Author: Jin Shanyue Editor: Li Jin Produced: Marriage and Family Magazine id: hunyinyujiating99
Journal of Marriage and Family,
There are three things in life that I can't help but do: coughing, sneezing, and my love for you.
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During this time, Gao Yuanyuan, the "national goddess" who has been silent for 7 years, returned to the entertainment circle with her new drama "Perfect Partner" in a high profile.
At the age of 42, she is in excellent condition, bright and moving, and the radiance revealed by her smile is not inferior to that year.
In fact, regarding this comeback, Gao Yuanyuan admitted that he was also confused and anxious, and even did psychological construction for a period of time.
But it is not difficult for careful netizens to find that she can take this step steadily, in addition to being strong in her heart, she cannot do without the silent help of Mr. Zhao Youting.
Take this time into the group filming, people can always see the figure of Zhao Youting, often accompanied by his wife.
Zhao Youting's whole follow-up film was also once on Weibo's hot search, and he sprinkled a handful of dog food fiercely.
In the entertainment circle full of temptation and fame and fortune, this low-key star couple, like a clear stream, calmly spent the "seven-year itch" of marriage, and still maintain happiness and sweetness.
Someone on the Internet asked: "What is the true love you have seen?" ”
One gaozan replied: "After seeing the same scenery, there is always something to talk about, and I can always run side by side on the same track." ”
Marriage is a matter of two people, and no one can be happy without it.
Just like Zhao Youting and his wife, the secret of their happy marriage is nothing more than the same temperament, willing to go in both directions, and know how to complete each other.
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There is a kind of fate, called fate
Mo Yan once said: "Thousands of miles of marriage are tied together, and the feelings of a lifetime are all a coincidence." ”
We will meet 29.2 million people in our lifetime, and the probability of two strangers meeting is only 0.00487, so the possibility of knowing each other and joining hands with whiteheads is even more minimal.
But the destined man will not be scattered. It was as if there were a pair of hands in the darkness, carving themselves into the shape that the other person liked.
Gao Yuanyuan, a Beijing girl who grew up in the compound of the Ministry of Aerospace, has always been a well-behaved and sensible little daughter around her parents.
One day in 1996, when she had just turned 17, she went to Wangfujing to buy books, and her handsome and pure appearance was suddenly discovered by the scouts, and she was pulled to shoot an ice cream advertisement, officially opening her life in front of the camera.
Also in this year, Taiwanese entertainer Zhao Shuhai sent his 12-year-old son Zhao Youting to Canada, blocking him from the door of Taiwan's entertainment industry.
The following year, Gao Yuanyuan was favored by director Zhang Yang and filmed the movie "Love Spicy hot", and then successively received several advertisements.
When she was in high school, Gao Yuanyuan was already a veritable "campus star", but she seemed to have a natural immunity to vanity and fame.
During the 2000 Olympics, she quickly became popular in the streets because of the "clean mouth lozenge" advertisement. However, Gao Yuanyuan was like an outsider and continued to go to school step by step.
She never showed any desire to enter the show business, and did not enroll in any art colleges for the college entrance examination, but attended an ordinary university in Beijing.
Gao Yuanyuan has never deviated from the life trajectory of ordinary people, and in the same way, Zhao Youting, the "second generation of stars", has been living the life of an ordinary person for many years under the protection of his parents.
The Victorian city where he lived was small and had few people, but the climate was pleasant and quiet.
He often strolled alone along the seashore or waited in the yard for raccoons, squirrels and deer to appear.
More often, he would hide in the study, read Jin Yong's martial arts novels happily, and stage a scene of love and hate in his mind.
After growing up, Zhao Youting has always said that he has "no intentions" for life, there are many traditional things in his bones, and he likes a slow and leisurely life the most.
It was not until after graduating from college and returning to China in 2008 that Zhao Youting was discovered by director Cai Yuexun and made his first film in his life, "Hero of the Leper".
But after entering the industry, he showed the same indifference and freedom as Gao Yuanyuan, and became a tepid actor who wandered on the edge.
