Wen | Nanyi girl
In a relationship, how to avoid wrongly loving someone? Emotional mentor Tu Lei once said in the show:
"Wholehearted dedication can be exchanged for touching, but it may not be exchanged for heartbeat." The companionship of getting along day and night may produce feelings, but it may not produce love. Don't lose your love. ”
To tell the truth, a love is not worth going on, the way to judge, in fact, is very simple; because, whether it is love, or marriage, are running to the word happiness, the so-called two-way love, only meaningful. If it is only one-sided payment, where is the meaning of this unequal love and perseverance?
When it comes to love, you must not lose yourself, lose your own love, love must understand the truth of three or seven points, three points of love yourself, seven points of love for each other can be; secondly, love choice people also have exquisite, unethical love, must know how to refuse, because, even if combined, it will not go long.
01 Online love Ben is now a big brother in the 45-year-old list, knowing that the other party is married and living together
The 24-year-old Ai Xiaoyu (pseudonym) could not imagine that her first love would be such a failure, and even her friends mocked her original choice: "My friends said that I picked one out of ten thousand miles and picked a garbage." ”
So, what exactly did Ai Xiaoyu's first love experience, and will it be described by the word "garbage"?
The girl wearing a mask in front of her, is Ai Xiaoyu, who lives in Wuhan, a few days ago, she rushed from her hometown of Wuhan to Changsha, as to why she was in such a hurry, it was because her boyfriend who had been in love with her for a year suddenly blocked all her contact information.
Ai Xiaoyu's boyfriend is named Wu Jun (pseudonym), 21 years older than Ai Xiaoyu, and Ai Xiaoyu did not expect that her first love boyfriend would find a man of the same age as her father.
What is even more bizarre is that Wu Jun is still married and has a daughter who is about to take the college entrance examination.
Even if the other party is married, has a wife and children, and is 21 years older, Ai Xiaoyu is still dead set on falling in love with each other, what is the point that makes her so insistent, and the other party is worth entrusting for life?
In this regard, Ai Xiaoyu told us that after the two of them met online for 4 months, it was not a relationship between men and women, and then met offline, the first time she saw him without any feelings, after separation, she was worried about Wu Jun and other girls ambiguous, at the same time, Wu Jun frankly confessed that the marriage was not happy, there was a divorce idea, which made Ai Xiaoyu feel that Wu Jun was sincere, and the two acquiesced to the love relationship.
"Women in particular are a sensual animal, they don't say so much like the law, they are very emotionless, stipulating that this is not divorced, and it is your fault that you are with him." 」
As for the age difference of 21 years, Ai Xiaoyu also had concerns at first, but she thought: "I thought it was good for two people to love each other, and I had enough to drink." ”
But I don't want to, I paid my true feelings, and after all, I still paid by mistake.
So, before the boyfriend Wu Jun pulled Ai Xiaoyu's contact information, did the two have a conflict?
Ai Xiaoyu told us that when the two were in love for the ninth month, Ai Xiaoyu moved from Wuhan to Changsha and lived with her boyfriend Wu Jun, one night, taking advantage of the fact that her boyfriend Wu Jun was asleep, Ai Xiaoyu looked at each other's mobile phones, and accidentally found that her boyfriend Wu Jun gave a female anchor named Wan Feifei a lot of gifts, as well as adding each other's contact information and sending many red envelopes.
The transfer amount ranges from 520 yuan, 1314 yuan, 3000 yuan, and the number of times is extremely frequent.
Therefore, that night, he woke up his boyfriend Wu Jun and asked for an explanation, and the boyfriend Wu Jun explained that the other party was financial, but Ai Xiaoyu still did not believe it, where is the amount of red hair sent such an "ambiguous" amount? Therefore, the two had a big fight, and afterwards, Ai Xiaoyu ran back to Wuhan and wanted to calm down for a while.
As a result, within a few days, her boyfriend Wu Jun blocked her contact information and ruthlessly abandoned her. Now, Ai Xiaoyu has come to Changsha and wants to find her boyfriend Wu Jun in person and ask if he really abandoned her.
02 List Big Brother: I am morally corrupt, she can sue me!
It is reported that the 45-year-old Wu Jun is a small leader of a construction site, after some inquiry, we found Wu Jun himself at a construction site, however, after a few days, when Wu Jun and Ai Xiaoyu, a couple, met again, Wu Jun's expression. Appears unusually cold and heartless;
Wu Jun directly said that he did not know who Ai Xiaoyu was, and there was no so-called love relationship with Ai Xiaoyu.
