"Break up and say I love you again": Deng Lixin and Fang Lishen perform "Ten Years Itch"

According to common sense, when the marriage life that has passed the "seven-year itch" is ushering in the tenth year, the husband and wife should be full of harmony and love as before. But Ye Nianchen's "Break Up and Say I Love You Again" focuses on a young couple who have escaped the "seven-year itch" but can't stand the "ten-year itch". In the film, Deng Lixin and Fang Lishen play such a couple. In fact, the two people do not have much difference in status, otherwise, they would not have spent ten years together.

This is a grassroots couple, Fang Lishen is a small boss of a real estate agency, the business is not good or bad, everything is business as usual. Teresa Teng is a senior employee of the wedding planning company, and her career is flourishing, and she is very good at work, which is quite important to the boss. The friction and contradiction between the two is not a burden of career, what is it? Director Ye Nianchen uses his extremely sensitive sense of life to accurately capture the trivialities of the lives of ordinary people in Hong Kong. In short, both parties have a sense of boredom, lack of life, coupled with the lack of children as a bond, and the woman's strong personality, which finally makes this ten-year marriage precarious and on the verge of bankruptcy, which makes people sigh very sadly

In real life, such cases are not uncommon. For example, under heavy pressure, one of the men and women will always be critical of the original normal life or pick the bones in the egg, and the other party is neglected or not good at explaining, and the misunderstanding caused by trivial things will inevitably accumulate deeper and deeper. The reason is mainly because the two sides lack the necessary communication and rational communication. Although this can be used as an excuse to prevaricate and perfunctory with the excuse of "all old husbands and wives and exchanges and communication", to tell the truth, even relatives and family members need to communicate and communicate together, and they must be on the basis of maintaining equality between both sides, and one party must not be above the other. Otherwise, like Fang Lishen and Deng Lixin in the film, they will wake up when they break up, but it is not too late.

So how to avoid the "seven-year itch" or "ten-year itch", or what kind of ways and methods should be used to face the marriage crisis? In addition to the above-mentioned equal communication, it is equally important to absolutely trust each other and be good at detecting the slightest change in each other's life habits, so that they will not lose the chain at a critical moment to lay hidden dangers for the crisis. It is true that the work is busy, but no matter how busy you are, you can't neglect the care and love for each other. Just like "Break Up and Say I Love You", the special date that should be remembered must not be forgotten, and the hobbies and habits that should be remembered must not be mistaken, otherwise the marriage crisis will follow.

Marriage is not a matter of one person, nor is it just a matter of two people, but it is more about family, friends, relatives, and so on. If you are also like Fang Lishen and Deng Lixin in "Break Up and Say I Love You", have a strange father, a superb mother, an alternative sister, and a harsh mother (mother-in-law), then the possibility of a marriage crisis will be greatly increased. However, is it true that living in such a strange and exquisite family will inevitably encounter marital misfortune? Non also. The key is to understand and respect each other. Of course, this is easier said than done. However, in order to save the marriage crisis, no matter how difficult it is, there is nothing to fear. Moreover, more often than not, we are just because we can't put down our bodies and shelves. If you can put yourself in the shoes of others and look at problems on the opposite side, there are no unresolvable conflicts and contradictions in family life, just as shown in "Break Up and Say I Love You".

Since ancient times, this is common sense, how to read this sutra well, is the wisdom of life, but also the complementary result of emotional intelligence and IQ, which has been expressed in many films. The valuable thing about the movie "Break Up and Say I Love You" is that it not only poses the problems that occur in family marriages, but also cleverly analyzes the root causes and causes of the problems. At the same time, the film also shows ways and means to solve the problem. Moreover, these methods are very grounded, very life-like, operable, practical and very strong. And these presentations all witness to director Ye Nianchen's profound skills and sensitive sense of smell and insight into life. In many of his previous works, this obsession is also clearly expressed. As a director who pursues his own personality, "Break Up and Say I Love You Again" is a life sketch that Ye Nianchen once again borrowed the hands of love, marriage and family to dedicate to the audience, which is worth reading and reminiscing.