<b>Wen | Fan Xue</b>
Photography 丨 Wei Mian
Happiness is a book that is readable, a profound painting, a small spring, and happiness is a kind of touching, a deep understanding, and a sublimation in the depths of the heart. Leisure time with children, through the "Happiness Road • Parents Learning the First Lesson" education platform, and happiness hand in hand, together in learning and thinking, in parent-child companionship and co-learning, immersed in sweet happiness, grow together.
There is no small matter in children's education, and everything can be expanded into a good habit or bad habit for children. Therefore, in the school of "Establishing a Good Parent-Child Relationship", I understood that as a qualified parent, a good parent-child relationship is crucial to the child's current and future growth. The way parents and children get along will directly affect the interaction and communication between children and others. Because parents are the closest people to their children, their every move will subtly affect the child, so a good parent-child relationship has a major impact on the communication and getting along between children and others.
Parent-child relationship also affects the child's future personality formation, a good family atmosphere, let the child grow up in the family surrounded by love, will make the child have an optimistic and confident personality. If the family atmosphere is not good, it will make the child's psychology unhealthy, and there will be rebellion when he grows up, and even more serious consequences.
Parent-child relationship also has an impact on children's social interpersonal relationships, good parent-child relationship will make children feel loved, needed, accepted, will let children have a good heart. Naturally, children will also give back to society and others for their own love, so that children are good at communication and interpersonal communication.
So, I can't help but think deeply, how can we establish a good parent-child relationship?
Through the teacher's explanation in the video, I learned that to establish a good parent-child relationship, we must first respect the child's choice and do not "despise" the child.
Mr. Tao Xingzhi wrote in "Children Are Not Small Songs": "Everyone says that children are small, and who knows that people are careful not small. If you think that a child is small, you are even smaller than a child. "The so-called education, to give him as much respect as possible. On the basis of positive discipline, give him as high a demand as possible. Children grow up day by day thinking is also mature day by day, naturally there will be their own ideas and choices, parents to do is to listen to the child's ideas, do not blindly deny, let the child feel respected.
I have carefully read Yin Jianli's "Good Mother Is Better Than Good Teacher", she wrote on the cover of the book: "Mother is a friend, mother is a teacher, mother is the child's guide, and the difference in mother's education methods often affects the child's life." "If you want your child to become a person, you must first make sure that you develop in this direction yourself, and you must become such a person." 」 The most important "role" played by parents in the growth of their children in family education is "leading by example" and "imperceptible". Communicate more with children, establish the correct three views for children, tell children what to do and what not to do, and through their daily life of "leading by example" and "hearing and seeing", set an example of positive energy for children, not to mention blindly scolding after children make mistakes.
Speaking of Yin Jianli, as an excellent family educator, I also appreciate and agree with one of her views on family education, that is, advocating that "family education" should be "intentional and traceless" - to teach children carefully, but also to pay attention to the natural tracelessness of educational methods, which is the most wonderful realm of education. We envy the excellence of other children, but it turns out that every child's excellence has a source - every parent with a heart may become an educator, so we must treat children with "heart".
Some people say that "companionship is the longest confession of affection", and we always talk about how much I love my child, but we can't give her enough companionship under the condition of life permits. I also often make excuses for myself, what work is too busy, too tired, go home and prefer to lie on the couch to watch mobile phones, watch TV. There are also many parents who "fight for their careers" who have always "justifiably" thought that "I am busy working now so that my children can have better living conditions?" "In fact, now that I think about it, no matter how busy and tired I am at work, I also have to set aside a little time for my children, because adults go to work during the day, children go to kindergarten, and children may only meet at night one day." We also never asked our children what they wanted, do they want more companionship or more toys and snacks? Toy snacks can be made up later, but the child's childhood time and growth moments cannot be repeated once. If the child is well educated, the future conditions can be fought for by themselves, and if you miss the best opportunity for the child's education, no matter how good the material conditions you create, it is not enough to splurge.
Spend more time with your children, interact with your children, come home from work every day, and in your weekend leisure time, let us put down our mobile phones and accompany our children more, even if it is to do games, read books, or even just a simple hug. Let us parents teach by example to subtly affect the physical and mental development of children, so that children grow up in being loved and learning to love.
If a child is like a jade, it depends on how you carve it. I hope that new parents who have finished reading "Happiness Road : Parents' First Lesson of School" will also be a good mother and father who knows how to handle the parent-child relationship with their children after working hard.
<b>About author:Fan Xue</b>, graduated from Shandong Normal University in 2010 majoring in Chinese language and literature, and now works for Shandong Gaomi Rural Commercial Bank. He loves reading and writing, and likes to use words to record the bits and pieces of life.
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