Everybody has those years, and it's especially tough.
Entering the society for the first time, he cannot find his own value among all sentient beings;
Running all day, the pitiful income is only enough to make ends meet;
Running like a top, I don't dare to stop, because stopping will only make me more confused.
We can't help but ask: If effort is the right direction, why do many times the results of effort not be satisfactory?
David, the protagonist of The Book of Errors, is an employee of a large company.
In the eyes of his parents and friends, he had a decent job and a good income, and lived a life of envy for others.
In fact, the company, though large, often defaulted on wages; the cost of living was getting bigger and bigger, and there was no longer a return to the carefree days of studying and hopeful for the future.
The stress of work, complex workplace relationships, the asymmetry of pay and income, piles of credit card bills, all kinds of problems are overwhelming.
As his parents grew older and his health became less and less optimistic, he never dared to mention his stress and troubles to his parents.
Rising in the workplace, making a lot of money, and having a happy family...
I don't know when these good wishes were replaced by the desire to survive, the anxiety of unemployment.
Frustrated by the pressure around him, by chance, David meets an old man who has taught him several important mistakes.
Live in a script that someone else has set for you
The old man, who was an actor when she was young, told David: "Others say that my acting skills are quite good, but it wasn't until I was 30 years old that I realized that I was just playing someone else's role." It may be normal for actors, but it's not for most people.
Everyone has a role to play, but this role is set by others for some unknown goal, and I am afraid that we ourselves have not noticed. ”
The old man takes David backstage to a play and watches the two actors perform according to the script of the screenwriter.
David began to reflect on whether he was trying to live according to the script set by others.
He thought of himself, overwhelmed by the pressure, in order to keep a job, and the meaning of keeping a job was not to disappoint the people who loved him.
What is his own goal?
"The easiest mistake people make is to live in a script that someone else has set for you without knowing it." The old man said.
Everyone's goal is unique, which is what motivates a person to move forward.
The clearer your goal, the closer you are to the day of realizing your dreams, and the clearer your goals, in order to gather in the right place and realize your dreams.
Let temporary setbacks become permanent failures
After David rethinked his goals, he had a clearer plan for the future.
He thought that if he wanted to create a career one day, he would need to accumulate a lot of experience and invest energy to learn.
After changing his perspective, the work pressure suddenly becomes different, and the test of a pressure will allow him to see his own growth. Instead of messing around in the mud, he pays attention to what he can learn from each day, and everyone he comes into contact with is a potential source of wisdom.
In order to start a career in the future, David pays more attention to positive things, constantly expands his contacts, and constantly learns new knowledge.
The experience of an entrepreneur has given him a deep inspiration.
The entrepreneur said: "I have failed and almost went bankrupt. ”
He sold a product, at first, the sales were very good, but then because of the lack of inventory, there was not enough money to buy; it was difficult to have inventory, and someone sold cheaper than him, and he did not make any money.
Another time, he made an e-commerce website, which was also on fire for a while, and then messed up again because of copyright disputes.
"In the beginning, I would spread my resentment on the people and things around me, because the bank fees were too high, the taxes took away a large part of our profits, the prices were too high, the employees were not dedicated enough, and so on. Later, I realized that all these people and things will not change for you, and all you can change is your own mode of thinking. ”
The excuse is to stifle the weeds of progress, and setbacks can make the seeds of opportunity take root.
No matter what kind of profession you are in, which company you work in, or which lifestyle you choose, you will inevitably experience failure.
When failure is in front of us, some people avoid dodging, some people are dismissive, and some people pretend that it did not happen, and one of the most common mistakes ordinary people make is to make temporary setbacks into permanent failures.
Someone has tried to do something, and when it fails, they give up.
Maybe he once spoke in front of everyone, and after experiencing a failure, he never dared to stand on the stage again; maybe he lost his investment and thought, "I'm really not good at money management"...
This way of thinking, like cement, will gradually solidify, and once it becomes stronger, it will be difficult to break again.
On the contrary, if we can adjust ourselves and get back on the stage after failure, we can often reinvent ourselves and change the status quo.
Think that the path to success is limited
David, who was clicked by many wise men, slowly became lighter and sunny.
Once, he met an artist painting on the street.
The artist invited him to actively paint on his half-painted paintings, and David was shocked: "I'm really sorry, I never learned to paint, nor was I the material for painting, I will only ruin your work." ”
The artist clasped David's hand tightly and shoved the brush into his hand, "The opportunities in the world are infinite, but our brains constrain our actions." Learn to break the inherent shackles and liberate yourself. Now close your eyes and see what you can create. ”
David began to brush, at first, he did not know how to draw, but after drawing for a while, he took a few steps back and found that the few strokes he had added were also good.
After the painting, the artist asked him an unexpected question, "If your life is a canvas, are you still satisfied with what you just created?" ”
"I wasn't really prepared, I just followed the feelings and drew towards clearer goals." David replied.
The artist introduced that in the first few years of painting, some of her friends around her were already famous, and she would often be jealous of them, compare herself with them, and feel that her works were not bad, but why was it not herself that succeeded?
Until she figured out a truth, people will have this sense of jealousy and anxiety, but in fact, they fell into a misunderstanding, thinking that the way to success is limited, there are only a few.
In fact, human potential is unlimited, and the path to success is unlimited.
Some people can achieve fame by selling paintings, and they can do other painting-related businesses, customize greeting cards, design ready-to-wear clothes, teach people to draw, and so on.
The success of others in one aspect does not affect their own potential and their own business, the only thing we have to consider is the limits of our own thinking and ability.
Don't live in the script that others have set for you, don't let temporary setbacks become permanent failures, don't think that the paths to success are limited...
The simpler the truth, the easier it is for us to ignore.
Socrates said, "The unexamined life is not worth living." ”
Can always examine their own way of thinking and behavior, know what they should do, what kind of person they want to become, so that our lives will not be muddy and wasted.
Author | Kale, write other people's stories well, live your own life.
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