Always be a little friend, the world's first cute.
This sentence is Miao Kexin's children's WeChat signature, thinking of her encounter, and then look at this sentence, the heart is really sad, such a cute child left like this.
Now there is a lot of speculation and gossip on the Internet, and what we want to know most is what the truth is?
Truth is so precious to the world. We often read fairy tales to children, replacing the understanding of reality with beautiful stories, but there are always dark corners in this world, so that children can recognize the truth and reality behind fairy tales early, and it is especially important to have certain defense and self-protection capabilities.
Today, we would like to recommend to you an animated short film called "Rebel Nursery Rhymes", which was nominated for the 90th Academy Award, based on the storybook of British author Roald Dard Dahl (the original author of the novel "Charlie and the Chocolate Factory"), with a Douban score of 8.7.
The story mixes a number of childhood fairy tales together to form a new fairy tale, bold ideas, unique, the story prototype is from the well-known "Grimm's Fairy Tales", the previous single independent "Little Red Riding Hood", "Snow White", "Three Little Pigs", "Jack and the Magic Bean", "Cinderella" these fairy tales exquisitely linked to form a new story.
Although these stories shatter the original beautiful and simple imagination, they have reshaped a rebellious nursery rhyme world that is closer to reality.
Part 1 Little Red Riding Hood and Snow White
Little Red Riding Hood, who lives in the forest, goes to pick flowers every day and goes out to the city wall to sell, and one day she meets a little sister with blond hair surrounded by several guards, and she comes to Little Red Riding Hood and picks up the only green leaf in the basket, wipes her tears, and her guards give Little Red Riding Hood a gold coin.
The strange little red riding hood followed the little sister to the cemetery, it turned out that she was Snow White, and her biological mother had just died, and the seemingly sad king immediately threatened to marry a new queen, and everyone else was gone, leaving only Snow White still crying sadly in the cemetery, looking at the lonely Snow White, Little Red Riding Hood went forward and took her hand. Soon, the king married a queen who had a magic mirror that could tell the truth, and the queen would ask the magic mirror a question every day, "Who is the most beautiful person in the world", and the magic mirror also replied every day that the most beautiful person was the queen.
Ten years on, Snow White and Little Red Riding Hood have both grown up. One day, the magic mirror's answer changed, saying that the most beautiful person in the world was Snow White.
The queen sent the hunters to bring back Snow White's heart. In the forest, the hunter found the white snow with Little Red Riding Hood, and accidentally dropped the shotgun when taking away the snow, and Little Red Riding Hood, who picked up the shotgun, did not have the courage to pull the trigger and watched as the hunter took away the snow. Back at home, I found that my grandmother was wrong, it turned out that my grandmother had been eaten by wolves, and the wolf wearing my grandmother's clothes also planned to eat Little Red Riding Hood, but unexpectedly, little Red Riding Hood pulled the trigger and collapsed three shots.
And Little Red Riding Hood put on a wolfskin coat, carried a pistol, transformed into a bounty hunter to walk the rivers and lakes, on the way took the bank manager's order to kill the wolf who ate two piglets and was about to blow up, but found that the piglet who was the bank manager was greedy and full of lies, so she had an extra pigskin bag...
And in the end, did she find Snow White?
Part2 Cinderella and Jack
Who would have thought that Jack and Cinderella, who owned the Magic Bean, would be neighbors, and that Jack's favorite thing to do every time was to spy on Cinderella?
When Cinderella is bullied by her sister, she also steals her own favorite jam, and after getting help from the fairy magic, she dances sexily at the ball to attract the prince's attention. The prince is not a kind person, he has mistaken Cinderella's crystal shoes, the ugly sister put on the shoes and then thinks she is too ugly to cut off her head, and because Cinderella is dirty, he will cut off her head...
Then as a fairy tale, it still has a happy ending, although in this ending, Cinderella is not with the prince.
In the original "Rebel Nursery Rhymes", the author Dahl has a very unique narrative language, and the director hopes that the animation can also inherit and retain this quality. And in the original work, Little Red Riding Hood, Snow White, The Three Little Pigs, Jack and the Magic Bean, and New Dreira are used as independent stories. The first difficulty encountered by the creators was how to weave the seemingly unrelated stories in the original into a common world.
"We cut the verses off the pages, broke them down word for word, and began what we called a 'week-long comparison of reality.'" While respecting the timeline of the original narrative, they intersperse between poems and stories. We try to find a breakthrough in the small details to form a complete and exquisite story.
Part3 Warm Uncle Wolf
The most critical character in the story turns out to be a wolf, and this wolf's identity is the uncle of the two wolves killed by Little Red Riding Hood, and the whole story begins when he meets a fat lady. Who is this fat lady? What is the purpose of the wolf? What will he choose in the end? There are so many reversals in the story that make people shout to guess the beginning but not the ending. And this wolf uncle has also made many people his fans.
Seeing the end, the whole story is still quite warm, Little Red Riding Hood and Uncle Wolf stand opposite each other, and Uncle Wolf said: "Goodbye, Little Red Riding Hood" when he saw many people crying. Uncle Wolf, dressed in human clothes, chose to forgive and put it down, and Little Red Riding Hood in wolf skin looked stunned.
The whole story logic is very clever, a total of more than 50 minutes, if you want to see, there are ways to obtain resources at the end of the article.