Until the second question, Wu Jun explained everything, it turned out that Ai Xiaoyu was a female anchor of Douyin, and Wu Jun brushed gifts to Ai Xiaoyu, and later, Ai Xiaoyu took the initiative to add the WeChat of the "big brother of the list" Wu Jun, the two sides developed from ordinary netizens to online love, and later Ai Xiaoyu came to Changsha from Wuhan, and the two lived together.
During the period, Wu Jun was mainly responsible for peripheral work at the construction site, he explained to his girlfriend Ai Xiaoyu to copy some of the transfer records of his mobile phone, and then used this as a blackmail to let him give 50,000 yuan to Ai Xiaoyu as a sealing fee, and the relationship between the two sides broke.
In this regard, Ai Xiaoyu denied it, claiming that her boyfriend Wu Jun was lying; she confessed that her boyfriend Wu Jun was not just an ordinary boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, when the two people lived together, Wu Jun's colleagues knew about it, and during the cohabitation period, Ai Xiaoyu was also pregnant with Wu Jun's child.
Later, because of her boyfriend Wu Jun's financial situation and marital status, Ai Xiaoyu gave up giving birth to the child; Wu Jun took her to a small clinic and miscarried the child.
Afterwards, because the operation was not done well, Ai Xiaoyu felt some discomfort in his body, so he went to the hospital alone to do a check-up, and found that there was a risk of cervical cancer, but her boyfriend Wu Jun ignored it, at the same time, Ai Xiaoyu also found that Wu Jun and her relationship, but also had a male and female relationship with another woman named Wan Feifei, and in a rage, she returned to Wuhan.
In order to prove that what he said was not false, Ai Xiaoyu took us through a search and saw Wan Feifei himself; Wan Feifei also explained everything.
She and Wu Jun met at a cocktail party, and later, Wu Jun kept giving red envelopes to Wan Feifei, and Wan Feifei agreed to be Wu Jun's girlfriend.
At that time, Wan Feifei also knew that Wu Jun was married, so after the two had been dating for a while, Wan Feifei could not see the future and decisively broke up with Wu Jun, and there was no contact since then.
From Wan Feifei's mouth, at this time, Ai Xiaoyu completely knows what kind of person her boyfriend Wu Jun is, and feels that the reason for the failure of this first love is all due to the problems of Wu Jun's character.
Finally, Ai Xiaoyu made a decision, said that he wanted to see his boyfriend Wu Jun again, made a break with him, and asked for a part of the compensation, as a result, Wu Jun did not give a good face, but said that all this was Ai Xiaoyu took the initiative to get close to him, as for his married identity, he also lived with Ai Xiaoyu to engage in male and female relations, he explained that the house was rented by him, purely Ai Xiaoyu voluntarily, from Wuhan to Changsha.
In this regard, the reporter could not bear it, directly said that Wu Jun's morality was corrupt, did not think, Wu Jun did not feel guilty at all, but said on his toes: "I am morally corrupt, she can sue me!" ”
At this point, Ai Xiaoyu finally woke up, regretting that he was desperate to fall in love with Wu Jun, because he was pregnant and miscarried for him, but he was ruthlessly abandoned, because the other party was married, and she was the third party who destroyed the marriage, not protected by law, and this failed first love ended at a tragic cost.
03 The author's emotional summary
As a third party involved in the marriage of others, Ai Xiaoyu cohabited together knowing that the other party was married, and from a legal point of view, Wu Jun's current wife can hold Ai Xiaoyu and Wan Feifei responsible;
Even, the original wife can also ask for the money that the husband Wu Jun spent on a third party in the extramarital affair, because the money is the common property of the husband and wife, and as a legal wife, she has the right to control and ask for it.
Therefore, in the process of male and female interaction, women must not go to be a third party, once found, it is extremely easy for people to lose money and money, and they also end up in a name.
So, from the emotional dispute between Ai Xiaoyu and Wu Jun, what have we learned as bystanders?
If you want a high-quality love, you must polish your eyes to observe, don't know that you can't do it, and do it, especially don't interfere in the marriage of others; good love begins with appearance, conformity to the three views, and loyalty to character; look back at the men who betrayed the marriage contract in the past, and there are several, not to go to bed and promise a lifetime, and to get out of bed and face ruthless.
Men cheat, but want to find freshness, someone once said, men cheat once is countless times, just ask, marry a man who betrays the marriage, is not responsible for the family, will the marriage be happy? It's just a matter of following in the footsteps of his ex-wife and being abandoned again by men of poor character.