In our usual cognition, if the colleagues, friends, and classmates around us achieve excellent results, are promoted and honored, or if their children are admitted to prestigious universities, they will be envious and happy for them and give congratulations. Educate your own children, look up to excellent children, you will also find your own gap with others, strive to do good results, and will not be jealous of them. If you can achieve excellent results, it is worth being very happy.
However, in fact, is this really the case? not necessarily. In real life, those who are often commended are not happy. When a person achieves results, they are often jealous. For the jealousy of others, on the one hand, we must treat it objectively and not disturb ourselves; on the other hand, we should treat it with kindness and find and draw things useful to ourselves from cynicism. At this time, you may wish to calmly think about it, how did these rumors cause it? Is that right? Some counter-ear sarcasm may also talk about their shortcomings, sometimes more to the point than the pleasant criticism, hitting the point; even if it is a completely groundless gossip, there is no need to be angry, may as well take it as a warning, as self-encouragement and encouragement. As the saying goes: "The body is not afraid of the shadow oblique, and the foot is not afraid of the crooked shoes." Believe that what you are doing is righteous and bright, positive energy, and you will not be frightened by the jealousy of others. Otherwise, lack of self-confidence, doubts, and self-disturbance are bound to worry, and it seems that the rumors of the outside world should be endured. If you want to get rid of the pain of being jealous, the most fundamental thing is: your own mind should be wide, the amount of gas should be large, do not worry about the words of others, still maintain a frank attitude to get along with people, even if you are jealous of your own people, you do not have to be alienated, maybe others' jealousy of you will also disintegrate; gossip and gossip will no longer have a market, because people know who you are, and unrealistic remarks are naturally untenable. Virtue can carry things, help others can be happy. If people have good thoughts, the heavens and the earth are wide. Don't look at yourself as high, there are people outside the people, there is a sky outside the sky, humility is an attitude, reflecting a kind of cultivation! Put yourself in the right position, not in his position, do not seek his own government; fame and fortune are all smoke clouds that pass the eyes, it is temporary, it is long-term to be a person, and people must have a mind like the sea.
You should understand that your achievements are inseparable from the help of others. In the success and honor, do not snub everyone, do not be proud of the credit, honor is to some extent everyone to achieve together, if not modest and low-key, it is indeed easy to attract the envy of others. On the contrary, sincerely thank everyone, let everyone share the honor together, and be humble, you will get the support and support of everyone, so as not to cause jealousy. Jealousy is a kind of psychological hatred for those who are stronger than themselves in terms of character and talent. If this is actually a psychological imbalance, then this imbalance often leads to the emergence of various contradictions between people, which in turn affects the friendship between people and the harmony of society. Man and crane are protective. The "Idle Cloud Wild Crane" life is not good. Cranes are monogamous, and once male and female are paired, they will never abandon each other. The lone crane has a low status, usually alone, and cannot walk with the crane group when migrating. Overnight in the habitat, the lone crane is responsible for standing guard and patrolling. It is a chore, and when it comes to foraging for food during the day, the cranes often drive away the lone cranes, especially when food is scarce. Therefore, people have strengthened the protection of the old, weak, sick and remnant cranes. The human crane is harmonious, the species status is adjusted from "endangered" to "vulnerable" crane protection is increasing, behind the change in the number, is the improvement of the relationship between the crane. "Everyone knows that cranes are protected animals by the state, and they have to go to jail for hunting, and they dare not and do not want to hurt them." But there is always the attention of outlaws to fight the crane. In the past few years, due to drought, the water level has dropped more, and the wetlands in some areas have dried up, affecting the habitat of birds; the crane habitat is mainly wetlands, and more water and less water will affect their activities. People are all high-level animals, all have wisdom, have their own thinking, have strength, have desires, and who wants to be subservient to others? The crane is also like this, the crane is reluctant to dance with the chicken, and some cranes are helplessly hurt.
A crane stands in the middle of a flock of chickens, and the flock rarely "holds the stars and the moon", but they will be dissatisfied with this beautiful crane. The greatest sorrow of a "crane" is to "stand out from the flock." A crane stands in the flock, and the more outstanding the crane stands out, the stronger the resentment of the surrounding chickens towards him will be. Why? The biggest sadness of a "crane" is that the excellence of this crane just highlights the mediocrity and even unbearableness of the chickens around it. Cranes do not know what people say about chickens, there is a "small belly chicken intestine", the surrounding chickens, when they find that they can not change the status quo, or lazy to change the status quo, they will be "ashamed of themselves" and jealous of the crane. Jealousy, the chickens around them came to attack the crane. The "crane" could only swallow his breath. After all, the potential is weak. Chickens are reluctant to accept "cranes", and having "cranes" will only stimulate their sensitive nerves. The most secure way for the crane to stand in the flock of chickens is to "taoguang and raise obscurity", hide its advantages, and let yourself behave like a flock of chickens. In this way, it will not be "attacked by the crowd". The greatest sorrow of a "crane" is that those who "stand out from the flock" will be assimilated by the flock at any time.
That is to say, if the surrounding environment is not good, even if you do not feel different, you will be subtly affected. Similarly, if a crane coexists with the flock for a long time, then it will be negatively affected by the flock even if it does not perceive its own changes. At first, the crane found in the flock that people visited the crane, the chicken must call, and any movement of the crane had to be supervised by the chicken, which was difficult for the crane to accept. The greatest sorrow of a "crane" is to "stand out from the flock", but it accepts it calmly, but the crane is a crane, it will dance at any time; he will not care that the chicken can not fly, the chicken's specialty is that the rooster will crow, and the hen will lay eggs. When the crane has been with the chickens for a long time, it will gradually find that its behavior and behavior with the chicken are more and more similar, and he no longer feels rejection or even numbness to the selfishness and small belly of the chicken. When he looked back at himself, he suddenly realized that he was almost exactly the same as the chicken. There is a kind of crane that can "come out of the mud without staining", this crane is a crane that is good at reflection, a crane that is good at knowing itself and correcting itself. However, constantly reflecting on yourself to resist the erosion of the external environment is the most energy-consuming and will cause great internal friction. So, wise cranes tend to choose to stay away from "chickens" or be different from chickens.
It is better to stand in the flock than to stand in the flock of cranes. why? "Learning is like sailing against the current, if you don't advance, you will retreat." Once a person does not think of making progress, then, it will soon be much worse than before. The greatest sorrow of a "crane" is to "stand out from the flock", so the best destination for a crane is the "crane flock". In the crane group, his vision will be opened, and he will also be able to get to know more excellent "cranes" to "learn from each other's strengths". Cranes, what is really admirable, is not their ability and insight, but their positive, self-improvement, and humble qualities. It is this quality that we want to learn, let us move forward bravely, the year of the tiger, the tiger is mighty, more and more excellent. The fastest way for a person to grow is to walk with the "crane". In the company of "cranes", we are becoming more and more sophisticated. The crane enjoys a lofty position in Chinese culture, is a symbol of longevity, auspiciousness and elegance, and it is also the most noble bird among birds, representing longevity and wealth. We want to learn like a crane, which symbolizes holiness, elegance, longevity, and makes a good impression on people. Author: Li Shimin