Part 4 How to face bullying
After watching cartoons and returning to reality, you will experience more real human nature. When our children learn more about the truth of human nature, meet bullying teachers or classmates, understand their inner darkness, and understand that this so-called authority is not so beautiful, they may be able to truly resist the occurrence of unfortunate events.
Teachers who bully their students often disguise their abuse as education. They will shirk their responsibilities, saying that the victim has violated discipline and that he is only maintaining order; that he has accidentally lost his hand because he is provoked by provocation; that the victim has the delusion of being killed; that he is deeply responsible for love, and that his good motives are misunderstood...
In the face of the teacher, the student can neither fight back, nor ignore, nor escape – almost every option will give the bully a new excuse and put the student in deeper trouble. Bullied people are often difficult to escape, have nowhere to call for help, and are therefore traumatized.
Discussing the topic of bullying with children requires a lot of skill, especially for some invisible bullying (verbal abuse, etc.). We need to discern whether there is really bullying or just other conflicts or misunderstandings between the child and the teacher. Here are a few pieces of advice for you:
The first step is to control your emotions
It's normal to feel very angry when you learn that your child is being bullied, especially by an adult. But we need to control our emotions and don't let it erupt in front of the child, because it may scare the child and make it difficult for the child to tell you honestly about his problems. So adjust your emotions before you start talking about bullying.
Step 2 Dialectical Behavioral Therapy: Observation, Description
Once you've adjusted your mood, you can slowly introduce the topic. You can describe to your child what abnormalities you usually observe, for example:
"Mom/Dad finds that every morning this week you don't seem to want to go to school, and you tell Mom/Dad that you have stomach pains every day. Can you tell me why? ”
"Baby, Mom/Dad finds that you've been very unhappy lately every Sunday night, and sometimes secretly crying, can you tell Mom/Dad why?" Does it have anything to do with going to school on Monday? ”
Step 3 An equal, open communication atmosphere is important
This one sounds difficult, but it's actually quite simple. Psychologists often listen to counselors talk about happy and unhappy things when they work, which can provide important information for their diagnosis.
Similarly, we can try to share our happy and unhappy things with our children every day. Parents can honestly share with their children the less pleasant parts of their day and how they solve problems, as well as the process of helping children to improve their adaptability and empathy.
In addition, you can also use a variety of ways with your child to describe the scenes experienced during the day, such as drawing and writing, which can help you and your children establish an open and honest communication atmosphere.
Step 4 Tell your child that it is your responsibility to protect him
If a child is bullied, especially by an authoritative adult (teacher), he may feel that this is a shameful thing. At this point, it can be said:
"Mom/Dad heard that some children skip school because they were bullied at school. Have you heard of it? ”
When you tell your child this, your child may still deny that he or she has been bullied. At this time, you should ask some reasons why you think there may be a problem, discuss it with your child, and make sure that you will be on his side.
In addition, children can be encouraged to share their experiences by affirming the child, including: first, affirming that the child's emotional responses (shame, fear, etc.) after experiencing such events are normal and understandable; second, affirming that the child has the right to produce these emotions.
We can say to our children like this:
"A lot of people feel that being bullied is a shameful thing, so they don't want to admit it." And they also worry that if they say it, it might make things worse. Mom/Dad finds this feeling understandable, but it's my responsibility to make sure you haven't been treated unfairly. ”
How do I reach out to a teacher?
When you find that communicating with your child doesn't work, you can try to solve the problem from the outside. First consider taking your child to a professional psychotherapist.
Secondly, it is also a good way to take the initiative to contact the teacher. If it's not a very serious situation, many first-hand sources are often teachers.
Step 1 Ask some open-ended questions
Like what:
"My child always tells me that I don't like him, and I'm a little worried, I don't know what you think?"
Step 2 Ask the teacher for advice
Maybe at this stage you don't trust the teacher so much, but give him a chance to explain what happened.
As an adult party, the teacher will have a good grasp and understanding of the influencing factors of the evolution of the relationship between himself and the child. Maybe the child has violated discipline or clashed with the teacher, although these things do not mean that the teacher's bullying behavior is correct, but through these we can understand the whole incident more fully.
Step 3 Tell the teacher about the child's traits
Explain to the teacher the parts of their behavior that may affect the child, such as:
"My kids are more sensitive and have a lot of self-esteem. If you correct it individually the next time you have a mistake, it will be better than correcting it directly in front of the crowd. ”
Step 4 Show the teacher your next steps
After talking to the teacher, you can try to communicate with the school leader to monitor whether the teacher has improved. In addition, you need to make it clear to the teacher that all actions are aimed at solving the problem, not retaliation.
If the bullying behavior of the teacher is told directly by the child and is serious, then immediately inform the school to deal with the incident and communicate with the teacher.
Step 5 Record the information
After each communication with a teacher or school, it is important to keep the text or recording of the message, including the date.
The impact of bullying on children is very large, involving all aspects. A 2008 study led by the American Society for the Study of Child Development found that bullied children have negative effects in other relationships, such as family and friends, and a may study from psychological science, a subsidiary of the American Psychological Association, pointed out that men who experienced bullying in childhood had an increased risk of smoking and heart disease, stroke and high blood pressure in adulthood.
Source: According to Weibo, Douban, Fruit Shell Network and other information collation.
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