Gorky once said:
"Truly great men, never abandon their innocence."
Indeed, if you are childlike, you can see the world in a whole new light.
And we who are confined to daily life are often disturbed by trivialities, because we are busy and lack a real perception of the world around us.
Day after day, we grow older and lonelier, more mature and more complex.
Revisiting Lin Haiyin's "Old Things in Seongnam", you will catch a glimpse of the precious innocence that you and I once had.
It is precisely because of this innocence that through the most ordinary people around you, you can see different stories and different lives.
The more innocence, the less prejudice
There is a saying that goes something like this:
"Maturity is easy, childhood is difficult."
Xiuzhen of The Hoi An Hall is the so-called madman in people's mouths.
The adults are disgusted, the children are afraid.
In the eyes of the childhood Hideko, this crazy woman, standing at the door every day with full anticipation and affection, eagerly watching passers-by coming and going, seems to be looking for and waiting for something.
Every time she saw the lovely Hideko, her expression was smiling and squinting, and she even stretched out her hand to hug Hideko, and then, she said with a sense of surprise:
"You're not my little Guizi."
The innocent Hideko is not like other children, blindly fearing and escaping.
She loves Xiuzhen's smile and reciprocates her with the warmest and sweetest smile.
Two times, they became friends.
The kind and gentle Xiuzhen, rubbing henna for Hideko, and talking with her in the small courtyard.
Eiko finally understands the tragic fate of this woman.
It turned out that her beloved man had abandoned him, and her newly born daughter was also thrown under the roots of the city wall.
For six years, there was no trace, no news.
It was this series of blows that made poor Xiuzhen become a god and angry.
Eiko sympathizes with this big friend and often visits her and listens to her tell the past.
Sometimes it was a confused memory, sometimes it was a sad cry, and Hideko listened quietly, giving her rare comfort.
Later, even more because of Hideko's full help, Xiuzhen finally found her own daughter, Xiao Guizi.
In the adult world, it is never easy to say two words.
Xiuzhen's fate is tragic and her life is pitiful.
However, few people around really know and care about it.
Everyone talked and quietly blamed her, believing that she had corrupted her customs and blamed herself.
Seeing her suffered and mentally weak, people were numb and disgusted, lest they avoid it.
But is this poor man really crazy? As the book says, she:
"Never like a real madman, he would pick up things on the ground to eat, and would beat and curse people for no reason."
The childlike Ying Zi, without any prejudice, is willing to go into Xiuzhen's heart and helps the poorest people around her with practical actions.
In the sea of people, we are busy and busy, and we have no time to take care of the people around us.
As the saying goes:
"We often weigh the pros and cons between choosing and being chosen. And the criterion for weighing is not because of love, but because of interest. ”
Our criteria for looking at people are not pure and objective, but secretly label conditions and identities.
Sometimes, we need to have more innocence, like children, to sincerely understand, brave acceptance.
Because, maybe your prejudice against others is just a misunderstanding.
The relationship you are obsessed with, the situation that you are struggling with, is lacking the honesty and courage to take a step forward.
When we have less prejudice, life will have a new interpretation, and life will have more insight.
One more innocence will be a little slower judgment
In the eyes of people with innocence, everything is so curious, and the people and things around them have become a window to understand life and observe the world.
In a nearby deserted garden, Hideko stumbles upon a big brother with thick lips and becomes friends ever since.
However, the big brother is mysterious every time he comes and goes, and repeatedly tells Hideko not to tell others about his whereabouts.
The eldest brother likes to tell stories to Hideko, tell his own story, and learn the story of his younger brother who often takes the first place;
Tell the story of his father's death, his mother's blindness, and his own struggle to support his family.
Together, they made a beautiful promise to go to the sea together in the future.
However, one day, the big brother was taken away by plainclothes police.
It turned out that he was a thief who stole a lot of other people's valuables.
Forced by life, in order to provide for his brother to study, he became a thief.
In fact, Hideko has long had doubts and doubts, but she is not sure of the truth.
