Southerners usually hold weddings in the afternoon and then eat in the evening, while in the north they usually eat in the morning and at noon, and weddings in most places in the north are in the daytime, and weddings at night are often regarded as second marriages.
However, Tianjin is different, because the marriage customs in Tianjin are similar to those in the south, all in the afternoon or in the evening.
In fact, the traditional wedding is held in the evening, the earliest wedding writing "dusk ceremony" is said to be held after dusk, and the custom of Tianjin is the same as the south, but also closely related to the special history of Tianjin.
Whether the wedding is day or night, the ancients attach great importance to the wedding, from the pre-Qin era, there are various clear regulations in the "Zhou Li".
The so-called "wedding" was first written as "dusk ceremony", the ancients believed that dusk is an auspicious moment, women belong to the yin, the so-called yang to yin, at this time to hold the wedding ceremony, is the most suitable for the yin and yang five elements of the law.
The "White Tiger Tongyi" of the Eastern Han Dynasty describes that the marriage is said to be a ceremony at dusk, so it is known as marriage.
Han Le Fu's "Peacock Flying Southeast" also says: After the dark dusk, the lonely people are fixed.
From the Shang Zhou of the pre-Qin Dynasty to the Yuan, Ming, and Qing dynasties, the vast majority of weddings were held after dusk and sunset, and this custom continued until modern times, and even in ancient times, getting married during the day was not in line with the rules of marriage customs.
The choice of the north to marry during the day was mainly changed during the Qing Dynasty, but the scope was not very wide.
During the Qing Dynasty, it was extremely believed in the so-called "auspicious time", in order to pursue the auspicious time, a large number of flag people chose to marry during the day, of course, not all, if the auspicious time is at night, it can also be married at night.
Empress Yehenara Jingfen of the Guangxu Emperor left home at twelve o'clock in the evening and arrived at the palace at 3:30 a.m.
During the Qing Dynasty, the pursuit of auspicious times has reached the point of speechlessness, which has also made many people accept the concept that weddings can be held during the day, and after the entry of modern Western marriage customs, it has further impacted traditional marriage customs.
To put it bluntly, the so-called "tradition" of daytime marriage is only one or two hundred years in modern times, and the traditional marriage customs of the mainland in the true sense are held in the evening and at night.
Tianjin, located in the north of the south city of Tianjin as the gateway to Beijing, but is a very special city, the history of Tianjin city was built in the second year of the Ming Dynasty Yongle, is the only city in China with a clear time to build the city, because Zhu Di in this south to launch the Jingnan became famous, meaning "Tianzi Jindu".
After Zhu Di moved north, he moved a large number of Huaixi soldiers and civilians north to the Tianjin area, and these people became the early residents of Tianjin.
Today's Tianjin dialect has formed a dialect island, because Tianjin dialect is not the same as the surrounding Beijing dialect, but it is similar to the dialect in suzhou in northern Anhui thousands of miles away, and it also stems from this history.
In the late Qing Dynasty, Li Hongzhang was designed to train a new army in Tianjin, and a large number of soldiers and family members from northern Anhui and northern Jiangsu were stationed in Tianjin.
After the dissolution of the Huai Army and the Beiyang Marine Division, a large number of soldiers from Jianghuai and their families settled in Tianjin, which greatly increased the proportion of south-born residents in Tianjin and greatly affected the language, culture and customs of Tianjin.
Tianjin is different from the wedding customs in the north to hold weddings in Tianjin, but also has its own exquisite: the dowry is taken the first day, the afternoon wedding is grand, the female guests all bring the happy word, and the father-in-law is worshipped four times.
According to the local marriage customs in Tianjin, it is necessary to come after twelve o'clock in the afternoon before the man can go to pick up the relatives, and it is best to marry the bride into the door before sunset.
Unlike the southern region, Tianjin people hold weddings at night, not because they follow the ancient etiquette, after all, Tianjin's cultural heritage is still much worse than that of northern cities such as Beijing, and it cannot be said.
The mainstream is still because the previous Tianjin people got married, and the time was too late.
Tianjin is a port city of land-sea intermodal transport, and many workers in modern times work during the day, very busy, and have no time to hold any weddings, so they have to postpone until the evening, and over time it has become a local cultural custom.
In fact, the marriage customs of each place are different, and a hundred flowers bloom in spring.
It is often heard that northerners say that it is strange for southerners to get married at night, it is a second marriage, while southerners feel that northerners are strange in the rush to get married during the day, as if they have not heard the saying of "cave flower candle night".
With the passage of time and the impermanence of the world, it is very rare for many traditions to be followed, but if they cannot be inherited, it is also impossible to do, for example, most of the three books and six rites in the past are now mutilated.
Whether it is a wedding during the day or a wedding at night, it is a custom in various places, and there is no need for any place to put a beak.
Although the Tianjin area is in the north, the local area is different from the custom of holding weddings during the day in other places in the north, but choosing to hold weddings at night like southerners, there is nothing wrong with it, which is also the local culture of Tianjin.