happiness experience, but also brings us a unique new opportunity for growth. But as long as I have a little patience and love, I can see the considerate, gentle, peaceful, and non-irritable mother from the children's shining eyes, and see the hard-working, growing mother, such a mother brings children an infinite sense of security, so that they can grow stronger and happier!
Not being a perfect mom, I grew up with my children