But what she can be sure of is that the big brother is her trusted good friend, a good brother who cares for her younger brother.
Eiko said a thought-provoking sentence:
"Just like the sea and the sky I can't tell the difference, the good guys and the bad guys, I can't tell the difference."
However, can the good guys and the bad guys really be absolutely clear?
This thief is a good person in Hideko's eyes, he loves his brother and is thick and simple.
However, he is also the bad guy in everyone's eyes.
As we get older, the lives of adults become more and more complex.
The world is not black and white, either/or.
Many things, we can not conclude at once, we need to judge slowly.
It is precisely because of this slowness that there is space and time to grasp the process well and feel the truth.
Just as Hideko treats this big brother, between good and bad, between black and white, she does not distinguish and define, but chooses to cherish and accept.
Lao Tzu had this to say:
"Xu Qing, who can be turbid with stillness, and Xu Sheng, who can be calm and moving."
Between movement and silence, between turbidity and clarity, we need the patience to face and accept, rather than hasty accusations and judgments.
The world is difficult, just like Lu Xun's Kong Yiji, people only see him pretending to be Sven and embarrassingly stealing books, but they don't see the poison of feudal examinations.
There is also the movie "I am not a medicine god", the smuggling of drugs Cheng Yong, behind his personal test, but for the great good of treating more poor people.
So, someone said:
"Innocence is a rare way to liberation."
It is a constant reminder that no matter how hard reality is, it also contains soft parts.
No matter how hard life is, it also contains the possibility of happiness.
Be more innocent and learn to be perfect with love
In childhood, we always long to grow up fast and cut through thorns on our own.
In fact, we often overlook that as long as we have sincerity, even if we are young and weak, we can complete ourselves and others.
In Hideko's life, there are always many people who are sent to her.
Among them, there was a person who brought her warmth and enthusiasm, but quickly disappeared.
She is Aunt Lan.
Because of the marriage change, Aunt Lan went to Yingzi's house to live temporarily.
Her arrival brought a new breath to the family.
However, it was not long before Hideko keenly discovered that her father had developed a special affection for Aunt Lan.
The innocent Hideko felt a little uneasy.
She felt some kind of crisis in her mother's occasionally jealous words, and from her father's strange eyes.
Ying Zi thought of a way, she intended to match Aunt Lan and Uncle Dexian next door, and also created an opportunity for the two to meet.
Sure enough, the two of them fell in love with each other, and later they agreed to leave together.
Seeing Aunt Lan's departure, Ying Zi felt both unwilling and deeply relieved in her heart.
Every child has a natural adult beauty, they hope that the prince will save the princess, that magic will subdue the monster, that the family will be reunited with beauty and everyone.
At a young age, Ying Zi, with her childlike kindness and wisdom, single-handedly completed Aunt Lan, completed the family, and completed herself.
In reality, when we encounter problems and troubles, we are often deeply involved in them, becoming angry and unwilling, and always want to blame and complain.
When facing a conflict, instead of using a positive and extreme way to solve it, it is better to gently help the other party from the side, but to leave a retreat for both sides and complete their own dignity.
It's a kind of wisdom, a kind of simple "helping others, is helping yourself." ”
This is also the cleverness of adults, from the most simple innocence.
It is not childishness, it is not an escape from the end of the matter, but a rebellion against the gouge, a resistance to the light of darkness, and a warm insistence on the cold world.
Many times, we run all the way, pursuing our own happy life, but ignoring the scenery around us.
As the saying goes, life is not a lack of beauty, but a lack of eyes to find beauty.
"Old Things in Seongnam" uses childlike eyes to take us through the small things around the author.
It is precisely because of these small things that we have healed our hearts that have gradually lost our goodness:
The more innocence, the less prejudice.
One more innocence will be a little slower judgment.
Be more innocent and learn to be perfect with love.
The road is long, and no one can do without the shackles of setbacks and suffering.
Things are difficult, and we don't know when we have become silent adults.
However, when we have more innocence, with the softest and truest heart, to observe and feel, to understand and act, life will be more beautiful and warm.
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