Middle-aged people who are about 45 years old now, and many post-90s and post-00s have probably heard or sung "Nine Sisters". The pop song became popular overnight 27 years ago, and for a long time afterwards it became one of the most on-demand songs in karaoke halls.
The singer of "Nine Sisters" is Huang Hexiang, a sunny and handsome, enthusiastic big boy.
As a well-known pop singer in China, Huang Hexiang is now a national first-class actor in the China Opera and Dance Theatre, a winner of the China Golden Disc Award, and the first male pop singer in China to hold a solo concert in vienna's Golden Hall, with multiple platinum records.
At the beginning of the new year, Jilin Satellite TV's "Singing China" column did a special program of Huang Hexiang. Although Uncle Fan was once Huang Hexiang's college counselor, this program gave Uncle Fan a deeper understanding of Huang Hexiang, and his artistic experience and life story are worth learning from children and parents.
Self-confidence is a stepping stone in life
Huang Hexiang liked to sing since he was a child, which must be related to his birth in a literary and artistic family.
Children who like to sing must be extroverted and, in turn, confident. At least, Huang Hexiang was.
One year, the Oriental Song and Dance Troupe, led by the famous singer Wang Kun, came to Huang Hexiang's hometown of Pingdingshan City, Henan Province, to perform. After watching the performances of singers such as Ai Jing and Guo Rong, who were similar to his age, the teenager Huang Hexiang actually broke into the dressing room of the theater alone and found Wang Kun.
Huang Hexiang not only has a little fat guts, but also has a sweet mouth, he calls Wang Kun "Grandma Wang"; he not only has a sweet mouth, but also has a burst of self-confidence, and he introduces himself to "Grandma Wang". He pointed to Ai Jing, Guo Rong and others present and "blackened" them fiercely: "Grandma Wang, I think I am not worse than them singing!" As soon as these words came out, "Grandma Wang" and the people around her were amused. You may wish to make up for the scene at that time, do you want to calculate the psychological shadow area of Ai Jing and Guo Rong?
"Grandma Wang" thought the child was a little interesting, so she asked him to sing it. Huang Hexiang was also unambiguous, singing two songs in one breath in the dressing room, one of which was a yu opera excerpt.
Soon, the "Grandma Wang", who loved talent and cherished talent, recruited this singing teenager into the star student class of the Oriental Song and Dance Troupe. Entering the student class, Huang Hexiang found: "There are Ai Jing, Guo Rong, Chen Lin and other people in the class, and everyone else in the star student class is a star except me." ”
That year, he was 16 years old, his name was Huang Jing, and changing his name to Huang Hexiang was N years later.
To start the first step in singing art from the oriental song and dance troupe, a super-first-class national literary and art group, not everyone has this opportunity, "pie" can hit Huang Hexiang, in Uncle Fan's view, one of the top important reasons is his self-confidence.
Just imagine, if Huang Hexiang had an introverted and cowardly personality, he would never have done the "feat" of bravely breaking into the dressing room, and he would not have been able to enter the eyes of "Grandma Wang".
Therefore, parents should pay attention to the fact that the child's personality development is very important, and it is possible to knock on a door of life with self-confidence.
Of course, parents should also pay attention to the fact that cultivating children's confident personality is a technical job, which is not good, and self-confidence has become arrogant, which is also very annoying.
Having an opinion is a compass in life
In the Oriental Song and Dance Troupe, Huang Hexiang gained insight and laid a good foundation for his artistic path.
More than two years later, Huang Hexiang was faced with a "two-choice one" life choice question: is it to go to school for further study, or to realize his dream of being a singer? After several trade-offs, he finally made up his own mind: go south to Shenzhen! Because, he saw very clearly, the "Hong Kong Typhoon" struck, and the southern country at that time had become a hot spot in the popular music scene in the mainland.
In the south where popular songs are becoming more and more popular, Huang Hexiang has turned to major song halls like a fish, in addition to Shenzhen, he also went to Guangzhou, and even Haikou, and at the busiest time, he had to run four song halls in one night. Due to the hurry, he didn't even have time to change his costume when he transferred, and he rode his bicycle all the way...
The "South Drift" life made Huang Hexiang economically prosperous, and he bought many gifts for his parents in filial piety. When he returned to Pingdingshan and handed over all the money he had earned to his mother, Huang Mama was so frightened that she closed the door, turned off the lights, and asked him very seriously where did he get so much money? After learning the truth, Huang Mama hugged her son and cried bitterly...
Unconsciously, Huang Hexiang's "song hall years" lasted for more than two years, looking at his spirited son, Huang Dad, who was the deputy director of the Pingdingshan Municipal Bureau of Culture, calmly raised a question: "Is it your dream to sing this kind of small stage like this?" ”
A word awakens the dreamer.
Just in time for the Wuhan Conservatory of Music to open the first popular singing major in the country, Huang Dad told his son the news in time: "Your previous academic performance was also good, go to the test!" Obviously, Huang's father and mother wanted to have a college student in their family.