One of them said bluntly when rejecting Mango's "Sister Riding the Wind and Waves 2": "I can't participate, I don't have any talent"; one boldly admitted in a celebrity interview: "I am a guy with nothing special, no ambition, I love to watch movies and play games." ”
One of them debuted 25 years ago, still has the mystery of a fairy, and one labeled "Star II" and became a semi-reclusive Ranger.
As the saying goes, fate tricks.
Originally two people who were far apart and grew up in a very different environment, they lived into another self in a parallel space, which made people have to believe in fate.
Five hundred times in a past life, in exchange for the moment when they passed by, and only two people with similar breaths and similar souls could look back at each other and say with certainty:
"That's the person I'm looking for."
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Love that runs in both directions is the longest
Before 2011, Gao Yuanyuan and Zhao Youting were like two parallel lines, running on the track of the showbiz circle.
Gao Yuanyuan obviously ran faster, and when Zhao Youting was still in the micro, she had already gained a lot of attention with the role of Zhou Zhiruo in "The Book of the Dragon Slaughtering in the Heavens".
Therefore, when they participated in Chen Kaige's film "Exploration" at the same time in 2011, no one would have thought that these two people would stage a "dog blood" drama of "when a popular actress marries an eighteen-line artist".
There was a scene like this:
In the play, Gao Yuanyuan just broke up with her ex-boyfriend, and she was going to slap Zhao you ting with tears. The director said that it was okay to fake the fight, but Gao Yuanyuan was too deep into the scene and caused his emotions to lose control, and he really slapped Zhao Youting hard.
Afterwards, she looked at him apologetically, but she was greeted by Zhao Youting's open-minded smile.
These details, of course, did not escape Chen Kaige's eyes, he joked: "The male and female protagonists in this movie do not love each other, and it is difficult to tolerate heaven." ”
Later, when the film was announced, Chen Kaige ridiculed Gao Yuanyuan and Zhao Youting in front of two or three hundred staff members for using working hours to fall in love.
Zhao Youting smiled and acquiesced, Gao Yuanyuan shyly covered his face, and the deep affection in the eyes of the two could no longer be concealed.
However, their love affair ushered in an overwhelming "singing" sound.
Because Zhao Youting at that time was not famous, just an unknown Taiwanese actor, many people said that he was "high climbing" and labeled him as "soft rice king".
Once, when he was a guest on "Strange Story", the host asked him very directly: "My wife's salary is 3 times that of myself, should I still be together?" ”
In fact, it was not the first time that he had been forced to ask questions like this, and Zhao Youting answered solemnly every time:
"She's a very nice woman and I cherish her."
Zhao Youting was ridiculed miserably, Gao Yuanyuan was not much better, she was 5 years older than Zhao Youting, introverted, somewhat socially fearful, many people felt that she had found the wrong person, because Zhao Youting looked as stuffy as she was.
In this regard, Gao Yuanyuan confessed to the outside world that he was only like a child in front of Zhao Youting, and his desire to share was only left to him.
In an episode of the Venus Show, Zhao Youting responded to the question again, saying that although they looked stuffy, the two would "chat wildly at home."
Since the announcement of the relationship, no matter how loud the outside world is, they are in the world of love, shoulder to shoulder, holding hands, helping each other.
In 2014, Gao Yuanyuan and Zhao Youting entered the marriage hall.
On the day of the wedding, Zhao Youting said emotionally to Gao Yuanyuan: "I have finally found a very perfect woman, and you will always be the first in my life." ”
Gao Yuanyuan responded: "Finally waited for you, fortunately I did not give up, the place where there will be you in the future is home." ”
I like the saying: "Good love is never wishful thinking, but two-way traffic." ”
On the road of love, only if one person is willing to turn the direction and run to you, and the other person's courage to move forward, it makes sense.
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The best marriage is always to grow together and achieve each other
In 2019, Zhao Youting was on the hot search for "Painting Rabbits" in the "My Agent and Me" program.
