Author | Fan Deng Reading · Neo-rye
Anchor | Fan Deng Reading · Children
In life, I wonder if you have met such a person?
You say that the fitness effect is remarkable, he says "waste of time";
You say that tourism broadens your horizons, he says "spend money to buy guilt";
You say that reading cultivates sentiments, he says "pretending to be literary."
No matter what you say, the other party can always pour cold water on you again and again, ruining your enthusiasm and interest.
I've seen these heartfelt words:
"The world is sometimes funny, and some people appear in your life and seem to have come specifically to plug you."
In fact, the more uncultured people are, the more they like to contradict others, and the more they like to add blockage to others.
On the contrary, a cultured person often knows how to think in a different position, and always retains gentleness and kindness in his bones.
Chen Guo once wrote in "Good Solitude":
"Man and man, like two kingdoms, each should maintain a wide, natural and comfortable territory, and even a neutral zone between the territories."
Yes, the better the relationship between two people, the more you must grasp the sense of proportion.
Not touching the bottom line is to leave the best respect for the other party.
When it comes to He Jiong, we are often impressed by his high emotional intelligence, and his heart-warming behavior also makes many insiders feel comfortable.
Once, actress Tan Songyun made a guest appearance in "Longing for Life", at that time, it was not long after her mother died unexpectedly.
Although Tan Songyun didn't look anything out of the ordinary, He Jiong gave her a warm embrace as soon as they met and touched her head.
In the evening, everyone sat together and talked about their wishes, and Tan Songyun said lightly:
"I want to be able to dream of her, the people I love are very good and healthy, and I hope that she will be my daughter in the next life."
When she finished, she began to choke and couldn't help but burst into tears.
He Jiong's heart was not a taste, and he hurriedly handed over a tissue to comfort him:
"You're in good shape, I think you're strong, you're very well adjusted, really great, proud of you."
As a host, He Jiong did not continue to ask who this "she" was.
He knew that digging into the story behind it could make the ratings higher, but he didn't do that.
He Jiong understood that Tan Songyun's desire to stop talking, he was only willing to tell her gentle words, so as to alleviate her existing pain.
Probably, people with soft hearts have an unknown thoughtfulness. They know the measure and the etiquette.
There's a saying that goes something like this:
"The simplest upbringing is to properly avoid the embarrassment of others."
In fact, everyone will have a bad side, and there will be a past that they don't want to tell.
If you only want to satisfy your own curiosity and do not hesitate to ask the root of the matter, it is undoubtedly to open the wounds of the other party and forcibly sprinkle salt.
Putting superiority above the suffering of others is not only indifference, but also stupidity.
Seeing someone else's wound, but not watching, turning around at the right time is the greatest kindness.
Someone said:
"Praise is the best gift god has given to mankind, it can make the inferior raise their heads and the cowardly strong."
Sometimes, the power of language is often beyond people's imagination.
Appropriate praise will make the other party feel affirmed and recognized, so as to achieve self-worth.
Before the famous French writer Alexandre Dumas became famous, he was a poor young man.
Out of a desire for a literary career, at the age of twenty-one he went to Paris alone with ninety francs.
It didn't take long for Dumas to discover that his balance was not enough to give him a foothold in the big cities.
In desperation, he visited a friend of his father's and asked the old man to help him find a job.
The old man agreed without hesitation and asked him, "What are you best at?" ”
Dumas only knew how to shake his head.
Then the old man continued to ask, "Are you proficient in mathematics?" ”
Dumas still shook his head.
The old man asked again, "Do you know physics or history?" ”
Dumas still shook his head.
In the face of the old man's repeated questions, Dumas was ashamed, and for the first time he felt that he was so bad.
Since there was no suitable job recommendation for a while and a half, the old man simply asked Dumas to write down his address on the paper to facilitate later contact.
After the old man saw duma Juanxiu's handwriting, he praised it one after another:
"Your words are so beautiful, writing articles should not be bad."
Dumas, who was praised, was instantly doubly confident that he was not useless.
A few years later, Dumas wrote a number of excellent plays, among which Henry III and His Court was called the best by French literary critics.
What supported Dumas was a praise from the old man, and it was this praise that made him.
The writer La Roche Fuucco once said:
"To praise kindness is to give oneself a share of goodness in some way."
A sincere compliment not only inspires others, but also makes your relationships more harmonious.
Good communication is by no means a self-congratulatory oneself, but both sides can complement each other and shine brightly.
Those who love to go out love to return, and those who are blessed to come are blessed.
In fact, praise is like the seed we sow, it will one day in the future, let us harvest the same kindness and praise.
Scientist Tomoeko Asakawa, who had good sports when she was a child.
Becoming an athlete is her lifelong dream.
But fate seemed to have played a joke on her, during a swimming lesson, her head hit the pool wall, and at the age of 14, she unfortunately went blind.
The sudden accident left Tomoeko Asakawa at a loss, and her life was filled with many inconveniences.
What pains her even more is that she must learn Braille before the age of 15, otherwise as she gets older, the flexibility of her fingers decreases and the chances of learning are smaller.
For a time, Chieko Asakawa switched from paper reading to touch reading, and the gap in her heart can be imagined.
In those dark days, Tomoko Asakawa neither cried nor complained to her family about how unfair fate was.
She worked hard to learn Braille, actively completed her studies, and was no longer a burden on her family.
Years later, ibm's Tokyo lab threw an "olive branch" to her to participate in the study of Braille systems.
In her work, the problems are also continuous, but Tomoeko Asakawa can always overcome them one after another.
At that time, the Internet was becoming more and more popular, and blind people could not access convenient information, so she thought of developing a home browser with voice output.
In addition, the biggest difficulty for blind people is mobility problems.
So she developed a cognitive assistant that allows blind people to perceive their surroundings through whispers and vibrations.
Looking back on Tomoko Asakawa's life, she has encountered many setbacks, but she has never vented her bad emotions to the people around her.
She loves life and helps other blind people live better lives while deciding to redeem herself.
Read such a healing word:
"A person with a clean heart, a clear mind, and no excess emotions and delusions will bring people a sense of security.
Because he doesn't hurt people, and he doesn't hurt himself. ”
On the road of life, thorns are full of thorns. When we encounter bad situations, we can't help but complain, but the more we complain, the more we can't change the status quo.
On the contrary, people with strong hearts have long turned dissatisfaction into a force for progress, and they sit and watch the beautiful scenery.
In the constant self-challenge, they become more and more excellent and live as they like.
Life sea sea, may you have the wisdom of suffering and unspoken, calmly and self-consistently spend this life!
Chen Man said:
"The so-called upbringing is to do things, naturally, not to let others produce pressure;
The so-called practice is to make everyone who is close to you very comfortable. ”
The best upbringing is often reflected in every detail.
It has no deliberate obstruction, only heartfelt kindness.
People who do not add to the blockage of others, know how to divide inches, leave appropriate space;
People who do not block others, sincerely praise, good at finding bright spots;
People who do not block others, restrain their emotions, and actively solve problems.
Click "watching", for the rest of your life, may you meet such a person, and may you be gentle with the world while warming others.
Author | New Rui, do not argue, do not worry about flashy things.
Editor-in-Chief | A doctor
Typography | Zheng to the north
Music | Kevin Kern-Le Jardin