Once in love, everyone hopes that it can be a lifetime.
However, one day we will understand that there are always some feelings, even if you love, there will not be a good result, and in the end, each other will still be separated, and there will be no future.
Two people break up, if that is what each other wants together, they will be divided, and each other will only move forward.
Sometimes the other person wants to break up, but we don't want to.
In the face of this kind of unilateral breakup, we will want to keep, we will want to make the other party change their minds, which is normal.
We can't put it down, we can really do something, to see if each other can still have a possibility.
However, in this process, there are some behaviors, we had better not do it, otherwise, it will really seem particularly humble, and it will also appear very cheap.
With phone calls and messages, constantly bombarding each other.
I met a friend who, just when she was dreaming of marrying each other, her boyfriend just proposed to her to break up.
He was very determined, and after that, even soon after that, he was with other people.
In this regard, she can not accept it at all, has been calling the other party, has been sending messages to the other party, under the other party's various accounts, constantly telling the thoughts in her heart, as well as her inner grievances.
The other party blocked her, deleted her, she did not stop, but also kept changing the number to continue to do so, writing a variety of small essays, want to ask the other party for a statement, but also hope that the other party can still turn back, not so cruel.
She thought that she had said so much, so well-intentioned, that she would definitely be able to impress the other party, but in the end, it was only in exchange for the other party's indifference, and the other party's words were very contemptuous of her, hoping that she would not bother herself again.
When two people are in love, all kinds of contact with each other, and each other's various interactions, it will indeed seem very romantic, but when they break up with each other, too much news, too many words, it will really seem quite uninteresting.
The other party not only can't feel our intentions at all, but will only think that we are so annoying, and it is right to leave early.
Even said that the messages we sent to each other, the other party will not read at all, will only be directly very contemptuous, quickly cleared.
Stalking and stalking, all kinds of squatting behaviors.
Since they were once lovers, we will certainly know where the other person lives, where they work, and where they often move.
It is precisely because of this that sometimes, when we can't forget each other, we will always like to stay in one place and wait for the other party to appear.
We always think that this will appear to be very affectionate, the other party will feel very touched when they see us, and they will be soft-hearted, but we don't know, the feeling of being followed is really bad.
The other party will not only not feel that we are still because of love, but will only think that we are terrible, which has seriously affected his life.
A person who no longer loves us, even if he has liked us so much, at this moment, he will only hope that we can disappear quietly, not appear in front of his eyes again, and do not bring him any more troubles.
That feeling of being stalked, being watched, really makes him feel very uncomfortable, and it will become more disgusting with us.
Even said, when we are always like this, all kinds of obsession, he will only begin to doubt his former likes, think that he liked us in the first place, that is a mistake, completely look at his own eyes.
It is really embarrassing to entangle a person who only wants to leave, and it could have been a good gathering and dispersion, leaving a relatively good impression score, but later it will only have the minimum score.
Self-abandonment, constantly pretending to be pitiful to each other.
There are also times when, because of the breakup, we always seem to have no way to stay sane.
After that, it is completely like leaving the other party, and you will not be able to live.
Not eating well, not sleeping well, no longer going to work well, just being particularly decadent and doing nothing.
Sometimes, they even choose to take their lives lightly, in a way that they are unwilling to continue to live, so as to force the other party to appear in front of them, return to their own side, and let the other party give themselves another chance.
We always think that giving up our lives because of the breakup, even at the cost of giving up our own lives, is a manifestation of love, the other party will definitely be distressed because of our bleak appearance, will pity us, and then feel soft heart, and come back.
In fact, the more we do this, the more the other party will not feel pity, and only the more they will think that we are too useless.
No one will like a person who can't even bear the loss of love, so can't withstand any wind and rain, the other party will only be more convinced that their departure is right, fortunately not with us, but the consequences are unimaginable.
People who have us in their hearts will be distressed by our every move, and those who do not have us in their hearts have already returned to all rationality, and will only feel that everything we have nothing to do with him, and feel that they will no longer live well because of the breakup, which is very boring and humiliating.
Breaking up is a shame if that's not what we want.
But if this is what the other party wants, even if we are reluctant and unwilling, we still have to learn to let go and know how to be perfect.
Anyone who wants to leave, anyone who wants to keep each other, the more unwilling to let go of the behavior, it will often only appear to be more price-dropping.
In the adult world, we must be brave to love, but also to be brave to accept all separation.
According to the other party's wishes, return the other party's freedom, let the other party go to the place where he wants to go, live the life he wants, and let himself come out earlier and start again.
No matter who has left, no matter who has left, they cannot exile themselves, they must love themselves and live their years well.
When we can do this, nothing can knock us down, our lives will eventually get better and better, and one day in the future, there will still be a chance to meet a good love.
Text/Tan Meng
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