If love can't land on the ground and mingle with the chicken and garlic skin, it is probably difficult to last. Every time I saw that love was high, made pure and pure, touched others and moved myself, and finally seemed to be a failure.
A few days ago, I read the french writer André Giede's novel "The Narrow Door" and found a superficial truth, which is the above remarks. In fact, "Narrow Door" does not only talk about love, but also has a deeper meaning. But reading books, each taking what you need, is also very reasonable.
"Narrow Doors" was written in 1909 and was written more than a hundred years ago. In 1947, Gide won the Nobel Prize in Literature. The narrow gate, taken from the words of Jesus in the Gospel of Luke in the Bible: "Strive to enter the narrow gate." I tell you: There will be many people who want to go in the future, but they can't. Saying that "the narrowness of the narrow door does not allow two people to pass through together", so the novel obviously has a strong religious connotation.
It is said that Jerome has loved his cousin Alyssa since he was a child, and Alyssa has the same feelings for Jerome. At the same time, Alyssa's sister Juliet also fell in love with Jerome, and after some painful struggle and depression, she married and became a trivial woman. Not only that, but Alyssa also witnesses her mother eloping with someone... The gap between love and reality is so large that of course it will make people psychologically unbalanced.
Alyssa's love for Jerome gradually went beyond pure spiritual love. She prefers to express herself enthusiastically in letters, but it is difficult to be alone with Jerome in reality. Confused by reality, she turned to strict religion and became a woman who was far away from fireworks but lacked independent thinking. The two eventually drifted farther and farther apart, ending in a breakup, and Alyssa died of depression.
Some argue that the book is a reflection on fanatical religion, a tragedy in which love and freedom are difficult to reconcile. But as far as literature is concerned, I prefer to understand that Alyssa's excessive pursuit of the spiritual purity of love has helplessly made religion her home. When she pours all her love into the letters and refuses to meet Jerome, her love becomes a spiritual love that cannot be landed. When they cannot enter reality, tragedy is inevitable.
Where is the place to return if you can't love? There's only one place to go. Therefore, many people have failed in love, and they have seen through the red dust and gone out of the house.
Let's go back to the "superficial understanding" mentioned at the beginning and continue to make small talk. As far as love is concerned, the purity of the beginning is naturally good, but it is still necessary to become worldly and mediocrity as soon as possible, and life can be longer. The freedom of love should be only spiritual freedom, and to grow vigorously for a long time, it still needs to take root.
Alyssa and Jerome's love affair was "pulled too high" at the beginning. In their view, the love between the two was so pure that there was no distraction, so solid that they did not care about such an agreement as engagement. After separating the two places, they relied on warm letters to maintain their feelings. Most of the discussion in the letters is a profound exchange of ideas. It seems that the two are like-minded and extremely noble.
But love is a thing, if you can't see or touch it, no matter how many sweet words you write, in the end, it will become an empty imagination, and the experience will become more and more empty.
Simply put, although you love a real person, the other party has actually become a fictional person on paper. The real reality becomes the imaginary love, and the person who can be touched has also become the imaginary look. Once it becomes a reality, they can't get along. Therefore, when online dating was on fire a few years ago, there was a saying called "see the light and die".
I didn't expect that the novel 100 years ago had already realized this truth.
The narrow door is narrow, but it is a narrow door of the spirit. Love is not just spiritual love, it does not need to go through the narrow door, but to hold hands together through their own firewood door.
After reading this, Ji De will be angry when he sees it, right? Gide himself fell in love with his cousin Madeleine and then married, but the marriage between the two was only nominal. He was gay himself. Therefore, the separation of spiritual love from physical love was the greatest contradiction in his life.