This rabbit logo, which lasted 4 years, killed 67 versions, and even the designer team changed several waves.
And the most devastating thing is that Zhao Youting actually chose the first version after denying 67 rabbits!
He is so solemn about this logo only because "Rabbit" is a letter of engagement between him and Gao Yuanyuan.
That year, he gave Gao Yuanyuan a book called "Rabbit Knows Everything", symbolizing the beginning of their love affair.
Since then, "rabbit" has become the most common cute element in life, and has also become the logo of the public welfare project in which Zhao Youting participated.
In addition to lamenting Zhao Youting's seriousness, we also feel that after 5 years of marriage, he and his wife still maintain the sweetness of hot love.
However, their marriage has been undercurrent and, like most of us, faces a number of challenges.
The first is "birth", they have not had children for many years after marriage, which has caused countless people to ask: Why don't you want children?
In this regard, Gao Yuanyuan no longer remained silent, and bravely said in the documentary "I, 39": "It seems that this matter has become my fault, or it is a thing that I am not wrong with." However, I am not wrong. ”
Zhao Youting showed more calmness, and in the face of reporters' persecution, he would say lightly: Let nature take its course.
Coincidentally, in the year of "painting rabbits", they had their own daughters, but the mouth of Yo-Yo was still not blocked.
The wind of gossip is no longer aimed at the child, but returns to the old question of the year: Are you compatible?
At this time, Zhao Youting has become a first-line male actor with several major dramas such as "Three Lives and Three Worlds and Ten Miles of Peach Blossoms", "Di Renjie's God Dragon King", and "To Youth".
After giving birth, Gao Yuanyuan frequently broke out the "ugly photos" of the figure out of shape and the dirty face.
As a result, some people stood up and said: Gao Yuanyuan is like a nanny, and he is not worthy of Zhao Youting at all.
Compared with the "singing decline" when dealing with love, the couple invariably choose silence, they keep these voices out of the door, and they all return to life and career wholeheartedly.
Then return to your own world and have no worries?
For women, especially female celebrities, "aging" is the most terrible problem.
But Gao Yuanyuan, who is mentally mature, did not dwell on the word "old", but lived seriously. While studying health and even studying the Compendium of Materia Medica, she accepted this natural law that no one could change.
As she said: "Try your best to maintain, long wrinkles can't help." ”
Such open-mindedness and intellect cannot but be admired.
At this time, Zhao Youting, not lost in the highlight moment of life, he learned to take a step back, to refine his acting skills, polish the script, waiting for the next day.
This year, it is the 8th year of their marriage, and in these years, they have maintained a balance between family and career, and together they have created the "fairy couple" of the showbiz circle.
There has never been a perfect marriage in the world, only people who are infinitely close to perfection by virtue of continuous growth.
Love is the stepping stone of marriage, children are the bond of intimate relationships, but whether a marriage can be happy for a long time, in the end, it depends on the growth and perfection of two people.
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Over the years, the photos of Zhao Youting and his wife being taken by paparazzi are mostly their holding hands and hugging.
Whether it's a late-night road, a noisy airport, or a rambling crew, you can always see their gentle gaze at each other.
Their marriage is like a "middle-aged idol drama", but the plot does not lead to a vendetta and a chicken feather, but a perfect "perfect partner".
Whether it is a celebrity couple or an ordinary us, the process of love and marriage always has some similarities.
We all look forward to finding the "right person" in the vast sea of people, and we also hope that love is the condiment of poor life, and we pray that marriage can become a haven from the wind.
What we need to do is the same as Zhao Youting and his wife, that is, to treat each other with their true selves and sincerely and frankly.
May you, after experiencing love and marriage, be able to confidently say like Gao Yuanyuan:
"I was lucky to meet the right person."
Resources:
1. Interview programs such as "Strange Flower Conference" and "Venus Show"
2. Documentary "I, 39"
3. Zhao Youting, Gao Yuanyuan Weibo