Preface
Recently, a conversation in a TV variety show has aroused heated discussions among many netizens. In the show, a male guest said that he was reluctant to spend too much money for girls, believing that falling in love does not necessarily have to be measured by money. Another female guest admitted frankly that if a boy is not willing to spend a penny on himself, then it means that he does not really love himself.
As soon as this conversation was broadcast, it immediately caused a heated discussion on the Internet, and many netizens left messages to express their views on this topic. In fact, the topic of whether boys should spend money for girls in love has always attracted much attention, and in real life, there are indeed many people who have different opinions on this.
1. Should boys spend money on girls?
1. Some girls think that boys don't love them if they don't spend money on themselves
In many people's minds, boys should take the initiative to spend money for girls in love, which is regarded as a kind of gentleman's performance, and is also considered to be a kind of love and care for girls. Therefore, if some girls find that the boy is not willing to spend a penny on herself, she will feel very hurt, and even think that the other party does not really love her.
In fact, the formation of this concept has also been influenced by some external factors to a certain extent. For example, in some popular TV series or movies, there will always be a plot where the male protagonist spends lavishly for the female protagonist, which often leaves a deep impression on people and makes many people feel that this is how boys should express their feelings in love.
2. Money shouldn't be the only manifestation of love
Of course, there are also some people who have a different view on this, they believe that money should not be the only expression of love, but that true happiness should be based on equality and respect. In their opinion, both boys and girls should not rely too much on each other's financial support in love, but should learn to be independent and self-reliant, so that they can have happiness in the true sense.
In fact, the current society has paid more and more attention to the concept of equality between men and women, and has gradually formed a new mode of getting along with couples. In this model, whether it is financially or spiritually, it is to treat each other equally, support and understand each other, rather than simply and rudely using money to measure and consider each other's contributions.
2. Whether girls should accept money from boys
1. Some girls feel that falling in love is very expensive in itself
Of course, in real life, there are indeed many girls who don't care if the boy spends money for themselves, they feel that falling in love itself is already very expensive, and they don't want to measure each other's love through each other's money. In their opinion, being able to find someone who really likes them is actually happy enough, and everything else is not so important.
2. Reciprocate courtesies and do not want to be a burden to others
In addition, there are also some girls who have very good tutors and three views, and they think that in the relationship, the exchange of courtesies is the most important. Although in today's society, many people advocate equality between men and women, and believe that girls do not have to rely on boys' financial support to achieve happiness.
However, when boys spend lavishly on themselves, they also feel very uncomfortable and even feel that they have become a burden to the other party. Therefore, in order to avoid this embarrassing situation, they would rather choose to bear part of the financial pressure themselves than accept too much material contribution from the other party.
epilogue
In fact, both boys and girls have their own set of concepts and principles in love, and these concepts and principles are often influenced by family and society. In today's pluralistic society, there are indeed a variety of different values and concepts, and the collision and exchange of these concepts is also the driving force for us to grow and progress in our relationships.
Therefore, when we meet people with different concepts from ourselves, we do not need to demand changes from the other party, but should learn to respect and understand, recognize and accept different lifestyles and emotional expressions. Only on this foundation can we build a truly healthy and beautiful relationship, so that each other's lives can be enriched and better because of each other.