Not surprisingly, Huang Hexiang's professionalism was recognized by his later professional teacher, Associate Professor Yao Feng, then deputy director of the Acoustic Department of wuhan conservatory of music.
Successfully passing the art exam, Teacher Yao told Huang Hexiang that the department was trying to find a way to obtain special recruitment qualifications for him, so as not to lose the college entrance examination. Hearing this news, Huang Hexiang was not only happy, but also a little worried: What if the special recruitment qualification cannot be approved?
"It's better to rely on people than on yourself." Therefore, in the more than 4 months before the college entrance examination, Huang Hexiang calmed down and made up for the cultural class, and finally, he became a college student with excellent professional results and cultural results that exceeded the college entrance examination admission score line.
Four years later, when he bid farewell to the Wuhan Conservatory of Music with a bachelor's degree in popular singing and walked into the China Coal Mine Literary troupe, he had already set a number of firsts:
China's first pop singer to hold a solo concert in a regular concert hall; the China Records Director general published his first solo album "I Am Your Boy", the title song "You Can't Live Without You" made him accumulate a lot of popularity.
Recalling his early experiences, Huang Hexiang said: "My singing luck really turned from the day I went to college. He was glad he had taken the right step, because he felt deeply: "A person in the art industry, his cultural literacy determines how far he can go." ”
In fact, it is not only engaged in the art industry, but also in all walks of life. It's just a pity that many parents ignore it, and many children don't know.
Listening to people's advice is a shortcut in life
Huang Hexiang's artistic life, in addition to his own unremitting efforts, I have to say that he also benefited from the appreciation and promotion of Wang Kun, Yao Feng, Qu Xianhe and other artistic predecessors, and benefited from the guidance of his parents.
Huang Hexiang himself confessed that his parents were his guides, and Yao Feng and Qu Xianhe were his two nobles. Nowadays, even if a person reaches middle age, once he encounters a major problem that he can't decide, he will definitely ask Yao Feng, Qu Xianhe and for advice at the first time.
One of the most common mistakes many young people, including middle school students, is self-righteousness, and they cannot listen to the opinions and suggestions of others. This problem can be boiled down to one sentence: emotional intelligence arrears.
Huang Hexiang's emotional intelligence must be very high, and he is very good at listening to or absorbing the opinions of others, which makes him take many detours.
As mentioned earlier, he was able to decisively give up the small stage of making quick money and making big money, and instead enter the music school to devote himself to cultivation, thanks to listening to a word of advice from his father.
In fact, Huang Hexiang can become the first pop male singer in China to hold a solo concert in Vienna's Musikverein, which also stems from his mother's "stage question".
When Huang Hexiang became famous, Huang Ma, who had been working in the Yu opera for a lifetime, sighed: "Mom is a small actor, and she has been on this small stage in Henan all her life, and since you can sing, you must go on the big stage." Then, Huang Mom asked her son a question: "Where is the biggest stage in the world?" "Vienna's Musikverein!" Huang Hexiang blurted out, "Mom, you can rest assured, I will strive to sing a song in vienna's Golden Hall after the age of 50!" ”
Don't think that this is just to please his mother, for this goal, Huang Hexiang riveted enough. In 2011, Huang Hexiang, who had entered the age of confusion, really stood on the world-class music hall - the Musikverein in Vienna, Austria, and he did not just sing a song, but held a personal concert.
Although Huang Mama has been dead for 11 years at this time, he has fulfilled his promise to his mother and interpreted the original intention of singing at a higher level: to express people's joys and sorrows with songs.
Huang Hexiang's obedience is not only reflected in front of his parents.
At the end of 1995, Huang Hexiang, who had graduated from college, was in trouble preparing his second solo album, one song was "Follow Me Home" and the other was "Nine Sisters", he himself tended to "Follow Me Home", but he was a bit uncertain, so he found his mentor Yao Feng. Teacher Yao listened to his singing and decisively told him: "Nine Sisters" is more suitable for you, which is an opportunity to show your artistic strength!
Although Huang Hexiang himself prefers "Follow Me Home", he believes in the teacher's vision and has not given up on "Nine Sisters". Sure enough, "Nine Sisters", which is not the title song, became popular overnight because the style is not the same as other songs, and quickly spread throughout the streets, and the sales of the album in the first year of the original belt exceeded the 1 million mark, and later some people estimated that the total sales of this album exceeded 5 million copies, and the fans also firmly remembered Huang Hexiang. Speaking of this story, Huang Hexiang was glad to have listened to the teacher's words.
Therefore, in Uncle Fan's view, Huang Hexiang gave all young people a revelation: "I have crossed more bridges than you have walked", "I eat more salt than you eat rice", these old sayings are really not relying on the old and selling the old, other people's life experience and practice accumulation can be used as their own indirect experience, to obtain the effect of half the effort. If a young man is confident and assertive, but not stubborn, and can be as good as a stream, his luck will not be bad.
In short, Huang Hexiang's success is not accidental. The outstanding advantages and strengths he has, especially the advantages of his personality, determine that he cannot succeed or not. As a parent, it is particularly important to pay attention to the development of good character habits in children.