Love often only needs passion to make two people walk together, but getting along requires a slight change in each other for each other, and can bear the responsibilities that they should bear in life.
Love is an ability and a legacy, generation after generation, like these two loves in the film.
The son of a wooden merchant with no artistic cells occasionally meets Ruth, a newly moved girl who has escaped the war, one day. Just like that at first sight. She wanted to talk to her, talk a lot, want to date her, want to be with her all the time, but with his shy personality he was always unable to say anything in front of Ruth.
Ruth wanted a big family, wanted to have a lot of children, and just when the two were about to enter marriage, the guns of World War II interrupted all this beauty.
Ira was ordered to the front line, and unfortunately lost her fertility while rescuing her comrades, and he could not complete Ruth's most basic requirements, but Ruth chose to marry him anyway.
Every one of us in love will always underestimate some of the obstacles that hinder our development, thinking that as long as there is love, it can be overcome, just like Ruth in this movie, she feels that as long as she loves Ira enough, then she can make her desire give way, at this moment, love is like the big stone on the grass that sprouts, it seems to temporarily press the grass low on the stone, but it makes it stronger.
Many times, we will encounter some things in our lives that are not accepted by our loved ones or not accepted by ourselves, but we will choose to drive them away with our minds for other things. Many times we think that they have been completely abandoned by us, but they are like ghosts, lurking somewhere in our souls, waiting for revenge, and when the time comes, they will come out with a big swing and then make us pay for what we have done.
Each of us sees that the other person such as beauty, kindness, justice, etc. is the smallest part of this person, and those parts that we abandon are often the parts that determine a person. They always wake up at some point and direct people in another direction.
When Ruth was teaching, she saw the background of the children and finally revived the seed that had been suppressed in her heart for a long time. So even though he loves Ira, she understands Ira's pain, but somewhere in her heart there is always a voice that seems to say that he is carrying you pain because of his incompleteness, do you think it is worth it?
Ruth chose to escape.
Ira chose to sacrifice, to let go, to forgive, but not to give up.
Ira's letting go in exchange for the real relief of the two people, Ira uses his love to illuminate the darkest part of Ruth's heart, and from then on the two begin their real lives.
One stormy night, cowboy Luke was walking back to school carrying Sophia, who was about to graduate to New York for an internship, when he suddenly saw a car on fire on the side of the road not far away, and they ran over and desperately pulled an old man out, and when they pulled it out, the old man silently read the box.
While waiting in the hospital, a somewhat curious Sophia opened the box and read a letter from a young man named Ira decades ago to a girl he loved, Sophia, which told the story of the two men's beautiful day.
At this moment, Ruth has died, and Ira is also injured, and even her memory is deteriorating, and in the communication with Ira, Sophia slowly learns the beautiful love that the old man once had.
For the old man, Luke's behavior this time is nothing more than giving the old man a few days to extend his painful life, giving him time to remember the deceased person again, and for Luke, it gives him the courage to choose life again.
Sophia, like Ruth, has a great passion for art, but Luke knows nothing about art, and in that exhibition conference, Luke is in the crowd of people, like people living in a parallel world, and he looks at the people in front of him with the eyes of another world, and these people have nothing to do with him. He felt more and more that he and Sophia were people from two different worlds, and he felt more and more confused about the love between the two people, and eventually had a conflict with Sophia.
Sophia gave up the opportunity to intern in New York for love, and she hopes that Luke will give up that dangerous job for their love.
Luke shouted at Sophia, even if you give up going to New York for love, it doesn't mean that I have to give up my things for you...
Selfishness cannot be exchanged for love, and when two people go into a desperate situation, there is always one person who sacrifices to awaken the other party, this time it is Sophia.
After the argument, Sophia runs to Ira's place, and Ira tells her that love sometimes requires sacrifice, and the child this time you choose to sacrifice.
In the end, the beautiful girl awakens the return of the cowboy with sacrifice.
In the end, Ira dies, leaving with love and nostalgia for Ruth, passing on all their collections to Luke and Sophia in an unbelievable, but unsurprising, way. Many people do not understand that this old man inherits not only these relics, but also a spirit of love, and he has passed on his understanding of love. If there really was a being beyond humanity that was arranging everything, I think that on that rainy night, Ira appeared to find those who needed him and then pass on her most precious things to future generations, and Luke and Sophia were the pair he had chosen.
True love is to be able to make compromises for the other party, sometimes, when our love reaches a bottleneck, or can not continue, we may wish to make some sacrifices, maybe you will really lose, maybe because of your sacrifice to make love come back, but no matter what the final result, you are making the right choice.
I think that's what love should look like.